"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"I don't give out my number to strangers"

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Are You Asking For The Number Or Telling Her To Give You The Number?

ChocolateVanilla said:
Hey guys,

A problem I've had when approaching girls every now and then is that after talking to them and building rapport, etc....I do a number close except they say "Um...sorry I don't like giving my numbers out to strangers" or "I'm not comfortable with giving my info out to someone I don't know too well". I always figured it was a nice way of rejecting someone or maybe it's some sort of test. Or it's just that they're not interested and I usually "NEXT" the girl. But in case it's some sort of test or something of that nature, what's a good response to something like this?

Your obviously not building enough rapport with the chicks. I'd suggest you post these particular sarges in detail. Maybe somebody will be able to pick out exactly where your going wrong.

Based on what you posted, my guess is that your ASKING for their number instead of TELLING them to give it to you. Never ask a chick for anything. All your doing is giving them a chance to tell you no.

When your learning sales, they'll tell you to ASSUME the sale. In others assume the person wants to buy, the same principle is true in number closing, ASSUME THE NUMBER CLOSE.

When you get to the number close do this:

ChocolateVanilla: Your kinda cool. We need to continue this. GIVE ME YOUR NUMBER. I'll call you.

After you say that, hand her a pen and piece of paper or whatever device your going to put the number on. Being that your telling her to do it and your putting the pen and paper in her face, she'll comply simply out out of habit. Try this technique and report back.

Also if a chick is telling you some bull**** about "not giving her phone number to strangers," she isn't interested. The nutstain **** doesn't know Justin Timberlake either, but I don't think she would have the same hesitation in givng him her phone number.
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I've had girls giving me their numbers and while telling at the same time that they usually don't give it out to strangers. Like, that's supposed to make me feel special or something ?
Meh.
 

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I usually say yeah but I just introduced myself, o we are no longer strangers, then smile back, and say something hey you never know, live a little and take a chance. If still no then i would say well ok, it was nice meeting you and dip out
 
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