"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I dont think I want to be with my GF anymore

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Been with her officially 4 months. Everything's fine, no real issues, I just don't really "feel it" anymore, i'm bored, I don't have the same feelings, and im losing attraction to her, physically, and sexually.

I feel like I want to dump her. I have no idea how, what I'd say, or what the reason would even be. Shes very much in love with me and this will crush her.

Not spinning any concrete plates either at the moment which sucks.

Feel pretty bad about it all.

Advice guys?

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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this happened with my GF, i dragged it on for another 2 weeks and it was horrible. I just ended the relationship and never looked back. Just tell her you want to end it, say you just dont want to date anyone right now. You dont have to give a reason, you dont even have to meet up with her.
 
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it's really simple: "this is not working out anymore". That's it.

but people in general keeping suffering because they forget that every relationship is temporal and clinging to what's familiar make breaking up more confusing.
 
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Just end it. Bad news does not get better with time. I know it sucks, and truth is this never gets easier. Think of it this way.... The sooner you break it off the sooner she can start looking for a guy that will want to be with her.

But break up like a man. Set aside enough time to do this properly. Truth is she likely already knows you are planning this... they always know.
 
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In an ideal situation she would want to break up with me. Then it'd be mutual. I was thinking about maybe going distant for awhile first, maybe this would soften the blow?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I did that once years ago. Looking back it was kind of a sh*tty thing to do...but I just wasn't feeling it. So I kind of went distant. She had a few thirsty orbiters and started seeing one of them. So it ended. But looking back I should have just sacked up and ended it with her first.
 
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You just gotta do it, man. It'll drag on forever if you don't. Remember, if she weren't into you she'd drop you like a hot potato without giving two fücks, as all girls do. Not worth being unhappy, man.
 
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cheers for the advice guys. Has anyone been in this situation, stuck it out, and it was fine?

Shes gunna join the gym in the new year and we have a few ideas for dates which will be fun. some hope?
 
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