I don't get things like this

[The Comeback Kid]

I have not spoken with a HB 8.5 I once pursued in a few months. We clicked well, really got along, there was C+F and a little kino both ways, but things just didn't work out. She got sick before our first attempt at a date, the next time she flaked the night before, I smelled BS. She acknowledged we both have busy schedules (true) and perhaps the next time we run into each other, we can figure out something to do. Regardless, I tried contacting her once or twice shortly afterwards, but I couldn't reach her. Seems like she wants nothing to do with me, even though we seemed to really get along, there was C+F and a little kino going both ways, we have similar interests, etc. earlier in the year, before I made my move.

We attend a large school in a very spread-out campus, perhaps one reason we haven't run into each other. We simply haven't crossed paths. So I was surprised to receive an email from her today. Of course, this email was of the head-scratching variety, because...

...she didn't write anything in the email! Nothing. Blank. However, it was a forwarded message from her current Professor who we both had in the fall. The Prof sent his current students a link for a possible internship in our major. I could tell she assumed it was right down my alley (based on my interests, etc.), which is why she sent it along. However, it's not like she had to do something like this. She could have very easily done nothing - what's in it for her? Remember, she was the one who was hard to reach, and now she's kinda reaching out, trying to help?

I am still perplexed...she is trying to help me out by letting me know about a possible internship, but she writes NOTHING in the e-mail? We haven't spoken or corresponded or even run into each other in at least a couple of months. Am I supposed to even thank her for the e-mail b/c of the internship info? Do I just let it go? I've never seen anything like this before.

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

Hard to say what her intentions were, but maybe she's just trying to help you out and sent it to you because it's something you'd be into. It's not hard at all to forward someone an e-mail. Then again, she could be trying to strike something back up with you, but in a way that doesn't put her out there too much (i.e. low risk). Perhaps she's been lonely or attention starved lately and wants an ego boost from you again. There's only one way to find out, but do you really care? If she didn't give you the time of day back then, do you think it'll be different this time? We don't know her, only you do.

 

[Captain]

Don't make much out of it. She hasn't been showing much interest in you in a romantic sense.

 

[The Comeback Kid]

That's what I figured. The reason I am confused is because she didn't write anything - not even a hey, hi, etc. - it was only the link. While the thing she sent could be helpful, the fact it was otherwise blank seems a little un-personal IMO.

Could she be trying to start things back up? No idea, doesn't seem that way. As BucketofTruth said, I don't really care at this point though. If she uses this as a step and begins talking to me once again, then maybe we can consider things. However, that doesn't look real likely. The ego boost could be possible...maybe she thinks I'll be trying to spark conversation like we both used to do.

Do I even send a "thanks" e-mail? Is this e-mail worth any type of response? It's not like she's done any sort of thing like this before (not that it's anything big, but you know what I mean). It's nice on her part, but again, she didn't add any personal touch to it (no "hey" or "hi" or "I thought this could help"), so I really don't know what to make of it.

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

Do I even send a "thanks" e-mail? Is this e-mail worth any type of response?

I'd just ignore it. At the most you can e-mail something back like "umm... thanks." but really there's no point. If she is honestly trying to spark something up with you again in any positive way, then she's doing a terrible job and will need to work harder to do something worthy of a response.