"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I don´t want a date

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I met this girl on an internet forum (let´s name it X), we had a little chat on messenger and and after that we did never talk again for a couple of weeks, because I don´t like messenger that much. I saw her picture and she is hot.

Yesterday afternoon I send her a sms message to her cellphone, it was something like this:

"Hi, it´s Paul, from X Forum, we did talk on messenger lot of days ago but you bored me and I quit the chat. I hope you´re not always that boring. ;) LOL"

Several hours later, at 11:30 in the evening, she send me the answer:

"Hi Paul, this is Anna, sorry I didn´t answer earlier, but my cellphone was turned off. Why did I bored you? Haha."

Well, this was yesterday, 12 hours ago from now. I haven´t send her a response or anything because i´m not sure what to say. I prefer an indirect response, I really don´t like answering direct questions, like "you bored me because...." I don´t want to start a chat on the sms.

The thing is, I hate virtual relationships, and don´t like chatting on the net or sms, I want to personally meet her as soon as possible, so what should I say to her? I don´t want it to be a date, I want it to be an informal meeting, just to see if she is a nice and outgoing person.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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paulmann

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slaog said:
If you don't like chatting online why use a dating site? Just chat with her online for a while and then ask her out.
Where did I say it was a dating site? It´s a politics forum, I use it to read news and articles about politics. I want to meet this girl because she has the same political ideas than I do.

Besides, she is never online, even if I get on the messenger she is not there.
 

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Noob said:
just ignore the reply and say lets go for a coffee...
Yes, i think that is what i´m going to do.

either make a move, or carry on surfing the internet and hope your love life fixes itself..
Love life? LOL, i don´t need LOVE, i just want to meet this girl. And I don´t like the internet that much, but thanks.
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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If you don't like the internet that much what are you doing on all these sites?


Regarding the message "Hi Paul, this is Anna, sorry I didn´t answer earlier, but my cellphone was turned off. Why did I bored you? Haha.". Whenever I hear a girl saying 'sorry' an alarm bell goes off in my head. It seems like she wasn't too keen to text you back but you can't be sure of this. Ask her out for that coffee and worst she can say is no... no loss to you.
 

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I don't want a date, I just wanna **** !!!!!
 

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slaog said:
Regarding the message "Hi Paul, this is Anna, sorry I didn´t answer earlier, but my cellphone was turned off. Why did I bored you? Haha.". Whenever I hear a girl saying 'sorry' an alarm bell goes off in my head. It seems like she wasn't too keen to text you back but you can't be sure of this.
Maybe she made me wait to see if I was needy, that´s normal, a needy person can´t wait several hours for an answer without sending at least another sms.

slaog said:
Ask her out for that coffee and worst she can say is no... no loss to you.
I did it, no answer yet. That was my 2nd and last message to her, unless she says "yes".

Greetings.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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ParadocksSox said:
Paul, I wanna ask you, did you ask her out by texting her?
Yes, and I know what you´re thinking, it was a mistake, but I don´t care anymore. I already made plans to go out with another chick this week end. :up:

By the way, the message was:

"it would be funny to chat face to face, I will be very busy until friday (that was BS, I wanted to look busy, lol) but after that I can do it. If you like the idea I´ll call you so we arrange"
 
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Not a bad text message, but I generally try to avoid those, just take note for future refference. And good idea about already having other plans with another girl for the weekend.
 
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