I dont have a clue anymore????

[wj-mchster-92]

This girl i hang around with a while back told me that she fancied me, and i admitted i liked to her also (which was true but i didnt like her that much, compared to what i do now.)

And we then really started to become pretty close in school and she flirted with me all the time! We used to text each other alot and flirt online aswell.. So i attempted to ask her out a few times on a kinda date, and she kept making excuses up and eventually i just stopped. But she continued to constantly flirt with me in school and online, then one night she told me online she "doesnt want to go out me, and we'll only ever be friends" which didnt make sence since as she told me she fancied me... and constantly flirts and hugs me... SO WHATS GOING ON THEN??? I THOUGHT.

So i gave up and we didnt speak or flirt that much for a while because i just kinda ignored her, NOW its started again a bit and we're flirting quite alot in school, she keeps on hugging me (BUT SHE ALSO HUGS BOYS IN FRONT OF ME ALL THE TIME ) i never hug her back but i just like accept the hug.. she is really on with me in school but then sometimes she'll just walk off when we're chatting and then come back or just disapear when im clearly free to chat too.. but then it comes to the evening she may speak to me online but seems abit off with me and doesnt speak much..

I do really really like her.. and i DO want to be more than just friends.. but this has been going on for months and im sick of all the mixed messages. Im just confused, i dont have a clue anymore!

HELPPPPPPPPP? GOT ANY TIPS OR ADVICE FOR ME PLEASE?

 

[rtb227]

tell her you're tired of the runaround. Say you either like me or you don't. If she says she does, you got yourself a girl.If she says she doesn't, you have saved yourself time and energy. also, if she says no, remember there will be other girls.

 

[jeffthechef]

haha..i think you're just miscomprehending her actions

two years ago...there was a girl just like that...touchy, flirty, talked all night, walked her home...all this afc ****

finally i decided to ask her out..she says no...two days later...goes out with another guy...i got all pissed and ****...but i realized it was my fault for being such an afc

what i would do in your position....play ganji games...i read this thread...if you search...you should be able to find it....but basically..
you give her the "silent treatment"...don't text, call , talk, make eye contact at all costs....if she says hi...respond but dont give her much...just say hi...and once things get quiet...you walk away...you show no interest....

IF she's truly interested in you....she'll ask you why you don't talk to her and all that...this is because she likes you...or she's just curious...

if she never does...she doesn't even care one bit

hmm...as to the guy above me...being direct is great...but if you simply go up to her and tell her to make a decision...you'll sound needy...direct is good though if you can think of a better way
BUTTTTTT HONESTLY....i don't think she's interested...if you've already tried asking her to hang...and she makes excuses...she's not interested..especially if she hasn't tried to make a sincere effort to reschedule

my afc friend doesn't listen to me when i tell him to move on...same situation as you...find other girls...and let this one play out without any more thought on your part

 

[CaptainJ]

I would say that you ask her out again, and if she says no, then you just say "Ok, Bye" and never talk to her again. Ganji it up. Cut all contact, for a while, until she starts to be come hysterical in wanting your attention.