I don't get it...

[aussiegoat55]

Alright, I have a problem that I need some help figuring out...

For some reason, not sure if its a good thing or a bad thing, but I like girls who first express an interest in me, flirting, laughing etc, so if they don't express any interest at first I am not attracted to them, even if they're smoking hot.

So given that I only like girls who give me flirting signals and such, I am finding there are a lack of girls who give these signals to me. As David DeAngelo put it, Sexual Communication, and he asked the same question[[ In other words, how do you get a woman to MAKE eye contact with you three times in a row? How do you get a woman to play with her hair while she's talking to you? This stuff sounded all well and good… except for the fact that women NEVER did these things around me!
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How would I increase these signals (without having to buy the book, haha)? I am trying to pinpoint it but need some help or a different perspective. In terms of my inner game, character, appearance, looks, personality, wit, body language, ...everything in those categories and are more are doing well. I row crew, work construction, train for marathons/triathlons, and am taking an auto mechanics class. The last girl I was with said I was an amazing guy, incredible, sexy, and that she had never met anyone like me, so I know how to interact with women, create attraction, but apparently not create too many interest signals or "natural gravitation". Some possible symptoms could be that I am not one of the involved, popular, "outgoing", preppy kids but I am not a loser/loner/misfit. I have this strong silence, not similar to a weak type of shyness but just observant and quiet, maybe interpretted as arrogant??? It just seems, women naturally graviate to other guys who are half the real good man I am and its frustrating how they have it so easy.

So the question is, how do I increase interest signals from girls? Instead of them being the first one to initiate and then me take it from there, should I initiate first? Or is my lack of popularity/repuation/strong silence in high school contributing? Thanks.

 

[MissionX]

Haha Ok, This made me cry just a little bit.

Most girls, Don't give a flying **** about Popularity/reputation or anything like that trust me :| Although most everyone in my city knows who I am, I'm not exactly what you would call popular. But how do I do it you may ask? It can be both challenging, and yet simple at the same time. From your post, you seem to lack Confidence. Yes confidence. It seems to be holding you back.

Next time you spot a HB tell yourself this in your head 5 times. "I am the man you want. I am the man you want. I am the man you want. I am the man you want. I am the man you want." Quickly, You should feel a bit more confidence, You just need to show her that you are interested. And that you want to get to know her. If you are a little confused but, in time you will understand what I mean. But until then, Get her talking, Build some game with her. Get her to talk about herself, there is nothing a girl likes more than to talk about themselves. For the most part. Ask them about anything literally. If you feel comfortable, ask her about her sex life, how many times guys have let her down, or what she is comfortable with (I always seem to hook a girl by talking about sex within 5 minutes of meeting her.) It seems to work out for me really well, it might work for you it might not, but experiment, see what happens, try and figure her out. There is nothing that flatters a girl more than when you "Want" to listen to what she is saying. But if you do listen you can find out things that might even help you. Say you ask her what she likes to do during sex. If she likes skin to skin contact, while biting on your ears, ****in keep that in mind. But for now, you just may want to see how far you can get by just getting her talking. Compliments do work. BUT don't over compliment or else you will be the almighty AFC.

How can you use the compliments to your advantage. Well, If you like how she smells. Say something like this. "You smell good" That all you need for a compliment. BUT You can also add on something like so.

"You smell good, What type of perfume is it?"

Opens up a question, once she answers ask her what colonge she likes a lot. and what she thinks of (Think of something to keep it hot. if you feel she is right into you, don't be afraid to either kiss her on the lips, or if she kinda turns away get the cheek and DON'T apologize.) Say something cheesy like, "Playing hard to get or something." OR "Damn this is harder than it looks" Gets her thinking a little, You can even get a little offended, and make it seem like she insulted you. Anything can work. You just have to keep it going, keep her mind going.

Mitch

(It's all a mind ****ing game )

 

[aussiegoat55]

I don't see what is so sad, I mean, I am pround of how much I have transformed and revolutionized myself,... but we're beginning to scrape the surface. I have gained a great amount of confidence in so many aspects of my life, I mean regardless of my join date and # of posts at sosuave, I began self improving since April 2006, I always had core character, integrity, discipline, ambition, success, determination,... but I think I am lacking in initiative to approach and just now I am realizing that I need to take action, seize opportunities, instead of waiting for them to come to me.

And all those other tips you gave, yeah I already understand and naturally believe that I am the catch, because I am real close to becoming my own personal image of the real man of strength, character, ambition, success, etc, just thought maybe the girls would come, maybe more so in college. I already dont overcompliment and I know how to make conversation, like I said those areas of my life are sound, I guess its the inititiave, its not lack of confidence because I wouldnt be nervous or run out of things to say.

So instead of having the women apporach me I think I'm going to need to make the transition of approaching and starting the conversation.

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

im honestly not going to read all of that... i read enough to get what youre saying... the old age question of: how do i get them to show interest first?

usually.... they won't

people are interested in people that are interested in them... they like it because that other person is paying attention to you... you like that right?
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why do you think those smoking hot girls are dating average looking dudes?

because most people would think the smoking hot girl would be taken already... but that lucky average dude gave her the attention shes been looking for. she likes the attention.

you should catch my drift... i've been away from this site for a while... i can't explain as good as i used to.

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point is... give her attention, flirt, and give teasing flirty compliments... you don't even need to know her THAT much... its all good and fun.

just do it.

 

[MissionX]

Hey hey You got it aussiegoat55 Iguess I wasn't much help there, Ohh innitiative :| Pretty Just walk up to some random girl and talk to her. It's all it takes really...