"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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i don't feel the pain

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"no pain, no gain." myth?

I've been lifting for about two weeks now. (i.e. benching, deadlift, curls, etc.) notice few muscles. however, when i work out i don't feel a little pain which people say you suppose to to gain muscle. my body fails before i can do another rep to feel that pain. what am i doing wrong?

weight: 150
height: 5'8
chest: 36
waist: 32

bench: 155 max
 

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Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

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Is this a serious question?

The "pain" isn't really pain, it's pushing yourself through fatigue, through uncomfortable areas.
 

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i mean, i don't feel sore after the workout. when benching, i know i can do more reps but my arms collapse earlier than i expected.
 

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lol but if your serious...

hey man your doing it all wrong from what it sounds like but im not a hundred percent. Hit me up if you want help.
 

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If you're eating enough and progressively adding weigh to the bar, you will grow. The pain you're referring to doesn't mean crap.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I think I see what he is referring to.

Usually, if you do a weight that's too heavy for you, you'll fail before your muscles even get a chance to act. For example, if you try maxing on a weight that's way too heavy.

When you bench, can you do 3x5 at 155? If not, lower the weight and do full reps, you'll feel the burn more. That's more efficient than failing all the time because you're doing weights that are too high.
 

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Yea dude the "pain" isnt supposed to be taken literally (unless there really is pain), it means getting through tough times and stuff
 

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Flabbergasped? said:
I think I see what he is referring to.

Usually, if you do a weight that's too heavy for you, you'll fail before your muscles even get a chance to act. For example, if you try maxing on a weight that's way too heavy.

When you bench, can you do 3x5 at 155? If not, lower the weight and do full reps, you'll feel the burn more. That's more efficient than failing all the time because you're doing weights that are too high.
thanks man. i took your advice. now, i feel the burn.

bench 3x8 at 130.
 

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do you only do one movement in the gym? So far you've given us your chest measurement and your bench max. If you worked some of the larger muscle groups you might get some surprising results :)
 

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Flabbergasped? said:
I think I see what he is referring to.

Usually, if you do a weight that's too heavy for you, you'll fail before your muscles even get a chance to act. For example, if you try maxing on a weight that's way too heavy.

When you bench, can you do 3x5 at 155? If not, lower the weight and do full reps, you'll feel the burn more. That's more efficient than failing all the time because you're doing weights that are too high.
Yep, words of truth.
The ego is the biggest limiter.
Something about the human mind is deluded into thinking there is more self-satisfaction in lifting 200 once than lifting 150 for 5 reps about 5 times.

We tend to get meserized by numbers, big numbers...I think you're not lifting consistent enough to feel anything.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

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dude04 said:
"no pain, no gain." myth?

I've been lifting for about two weeks now. (i.e. benching, deadlift, curls, etc.) notice few muscles. however, when i work out i don't feel a little pain which people say you suppose to to gain muscle. my body fails before i can do another rep to feel that pain. what am i doing wrong?

weight: 150
height: 5'8
chest: 36
waist: 32

bench: 155 max
that just because you are weak overall. Although benching your BW is a good goal, once you get rather along and gain more muscle control you will be able to 'feel the pain'.

it's been two weeks. Come to us when you have been lifting for a year and still can't feel it. Give it time.
 
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