I don't feel it, but everyone else has labelled me arrogant!

[tim_n]

Everyone and I mean pretty much all of my friends and family have me chalked as highly arrogant and proud of it. The trouble is, I always feel I can take a step back on a situation, see if from a different angle and conquer it. This is also probably part of my arrogance. I'm in trouble because I don't recognise my arrogant traits and can do nothing to change them!

I do and I don't have a lot of self confidence. I'm the first to walk upto a stranger and say 'hi', insult them or chat pleasantly. I do tend to take an argument to the finest points, usually when I have no idea about what I'm arguing about and never let go, even when I'm loosing.

I can apologise, even when I'm not wrong.

So what makes me arrogant? And how the hell do I change it? It's definately something I've learnt as a social banner - just the ability to say something completely outrageous and stick by it to the end wins me friends, but not the elusive love of my life I'm seeking.

 

[spider_007]

Originally posted by tim_n
I do and I don't have a lot of self confidence. I'm the first to walk upto a stranger and say 'hi', insult them or chat pleasantly. I do tend to take an argument to the finest points, usually when I have no idea about what I'm arguing about and never let go, even when I'm loosing...................................just the ability to say something completely outrageous and stick by it to the end wins me friends, but not the elusive love of my life I'm seeking.

Saying something outrageous (stupid), and then sticking to it to the end???? no wonder they call you arrogant.

just stop trying to be center of attention, and let others lead.
be more humble.

 

[tim_n]

perhaps crazy enough to work :- )

Unfortunately, in my group, if I don't talk, no-one else does. Soon the social structure collapses and x starts kissing y, z starts grimicing and drinking himself silly and w starts twiddling his thumbs.

Great friends huh? :- )

 

[diablo]

AE...

 

[biker_gixxer]

Everyone and I mean pretty much all of my friends and family have me chalked as highly arrogant and proud of it

I don't see the problem

I know what you mean, my confidence started heading in that direction until i started putting a little humor with my over all attitude. Show that you're a fun person to be around, that you can laugh at yourself (if you haven't already) and you'll see the change around you.

 

[tim_n]

doing that already :- ( lots of laughter!

 

[PrimetimeDeliverance]

Yup, I agree. Don't worry about it too much, man. I get called the same thing sometimes and I used to really let it get to me.

Its just part of your personality. Just as many people will love you for it as those that hate you for it. The key is choose your battles wisely. You don't always have to throw your weight around to show you're in control, if you know what I mean.

But if you wanna be conniving ... keep in mind most people have short memories. For every one time you let someone have their way (by letting them win the argument or whatever), they will forgive you for the 5 times you were an arse. Not that I've ever done that or anything lol.

 

[biker_gixxer]

You don't always have to throw your weight around to show you're in control, if you know what I mean.

And throwing your weight around can make you look 'insecure'.
It's all about that silent power...

 

[ScrewIt]

Originally posted by tim_n


I can apologise, even when I'm not wrong.

God i can smell arrogance in the way you write...the above line reeks of it!!

Arrogant person says "I can apologize, even when im not wrong."
Non-arrogant person says "I will apologize, when im wrong."

See the difference? There lies truth within the words, if you dont understand reread it several times until you do....

Life lessons are to be learned through others, see how they interact with people in their non-arrogant ways.

Honestly no one gives a shyt if you think you're right, or you stand by your beliefs. Cause everyone has an entirely different opinion of their own. Learn to take responsibility and accept consequences of your actions.

I think the root of your problem lies in lack of self-esteem/ self-confidence. The true arrogant people that i've met in life had suffered from low self-esteem & confidence issues. when their self-esteem & confidence rose, had i noticed a more enjoyable personality to them.

The thing that's a striking resemblance in all arrogant people is how defensive they are in the way they speak and body language. Just as revealed in the quote line.

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

People say I'm arrogant too, but that's because they're just jealous that I'm better than they are.

 

[rgeere]

Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
People say I'm arrogant too, but that's because they're just jealous that I'm better than they are.

Does anyone else see a paradox between the main and subordinate clause here? If you don't know what that means compare before and after the comma.

 

[biker_gixxer]

Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
People say I'm arrogant too, but that's because they're just jealous that I'm better than they are.

NO, NO, I'M BETTER!!

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by rgeere
Does anyone else see a paradox between the main and subordinate clause here? If you don't know what that means compare before and after the comma.

It's called a joke. You would know that if you were awesome like me.

 

[rgeere]

Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
It's called a joke. You would know that if you were awesome like me.

Well, low self-esteeme never seemed like a laughing matter to me before, but do whatever works for you I guess.

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by rgeere
Well, low self-esteeme never seemed like a laughing matter to me before, but do whatever works for you I guess.

I don't see what your low self esteem has to do with me being awesome.

 

[rgeere]

Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
I don't see what your low self esteem has to do with me being awesome.

Of course it does, if I had low self-esteeme I would be just as awesome ... but that is only with the assumption that awesome equals arrogent.

 

[quest]

i liked when i was first told i was arrogent..

i was always told "oh your so nice"..

then i got arrogent.. i was happier in my life when i got arrogent..

i have seen it really rub some people up the wrong way (ex girlfriend/uncle) but most seem to like the new me better..

maybe i'm not overly arrogent as i've only got it once or twice..

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by rgeere
Of course it does, if I had low self-esteeme I would be just as awesome ... but that is only with the assumption that awesome equals arrogent.

Don't worry, it's okay to be inferior to me.


You've got lots of company.

 

[thefonz]

Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
Don't worry, it's okay to be inferior to me.


You've got lots of company.

Are you STILL talking??

Tim if you're the guy who carries all the conversations with your friends why do you even care if they think you're arrogant. Ok......so one guy sits around twidles his thumbs, the other drinks to social destruction, and the other 2 start making out
anyway.....they sound kind of pathetic as if calling you arrogant this their way of trying to work their way up the social ladder of the group. Don't worry wat they say

Also, get some new friends buddy

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by thefonz
Are you STILL talking??

Only to the important people.