I don't get MAD!

[PeterNorthisawesome]

I recently noticed that I really haven't "flipped out" or thrown a tantrum at someone in the past 2 years... a lot of people well mostly friends tell me I'm easy going and nice. I usually forgive people if I know them and usually get along with everyone. Like today I was cut from making the basketball team at my HS school and the coach told me I was too short and that I needed more effort to play for varsity, which cleary was BS cuz I was better than 90% of the kids and this short b*stard who couldn't dribble or shoot made the team. I should have punched him in the face, but instead I got up shook his hand and left! I've had 2 fist fights in the last 2 years. Does anyone else experiance this or am I just weird?

 

[rsxtreme]

you did the right thing.

 

[PeterNorthisawesome]

you did the right thing.

I just feel like I'm always getting taken advantage of cuz I let people disrespect me. I have NO BS towards every women I meet, which is one of the main reason they like me but for the guys especially friends I usually am "nice" cuz I care what they think of me. Sigh... I really should stop givin a f*ck what everyone thinks and do what I wanna do and find people who will respect me for it.

 

[rsxtreme]

yeah, people see you as nice they start to take advantage. thats when you put the foot down. you can be the nice guy and at the same time dont let anyone take your ground. either that or find people who do respect you, if they don't **** them

 

[Docs]

I haven't flipped out in 5 or so years. The guy was real lucky he wasn't anywhere near me when I beat the shiit out of a locker.

Anywho, not getting pissed off is a skill, a great one to have when it comes to real life and stress . Just gotta learn to stand up for yourself and not get used.

 

[PeterNorthisawesome]

Obviously I can control my anger well in certain situation it's just that stuff that piss everyone else off usually doesn't bother me.

Docs that was interesting can someone explain more on standing up for yourself and not gettin taken advantage of? It just seems when I'm not nice to someone I feel selfish...

 

[Scrumtulescence]

How tall are you?

 

[CactusMcDougal]

I used to be really bad about fits of rage. My AFCism got so bad in Middle School that I started about four fights in one day. Over the course of a week, excuse my crassness here, I got my @$$ kicked over twelve times in several fights. (At least from what I remember. Most of the fights I got in I either lost or bailed.) Needless to say, I was incredibly foolish back in Middle School.

 

[Docs]

Docs that was interesting can someone explain more on standing up for yourself and not gettin taken advantage of? It just seems when I'm not nice to someone I feel selfish...

Learn to say NO. Learn to present an air of confidence, take a joke lightly and be open to people. Don't do things for pity, or to possibly get a unmateristic thing back (such as a hug for doing that for her..aww!).

It'll come with time.

 

[PeterNorthisawesome]

How tall are you?

6'1

o well it doesn't matter it's the coach's loss anyways now I have more time to bulk up for baseball season.

I usually don't do anything nice to girls. I do favors to my friends cuz they're my friends. It's just that someitmes I'll be concervative and people tend to try and take advantage.

 

[diplomatic_lies]

Personally, I don't see the point of getting mad, or flipping out. It decreases your efficiency.

It doesn't mean I should let people walk all over me. It simply means I do my best to prevent emotions (anger, hate, jealousy) from clouding my judgement.

Don't you guys remember the old chant? Men are logical, women are emotional.

 

[BluEyes]

Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
Personally, I don't see the point of getting mad, or flipping out. It decreases your efficiency.

So if you come home at 9:00PM after a stressful day's work and find your girl straddling another dude in your bed, you wouldn't get angry? I guess you're right. It would definitely decrease efficiency.

 

[Precursor]

to be a DJ..understand that you must be angry, its ok to be angry, embrace it, being angry is normal, all human beings were angry at various points in their lives, just don't let it backlash.

"im gonna kill you b****" is not acceptable.

 

[diplomatic_lies]

So if you come home at 9:00PM after a stressful day's work and find your girl straddling another dude in your bed, you wouldn't get angry? I guess you're right. It would definitely decrease efficiency.

Well first I don't live with any girls, so that will never be a scenario. But even if my girlfriend cheats, what will getting mad achieve? I'd rather keep my cool and cut off all ties immediately, and go find a new girl.

I'm not saying ignore everything. There are times when you need to react. And all humans have emotions, so you're not going to turn yourself into a robot. But reactions should not be fueled by excessive emotions. When you apply at least 50% logic to all your actions, you'll find they become more effective and efficient.