I don't get it.

[tHe KInG93]

So why is it that girls enjoy talking to me, they will always flirt with me in person or via text and generally come on to me, text me everyday and yet still like some other guy?

This happens more often than not, it's like no matter what I do I'm still seen as a friend. And why is it that the guys who get all the girls just continue to get more and those who don't get them just continue to not get any? I've been trying to break this cycle for the past three years, I've read all these articles, and implemented the qualities into my personality while still being myself and yes, it has made me a more social able, outgoing, and friendly person but I still don't pull girls.

I have a friend who just continues to pull girls like its second nature and I ask what he does and all he says is he just tells them what they want to hear and there are other times where he says he doesn't even do anything, the girl comes on to him.

I feel like I have a handle on all of the other areas of my life except this. My grades are excellent, I have a great family, I play three sports but I haven't been able to figure this one out yet. Any advice you can give a guy like me? It's not even about getting a girl to make me happy, it's about proving to myself that I can get a girl, and I'm fed up with getting the same results time and time again.

 

[ENIGMA16]

This happens more often than not, it's like no matter what I do I'm still seen as a friend.

1. You're not being sexual/forward enough. If you're attracted to a woman then you have to let her know it.
2. You're listening to her bull**** (i.e. girltalk).
3. You're too timid/shy/nervous.

One or a few of those. Those were the only three I could think of off the top of my head.

 

[tHe KInG93]

i dont think the sex part is a problem...the girls even tell me they wana fvck and that ima freak but it never goes farther than her saying that.

 

[Senor Juan]

i dont think the sex part is a problem...the girls even tell me they wana fvck and that ima freak but it never goes farther than her saying that.

They say this? So just **** em.

 

[BlakeW5]

Are they saying they want to f*ck you or just saying they wanna get some? There's a difference. "I wanna get some" is something a girl says to her friends, whether that be another girl or a guy they know won't make a move.

JLay's right on this. It was a sticking point for me too. I got REALLY good at the social/draw them in part, just never had enough of the sexual ingredient. You'll figure it out, just gotta try. It's a balancing act between the two really. Too sexual too early and you scare 'em off, too late and you're got yourself a new friend.

It's kinda like hunting. You put in all this work to get a deer with a nice rack in range and finally it shows up (the social part). Now comes the critical part, you've gotta move (the sexual part). You've gotta raise that gun up and go for the knock-down shot. Move too much too soon and the deer sees it, gets spooked and runs off (you became "creepy"). Wait too long and deer hangs around for a bit before it gets bored and finds other deer-stuff to do. Hell you wait around long enough you might even get to pet the deer and hand-feed it (you've got a FRIEND YAY!). Then it tells you about all the other deer it wants to have sex with lol.

Not the best example, but just shooting from the hip lol

 

[Chrom3y]

Are they saying they want to f*ck you or just saying they wanna get some? There's a difference. "I wanna get some" is something a girl says to her friends, whether that be another girl or a guy they know won't make a move.

JLay's right on this. It was a sticking point for me too. I got REALLY good at the social/draw them in part, just never had enough of the sexual ingredient. You'll figure it out, just gotta try. It's a balancing act between the two really. Too sexual too early and you scare 'em off, too late and you're got yourself a new friend.

It's kinda like hunting. You put in all this work to get a deer with a nice rack in range and finally it shows up (the social part). Now comes the critical part, you've gotta move (the sexual part). You've gotta raise that gun up and go for the knock-down shot. Move too much too soon and the deer sees it, gets spooked and runs off (you became "creepy"). Wait too long and deer hangs around for a bit before it gets bored and finds other deer-stuff to do. Hell you wait around long enough you might even get to pet the deer and hand-feed it (you've got a FRIEND YAY!). Then it tells you about all the other deer it wants to have sex with lol.

Not the best example, but just shooting from the hip lol

Are you kidding me?? That's one of the best examples I've read lol.

 

[Nino-Tk]

It's all in your mind Bra, Control your mind and you control your destiny!

 

[It's-Me]

So why is it that girls enjoy talking to me, they will always flirt with me in person or via text and generally come on to me, text me everyday and yet still like some other guy?

This happens more often than not, it's like no matter what I do I'm still seen as a friend. And why is it that the guys who get all the girls just continue to get more and those who don't get them just continue to not get any? I've been trying to break this cycle for the past three years, I've read all these articles, and implemented the qualities into my personality while still being myself and yes, it has made me a more social able, outgoing, and friendly person but I still don't pull girls.

I have a friend who just continues to pull girls like its second nature and I ask what he does and all he says is he just tells them what they want to hear and there are other times where he says he doesn't even do anything, the girl comes on to him.

I feel like I have a handle on all of the other areas of my life except this. My grades are excellent, I have a great family, I play three sports but I haven't been able to figure this one out yet. Any advice you can give a guy like me? It's not even about getting a girl to make me happy, it's about proving to myself that I can get a girl, and I'm fed up with getting the same results time and time again.

It's just by the way he portrays himself.