"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I don't chat with girls on the phone

TheMonkeyKing

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I never talk to plates on the phone.

The only times I have spoken with a plate on the phone in the last year is for 30seconds to a minute, to find them when they get lost on their way to meeting me.

I don’t phone them for an hour-long ‘chat’. That’s what she has her girlfriends, beta-hangers-on, gay best friends and family for. You wanna put yourself in the same frame as that group of people, go ahead and call her every week for gossip. I personally would rather be the mysterious outsider than have her same neurones firing for you as for the beta boy next door; safe to presume it’s not that little bundle in her cl1toris.

It makes me do a bit of sick when I read guys on here talking about calling this girl and that girl, ‘her not answering/retuning my call/talked to this plate for like and hour on the phone, but now she’s gone cold’. You wonder why she doesn’t call you back? Because she’s got some alpha making serious moves on her (rather than calling for weeks on end) down the pub while your number makes her phone (and only her phone) tingle in her handbag.

By regularly phoning a girl you have designs on rather than meeting face to face, you are reducing your physical exposure ratio and therefore physical attractiveness: she can’t see or grasp your rippling bicep as you console her about her annoying colleague; you cannot cop a cheeky feel or make-out as you start to get a bit tipsy over a ****tail (or three); you cannot display all the non-verbal cues of your worth and gauge those of her attraction.

In this world of now endless electronic comms, the only contact I maintain with my plates is text message. And even that is extremely casual; and very, very rarely email.

-No facebook/instagram/twitter: she has another 500 suitors chasing/PM’ing/’liking’ (read: licking her ass) her therein. I am unique because I am not one of them. Plus I don’t give a flying f*ck what she had for lunch.
-No phone calls: see above.
-No messenger: same difference as phone calls. In fact it’s worse because she can’t even hear your voice.
-No Skype: you’re tormenting you both by doing this. I’m no avatar. I prefer the real thing. Plus I just bought a new (clean) keyboard.

The only contact worth its investment is face to face (and casual text, to arrange face to face). You can’t anchor anything with a phone call/facebook/skype. But with face to face, opportunity always knocks.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Agreed.

People bash texting all the time; when I have been so successful with texting and know people who game with texting.

If it's used casually and carefully, texting is your best friend. You can call them like, once, for the initial wahtsup. , but keep that **** to like 1 minute at max.
 

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I hate talking on the phone, had this one plate that loved to talk on the phone....I told her I don't and she would still call every day to talk on the damn phone! Talk about annoying
 

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This subject has been done to death. Its 2014. Text is the primary form of communication. Fvck talking on the phone for more than 3 minutes.
 

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LoveAfter2009 said:
Agreed.

People bash texting all the time; when I have been so successful with texting and know people who game with texting.

If it's used casually and carefully, texting is your best friend. You can call them like, once, for the initial wahtsup. , but keep that **** to like 1 minute at max.
word. Every plate I've had has preferred text over phone. And yes, if you have text game you will clean up.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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skinnyguy said:
word. Every plate I've had has preferred text over phone. And yes, if you have text game you will clean up.
That and this. Text all u want just make sure ur good at it. fk calling. that shiiiit is mad old school
 

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Glad so many seem to agree.

Anyone phoning/facebooking/re-tweeting some chick in hope of scoring a lay is f*cking deluded.

One recent previous plate, I never phoned and I had sex with her three times. My current main plate (a good 9 when made up), I've called once because she was lost when meeting me. I had sex with her three times in the last week.
 
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