Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I don't know what to say to this...

The Master Disaster

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This isn't a huge thing, but I don't know what to say to this.

Basically, I drive a really nice car. A VW Touareg to be exact.

Touareg: http://gallery.carreview.com/data/car/570/medium/vw_touareg2_01.jpg

It's fully loaded. GPS, 6 Disc CD-Changer. big screen in the dash, leather seats... blah blah blah.

But when women get in my car, they look around with surprise and shock. Then they say, "WOW! NICE CAR!"

I don't know what to say to that, so I just say, "Thanks..."

Then this is where the real question comes up. They ALWAYS ask this or a slight variation on this, "Are you rich?"

I most the time I say, "No." Sometimes, I'll jokingly say, "I dealt crystal meth for a brief period," but they'll just say, "No, really why do you drive this?"

But they are never satisfied, why is this poor-college student driving a $50,000 car.

I mean I'm not rich. I just drive a nice car. How do I come off okay from this?

I don't want women to think I'm a rich guy. I'm just a 20 year old who drives a nice car... How do I get them to be okay with that? They just have something in their head that doesn't add up, and it bugs them, or they convince themselves that I'm rich...

I'm almost at the point where I'm going to go trade it in for a damn civic.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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mtlwlu

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Speaking from experience, I drive a Mazda R X8, so its a "flashy" car too. Im in university as well, and since I live within walking distance to my school, I usually walk, and all the bars are within walking distance, and since drinking and driving is against the law I walk as well... Anyways point is, the girls get to know me first, and never know about the money initally, only after they pass MY tests, I line up a date, and needless to say, they are quite impressed.

use the car to your advantage would be my advice, shallow? probably, but in university its a time in your life where you learn and have fun without any "major" consequence.

and as my Don in first year said...

"if you have a car in university... it acts as your third ball."
 

Gia Giovanni

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Um... I don't know what to say when guys say, you look great getting out of that car.

.....thanks?
 

Fleshy99

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I think their reaction is something that might be able to tell you alot about them but it shouldnt be a reason for you to trade in the car.
If they react and are annoyed by it then honestly they need to get over it. I think you'd be better off with someone open minded enough to accept the fact that you have a nice car and you're not very rich.

I for example like driving in my Mitsubishi Montero Sport XLS from 2000 which is still pretty nice, when everyone else is driving like a beat up civic or something. The fact that I wash it might say alot about me in general.

The point is this is not something you should be fretting over because its a mental block for some of these girls, then just find a smarter girl who understands the word that are coming out of your mouth when you say "this is my car" and "I'm not at all rich" and doesnt get phased by it.

Dont let a women get in the way of the luxuries of your life, plus I'm sure no matter how much money you have a woman would feel pretty good about stepping into that car.
 

Gia Giovanni

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Fleshy99 said:
Dont let a women get in the way of the luxuries of your life, plus I'm sure no matter how much money you have a woman would feel pretty good about stepping into that car.
Unless:
she has more status than you
you left your junk in the back seat or it's dirty
you creep her out
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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