I don't approach women

[backbreaker]

I just realized something... I haven't approcached a women since My Birthday, which is june 17th of last year.

But the funny thing is, I never am at a shortage of women to talk to.

I had to think about that.

On any given day, I get calls from 3-4 girls.

So I go to thinking, how do I do it?

Reputation.

First example is I have 3 best friends, one of them is a female. we hang around different crowds but everyonce in a while i will hang out with her friends and, me being the social person I am, I talk with everyone. 2-3 girls I talk to off and on are friends of hers, and 2 more girls I talk to are friends of her friends. I come off as so carefree girls usually just give me their phone number so we can hang out and chill or just talk on the phone.

Even better, i go to this bar 1-2 times a week, and there was this particular waitress that had a crush on me and I knew it.

One night she said she wanted to get drunk and I told ehr I lived right down the street and I have a minbar in my apartment. She quickly asked for my number and called me when she got off work. Needless to say what happened after that.

But the interesting thing is, over the next 2 months, Because of her big mouth, I have talked to, or had sex with 6 other waitresses at her job, and there is another who is married who I know wants me but won't do anything. One of them saw me at a club one night, came up to me and without saying anyting, grabbed my **** and tounge kissed me.

Not that i am afraid of women, but if I talked to women and tried to get numbers, I would litearly have too many to deal with.

so the power of reputation can go a long way.

Travel like a king and you will be treated as such.

I asked the girl at the bar what she saw in me... she is white, I am black and she has never dated a black guy in her life, let alone ****ed one, and i had 2 friends, my best friends with me at all times, and none of us have a problem with women. She said " you have this way that you carry yourself that I just found soo sexy".

 

[MacDiddy]

Nice post backbreaker

Elaborate on your carefreeness a bit more.. What are your conversations like that make a girl "just" give you her number??

 

[backbreaker]

i am glad you found my post interesting...

The first and most important thing is the reputation that I mantain. First of all, I learned from the best, my dad. My dad would be a desiaple on this board. Some of the stuff he used to tell me he could do I would not believe until Itured 21 and started seeing it myself (he is more like one of my homeboys now then my dad, which is cool)

First, I take a great pride in the way I dress/look/smell. I have over 20 different colonges... a habit i picked up from my dad. I take a shower anytime I think about leaving the house, I cut my own hair and I cut it every 3 or so days, even when I don't want to, which is more often than not.
I have not yet met a women that has more clothes then me. It's funny becasue most girls, espically the ones that work at the bar, when they come over my house the first thing they want to see is my closet. I have to admit, I am natrually good looking, but trust me when I say a well groomed slob is better than an nasty looking pretty boy any day of the week.

Now, when I talk to a women, it doesn't really matter what we talk about. I don't go in with a real gameplan. Most importantly, I speak clearly, and I sound intelligent, but not intellecutal, in other words, I don't sound like I took some words out of the dictinary and used them to impress anyone, but talking to me you get the sense that I am "different" which is espically important when you are young and black and have to deal with the stero types I get.

I have my own style as far as the way I dress... I usually wear sportsjackets and buttondown shirts... I have naturally curly hair, so I don't wear hats...I always have matching beeds around my neck, I always have a pair of casual dress shoes (i.e steve maddess, pumas, diseal) to match my outfit.

the important thing isn't what I wear, but that my personality matches the way I dress if that makes sense. I usually look very different then everyone is out there around me, so if you looked at me you would think I was a pretty outgoing, carefree person, and I am.

As far as women convo's, I never, ever ask if a women has a BF for a couple of reasons, mainly because I don't care, but secondly, if it mattered, would she be giving you interest?

The women that came over my house from the bar that night, I saw for the first time around a week after my 21st birthday. I could tell she was attracted to me when I first saw her by the way she acted.

I knew sooner or later I would end up with her, so I took my time with her. Eventually I found out she was married was going to school to be an accountant and lived 30 miles away.

Now, most guys would have been deterred by the fact that she is married, but think about it. First I know I am attractive, and secondly she wouldn't be giving me all of this extra attention for the hell of it, clearly going out of her way to see me when I was up there. MY B-Day is in June, by the beginning of September it got so bad that all the waitresses knew she liked me, she would come and tickle me, always giving me hugs, would sit down and talk with us, etc.

So one day I peeked her interest and I took another girl i was talking to up there and made sure I sat in her section...I mean what could she do? She is married and how could she get mad? She hasn't told me she liked me yet. She was as nice as she could be to her, and the next day I went up there to play pool and she asked me was that my GF and I told her what does she think... then I told her no, and I asked her does it matter? She blushed and said no, she was just wondering. I told her that look, if she wants me just to come out and say it, in a joking manner... I knew I had her then.

I didn't go for 2 weeks, and after a football game, drunk as can be, me and my best friend decided to go up there. She came up to me and gave me a hug and I knew I would have ****ing her that night.
We still talk, although I haven't been with her in around 2 months, even though I could, she just got a divorce and is seeing someone new and I want to give her the opprounity to make it work...let me stop lying, i just got tired of ****ing her.

When we were sleeping together, she would come over my house, which is 2 mintues from her job at like 2 in the morning, we would talk for 20 mintues, have sex and she would be out the door at 4 or so in the morning and in home and in bed by 5am before her husband woke up.

She only told one person at her job we were sleeping together, but she told all her friends how much "fun" we would have, and they would want to kick it with us... and I would let them. They would get my number or visa versa trough normal convo and would end up calling me later when the girl wasn't around.

If you want an example of the convo I have with someone last week I was up there with my two best friends, and my waitress was some chick I kicked it with before but really didn't know. I asked her questions from how was work going that night to as far out as letting me borrow 100 dollars because I was on walefare and I couldn't pay my rent next month... I had her crying laughing because I was as sincire as could be (of course I didn't need it). I knew she liked me when she came and took my order and left...there were 3 other people at the table. i told her I know I am cute and all but damn you can't do my friends like that.. if you want to be with me you have to treat my friends with respect.

Also, don't hide who you are. Girls ask me all the time am I seeing someone, I say I am seeing a couple of people. If they don't like it, that's fine, that means they have low self esteem in my book.

As far as a girl just giving me her number, like for instance, i fix computers, everyone up there knows it. They would say something about a computer problem and I woudl say "just give m your number and I will call you and look at it". When they say how much you charge, say something like 1 date. I told one girl a *******... and got it without having to fix a pc

 

[skeeloo]

hmm and i thought white chicks went for the thugged out brothers only. i usually dont take them white girls serious though.

 

[backbreaker]

people like you give people like me a bad name.

First, I don't date or talk to or mess around with white, black, asian, hispanic girls that just date me because "i'm black". That's silly and immature.

I can tell the difference when I am talking with them. I attract alot of white women, always have. I am not that dark, but I am not light skined either, I'm around usher's complection. However my GF is black and is drop dead georgous.

the differecne between me and you is if you go to the mall, you are attracting the 16-17 years that hang out there at the food court and they your look is cute... I am going in stores such as Normans and Dillards, the Buckle and I am getting numbers and attracting sales clerks and assistant managers. I haven't dated a women or talked to a women my age since I was 17. The girl I took home from the bar that night is 24, my GF is 25, one of the girls at the bar I got a BJ from was 29.

 

[skeeloo]

firslty bro, you dont know me and i dont dress hiphop or anything like that .

2ndly- the white women i have been with b4 used to ask why dont i dress like the usuall black guys with bandanas and sh*t like that, i tell them this is me if you want that kind then go for them.
the thing about dating most white women like these is that they dont give a fuk about you only the stereotypes they wana explore to see how big your **** is and all that. attracting these women aint hard at all and nothing to be glad about you feel me.

 

[Royal Elite]

That seems like a lot of hateing there bb whats that all about?

 

[backbreaker]

first, learn how to write a sentance in a proper manner. you write how you talk and if that is how you talk to women, no wonder you see or are approached by white women who like guys who wear bandanas.

You are right, I don't nkow you. i am pretty sure you are a great kid. you ovbiously want to improve yourself, or else you wouldn't be here, but like T.I says "you don't know me"

You are right, thoose women are skanks... I dated one before, worst relationship I have ever had.

 

[backbreaker]

Originally posted by Royal Elite
That seems like a lot of hateing there bb whats that all about?

nothing, i'm short tempered, something I need to work on, I don't mean anything buy it, but I am very quick witted.

I think it's because I have to defend myself so much that it gets tiring... me ****ing white/hispanic/asian (ummm) women and hearing "they like you because you are black" but I know that's not the case because I do a great job of prescreening them.

 

[Royal Elite]

It doesnt matter why the girls like you they like you thats all that matters. If its your eyes, your hair, your smile, if a woman likes you theres a reason behind it. All that matters is you got her.

 

[skeeloo]

i dont spend much time online, i only download songs and stuff like that so dont start with the bull**** about telling me to write a proper sentence, and who you calling kid im older than you for your imformation belive it or not i dont speak how i write mybe you grew up white or something . anyway that aside

as for me attracting women like that, that was when i was younger around ,18 19, now i only date black or asian chicks mainly,

so thats that even an ugly ass brother can still pull a white women dont come here feeling like a g or something.

 

[skeeloo]

And to the white djs i dont mean this in a bad way that white women are easy OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT. im just saying they are more open to experiment like checking to see how big our **** is, im not gonna listen to some 21 year old here telling you something that wont applying to you. of course there are cases where they can both fall in love for real, but mostly these chicks wana elevate thier fashion status or street thing.

 

[backbreaker]

well my job requires me to be online for the majority of the work day, so I am online alot.

I never said I was a G, the fact that you are getting as defensive as you are... when I only pointed out a fact, that your grammer skills, at least the ones that you are showing at this present time aren't that great, tell me alot.

Unlike you, I don't have to prove myself to you. I have a chick that's going to stop by my office before she goes to work in and hour and half that can bost my self esteem. Then when I get home from work, I have my BLACK girlfriend who as we speak is cooking a homeade pizza and cleaing up my apartment and will take care of me when I get home from work to boost my self esteem. Then when, if I go out tonight to the bar with my boys, which I doubt I will do, mainly because I am going to horse track friday and I need to get my stuff prepared, but If I do, there are at least 3-4 women in there that can boost my self esteem.

And my GF is a model and has been for 3 years

So do I give a flying flip about what you think about me? Not really.

Now dont' get me wrong, I am not flaming you, but I am just showing you the difference between me and most people. I don'[t have to come here to vent towards women and post out of fustration.

and to the toher guy that post, yes it does matter why she likes you, it matters alot.

If she likes you because you have a nice car or always have money, you are dealing with a hoe, which you would treat different then the girl who just likes you becase she thinks you are sooo sexy or because you are "black" which are freaks.

 

[backbreaker]

what you said about white women is true to some extent... it is true with younger women, but once women get around the college age, or a little bit older, or get in the real world and see black people can be educated just like white people can, that attitude usually (not always) changes. When I go bowling with my friends, I get steers and looks and approaches from teeanagers, however like I said I don't date women my age. I have slept with a number of white women in the last year, all of them (execpt one) at one point in time wanted a serious relationship with me and still call me to this day... That's not because I am "black", but because I am a catch.

 

[skeeloo]

ok i guess i apologise then
what i cant stand is when i see my friends even older than me change into these hard core 50 wanabe thug just to impress these women, i tell them why not be yourselves your a college student why change who you are(lol funny one of them even spend a night in jail just trying to impress these women). see the fact is some brothers take it as a pride to date them when they have no idea that they only date them to either get back at thier parents or to feel part of the current trend. but that aside my **** dosnt discriminate.

 

[alphawolfx]

why backbreaker gets chicks so easily:

PRIDE

takes pride in who he is
takes pride in his appearance
walks like he's proud

that's about it

well that and he doesn't give a f.uck what others think about him, not girls, not guys, not people posting on sosuave.....

take a page from his book, guys

look, it looks like skeeloo gets chicks too, and guess what.... none of them give a s.hit about the other's methods or ways of attracting - one says i'll do it my way, hte other says, yeah and i'll do it MY WAY...

and that's that

 

[backbreaker]

that's a good point, and you shouldnt' change yourself for anyone, let alone just to impress a different race.

In jail? I bet that's a funny story.

The funniest dating story I have is convencing one of these chicks at the bar to have sex with me and my two friends, and the next day, being on a roll, i got my GF (who is bi) to sleep wtih my next door neighboor

 

[skeeloo]

i also stay well clear of teenage girls i have only dated older women too. lol. by the way some white boys also try to act black when they try getting at black women, i have to tell them to be them selves if these black woment wanted that theyll go for a black guy just be yourself..

 

[backbreaker]

yeah, my girl has a thing for cute white guys.


I do take alot of pride in myself and what I do, what I represent.

 

[Royal Elite]

I guess the way I feel about women make me not care if they white, black, or asian. I think women were beautify creatures, and therefore the whole race thing means nothing to me. If I look at her and things stare in me, I want her. I like women, not a specific race of women, thats so old and tired.