"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

I dont talk to Strangers

englishcrap

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Sep 21, 2002
Messages
332
Reaction score
0
Location
UK London
Last night I tried chatting to two girls and they just said "I am sorry but your a complete stranger " How do you turn this round into a fun conversation. I then said "Hey Relax just wanted some friendly chit chat"..she again but your a stranger I dont know you...at that point I didnt know what to say.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

Krassus

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 20, 2003
Messages
1,386
Reaction score
17
Location
Here
Want an honest opinion? This is what popped into my head after reading your post. In my experience, if girls see you as the kind of guy they could be with, they'll very rarely react like that (we're talking 1% chance). They may blow you off later on but they'll always give you a chance. I've done hundreds of daytime approaches and that has only happened a couple of times. With that said, i'm not saying that it happens to you all the time, but if it does, i would suggest adjusting your image. Dress like the kind of guys these girls are often seen with and your success rate with them will skyrocket. With that said, the only time i've heard that line used is when me and my friend did a direct approach on these two girls. Or rather, he approached one of them and i chilled with the other and watched. She told him about the stranger thing two minutes in and he kind of froze. I jumped in with "your girlfriend here was once a stranger too, right? she would still be one if you hadn't gotten to know her." It worked and he walked off with her number.
 

DjDreamer

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 6, 2003
Messages
574
Reaction score
3
Age
47
Location
3rd rock from the sun
Originally posted by englishcrap
Last night I tried chatting to two girls and they just said "I am sorry but your a complete stranger " How do you turn this round into a fun conversation. I then said "Hey Relax just wanted some friendly chit chat"..she again but your a stranger I dont know you...at that point I didnt know what to say.
They don't know you but they only talk to people they know (non-strangers)?

Well that's just catch 22...
 

stalluproar

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jan 15, 2005
Messages
234
Reaction score
0
Age
49
Location
Twin Cities Metro, MN
Are you standing tall, slightly leaning back and confident?

Go up to them assuming they want you. When they say I'm sorry you are a stranger, say something in the effect of well yeah, I hope you aren't the type that I read about in the newspaper. Turn what she said to you around to her. That was an examle, come up with common things women say to you and come up with a default thing to say for each objection. If she is still cold, its better to move on and not waste your time or energy.
 

Diaoz

Don Juan
Joined
Oct 26, 2003
Messages
133
Reaction score
0
yeah, I kindda agree the most girls wouldn't respond in sucha way if you're acting right.
Dress Properly
Good Body Language etc.

but...

there are instances when girls say that when they are testing you because they are simply picked up all the time.

so yeah, come up with some C&F in response. stalluproar's come back is good.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

Read more...

SELF-MASTERY

Banned
Joined
Dec 15, 2004
Messages
1,971
Reaction score
7
What they meant was that they don't talk to guys like YOU. There was something about you that they didnt like...Dont get all neurotic on us, SOME some women are like this....bi&*((es
 

DjDreamer

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 6, 2003
Messages
574
Reaction score
3
Age
47
Location
3rd rock from the sun
Yep...they were not turned on by you because if they were turn on by you they would've made it their duty to get to know you better...
 

Francisco d'Anconia

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 10, 2003
Messages
15,481
Reaction score
65
Location
Galt's Gulch
You guys need to stop trying to memorize lines and actually listen to what women say to you. You're screwing up because you're too busy trying to figure out what to say next instead of listening.

Think about it, what should you do if a woman says that you're a stranger and she doesn't know you????

INTRODUCE YOURSELF!!!! :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:
 

Black Panther®

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 12, 2005
Messages
75
Reaction score
1
Location
Miami (FL)
never happened to me, dam u most look like a serious killer or something;)

i mean just say " well everybody you know were strangers at one point, we most start somewhere" then just extend your hand and be like " my name's (Don Juan)" (please do not say don juan lol)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

duke007

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 12, 2003
Messages
765
Reaction score
0
Age
42
Location
Melbourne, Australia
Remember that song from the Simpsons?

"A stranger is a friend you haven't met"
 

DjDreamer

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 6, 2003
Messages
574
Reaction score
3
Age
47
Location
3rd rock from the sun
Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
You guys need to stop trying to memorize lines and actually listen to what women say to you. You're screwing up because you're too busy trying to figure out what to say next instead of listening.

Think about it, what should you do if a woman says that you're a stranger and she doesn't know you????

INTRODUCE YOURSELF!!!! :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:
LoL... well it seems like the solution to that problem was so seductively simple...
 

englishcrap

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Sep 21, 2002
Messages
332
Reaction score
0
Location
UK London
Thanks Guys, I guess its one of those situations where u panick and think too deeply on how to respond.

Originally posted by DjDreamer
LoL... well it seems like the solution to that problem was so seductively simple...
 

Alpine

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 21, 2004
Messages
1,576
Reaction score
3
Location
south west, uk
Yeah,

Your initial appearance wasn't good enough.

It's just a polite way of saying fvck off I'm not interested in you.

They would have talked and gigled with a really good looking axe murder/rapist and invited him home.

To answer your question another way, with a question/rebuttal.

Yeah, I sort of understand what your saying, and can you remember the last time you met someone you didn't know, and they turned out to be an absolutely amazing, warm, interesting person?

The idea is more to get them to think about that person and suddenly they realise that everyone's a stranger until you get to know them.

If you get a no. I'd tell them they need to get out more.

Don't forget the initial eye contact and body language. All the non-verbal attraction stuff. This is more important than anything as you are less likely to get rejected before you even open your mouth.

You can also do some C&F like, yeah, mammy always told you not to talk to strangers, I just thought you were a big girl now that's all. (smile)

or

Well, as you can see I haven't got those hangups.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

sfalexi

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Apr 12, 2004
Messages
381
Reaction score
0
Age
44
Location
NJ
Out of curiosity, why would you even WANT to continue talking with someone who says, "I don't talk to strangers"? How old was she? Eight? Nine? Cause that's about the last time I remember actually thinking I'm not supposed to talk to strangers.

She's obviously just being a bitxh. F_ _ _ her. Her loss. Move on.

(Damn censorship. Making me find alternates so you can understand what the hell I'm trying to say)
 
Top