I don't have much experience and don't know what to do

[curiouscat]

It has been a while since my last post, I have completely stopped trying to approach girls for several months but the last 3 weeks I have tried again. I only tried to talk to girls here and there and I never tried to be to sexual but the good news is that today I was sick of it and it paid off.
I saw a girl during my lunch break and I went for it by being more direct, I didn’t expect anything and I was surprised to end up with her number ! (I just asked for her number on purpose, I don’t want to start communicating with Facebook and all this cyber crap, I want real human interactions)

Now the question is what to do ? I was thinking about calling her tomorrow to offer to see her at a café this weekend but maybe that would be to boring?

I’m still amazed how easy it was, I have also noticed that I have the best reactions from the girls I am attracted to the most.

 

[VladPatton]

You know what to do...the cafe thing is good. Meet her, let her talk, be cool, calm, collected, then jet when things are at their best. It'll be hard, but she'll want a second date. Don't drag it out. Leave her wanting more.

If you feel things are going well, kiss her at the end. You don't have to lick the roof of her mouth, just make sure lip to lip is achieved.

Do NOT begin to overthink anything before it happens.

Keep grinding forward and good luck.

 

[curiouscat]

Thanks,

I will call her tonight to tell her I would like to see her this weekend, I guess I will pick a cafe we can go to an afternoon.

I also don't want to tell her too much about me or even talk too much before we even meet again, do you think it is a good approach ?

 

[LMFAO]

Set a time limit on how long you are in the cafe. I've made an AFC common mistake once of spending over an hour talking with a girl on a first date. Guess what the next time I called she didn't pick up (it's seriously like going to an interview with a retard). Don't make the same mistake. Be smiley and friendly, tease her a little bit (if you actually fancy her) and get on to a bit of kino. Don't go for the kiss close unless the signs are there or if you can't help yourself and neither can she.

 

[curiouscat]

so past the time limit I just leave ?

 

[curiouscat]

ok so turns out she has a kid, I will still see her this weekend but I'm not looking for anything serious so I have my doubts about this whole thing, it might not be the same for her. I guess I will see this weekend.

 

[curiouscat]

Finally I think I'll cancel it, it seems like too much trouble

 

[VladPatton]

If she's attractive, just go for the sheer experience. You maybe pleasantly surprised. If she wants a no frills relationship just to bang a few days a week that's a win also. If she's not all that then pass, but do keep your fun-options open.

 

[curiouscat]

I know but the thing is she said she will need to find a babysitter and she lives 45min away from where we will meet. Maybe I'm overthinking it but I would feel bad to make her go tough this trouble for a guy who doesn't even want something serious if that is what she is looking for.

 

[pdx1138]

Set a time limit on how long you are in the cafe. I've made an AFC common mistake once of spending over an hour talking with a girl on a first date. Guess what the next time I called she didn't pick up Don't go for the kiss close unless the signs are there or if you can't help yourself and neither can she.

I did all that one time 2 years ago. (date went on WAY too long and I forced a kiss close and it was VERY awkward)

If I'd kept it short, not kiss closed, I'm certain I could have escalated better on the next date. She was hot too. Damn.

Never again.

 

[curiouscat]

So I've had no news from her, she was supposed to call me today to confirm for tomorrow but I had no news. I tried to call her but I had her voicemail.

I don't don't know what made her change her mind, anyways, maybe it was for the best.

 

[Kbomb]

Dude, just keep going until you don't give a $hit, about any of it. Then you will master the zen of the entire dating thing.