I don't feel like hugging or kissing as a form greeting so what?!

[DJDamage]

I don't know maybe its just me but if I go visit my extended family or invited to someone's house where I know certain women, I feel apprehensive about the greeting part of it.

Like when I go over to my aunt's, I don't feel like hugging and kissing her on the cheeks, like other's who come into her house do. It just doesn't feel right but I still go along with it from time to time so I don't appear like a cold a$$hole.

Also I dislike kissing or hugging chicks whom I am not interested in or who I know do not view me in a sexual manner because I feel as if their greeting towards me is not really genuine (its fake) and everything is just for show (sometimes it almost feels like I am stooping down to their level and they pretty much cut my balls off when I do go out of my way to greet them like that). I mean with guys, I am comfortable with a good solid handshake but with women it doesn't really fly. If its a chick I am seeing then its no problem, I greet her with a good kiss on her lips.

Anybody just want to say fvck it to this socially contrived form of greeting?!

 

[azanon]

Do what I do. Don't initiate any of it since you don't like it, but allow it if they initiate it. No one says you have to squeeze hard or anything. Of course bending back if one attempts to hug you is going to be taken as rude.

 

[thedeparted]

I always offer a handshake. A lot of girls will prefer a hug. In which case you you just let them hug you. But you don't have to initiate that shlt. And unless you're in Europe you don't have to kiss anyone.

 

[azrael]

Do what I do. Don't initiate any of it since you don't like it, but allow it if they initiate it. . .

exactly ..uhh i thought i was the only one.

 

[Aragon034]

i think culture has alot to do with it.

Growing up spanish, i have no issues with kissing or hugging. it's as base as a handshake to me.

granted there are times it can get annoying. Especially if you've got a huge line up of people to greet you (especially around the holidays)