I don't get this

[donjuanapprentice01]

I just found this forum, what a wealth of information!

Anyways, on to my question. I met this girl about months ago via a mutual friend. She is a wonderful person, 28 with a kid from a previous bad relationship. About a HB8. We hit it off really well, hung out quite often, etc...

Unfortunately, I was an AFC, and as a result, I told her how I felt about her. Basically said I liked her. She told me she didn't realize I wanted more than friendship, and that she couldn't say her feelings were mutual. She said her feelings could change, they had in the past. Basically seemed like a rejection to me.

Ever since that time though, she calls me constantly, almost every day. We hang out very often, we go to the beach, play golf, etc... We go dancing alot, and she grinds on me while dancing, etc....

I give her alot of Kino, be C+F, lots of eye contact, etc...

Anyways, she asks if I want to go on a trip with her and her friend, I say sure, why not. By the way, her friend is trying to get her to hook up with me, so this might be an important observation, because she says one room is enough and assumed that I would sleep with her.

So, what I'm asking is, do you think this chick is starting to dig me? I mean, why would she want to sleep with me if she had no interest in me, especially when she knows I like her.

 

[Vanilla]

It's obvious she's into you, I don't see a problem here.

 

[Tomb]

Only one real way to find out, make a move.

 

[flexion_]

Well you'll never know what the real deal is until you escalate... you have to go for a kiss at some point. Until then ... who knows...

 

[donjuanapprentice01]

Well, I went for a kiss last night, and didn't go too well.

She backed off and said "what are you doing?" and that "I must be really tired', lol.

So, I got my answer. Oh yeah, we didn't sleep together after all, just shared the same room because her other friend stayed with relatives instead.

So, what now? I'm going to tell her that I'm not going to be her friend, that I want something more and that our friendship won't last because I will be hoping for something more.

I'm going to tell her that I'd rather try dating and, if it doesn't work, breakup, rather than not trying at all. See what she says. Probably say no to that idea, aat which time i say "goodbye!"

 

[Austizzle]

Just leave her alone now break off all contact. Try to stay busy with yourself. Make her second priority or third or fourth or whatever. Just make sure you don't give her a lot of attention. Check out ganji games in a search, it may help. If she doesn't respond well then she wasn't really interested in you in the first place and she LJBF'd you.

 

[flexion_]

DON'T have a discussion with her. You got your answer - there is nothing to discuss. Move on - you don't need to explain that too her - you'll look like a chump if you do...

If you do it that way things may change someday down the road. If you get into a discussion about your friendship, life, the universe, and everything then expect major drama.

 

[DonJuanMonk]

She doesn't sound like much and her romantic feelings for you weren't mutual. Seems like a candidate for...NEXT.

 

[griffon65]

She rejected the kiss, definatly not interested. Move on.

 

[donjuanapprentice01]

Thanks for the replies, I'm definitley going to move on.

But, I am going to try gangi game on her, because i still believe she has some interest in me. What I want to do is take away her "friend" option. I'll still tell her I'll be friends, but I will not bother contacting her at all, and if she calls, simply not answer (i have caller id).

Worth a shot.

 

[Bloke]

You obviously hearing what you would like to hear. Like the rest of us have said, DO NOT DISCUSS your feelings & intentions.

You can still 'game' her though. Just make yourself not so available (which you obviously seem to be) & continue with the C+F, kino.

Still no results then...? The you have 2 options:
1.Remain as mates (with no hope of otaining her)
2.Remove relationship

 

[NINJA PIMP]

Originally posted by donjuanapprentice01
Well, I went for a kiss last night, and didn't go too well.

She backed off and said "what are you doing?"

LOL! Therez a great post on how to handle this response...checkit out

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?threadid=43174

you gotta sift thru the replies but you will find a good comeback for this scenario here.

 

[RBB]

Too bad I didn't get to you earlier. I don't know how old you are or what the circumstances are but I wouldn't be looking for a LTR there. The kid factor comes into play and is a BIG part of her life. So is her ex, in a good or bad way.

Tom Likus, the guy on radio, has scared me off from girls with kids. Look into it if you can. If she's "fun", sure you could stick around but don't fall into her trap. If it's friendship she wants, I can't see anything beneficial there unless you do not prefer spending your time doing better things. and women.