"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I do have any friends to hang out with, am i forever alone?

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A few years ago i was going through my High School stage. I'm confident that i am not a nerd since i play sports and dont get bullied in school.

During my first grade, i have plenty of friends. Mostly from my sports activity,hockey, and we always hang out and are close. But, when i enter high school, I started to drift apart from them because i did not keep in touch of them as i do not have a mobile phone at that time and moving to another city makes me drift further apart from them.

In high school, I also have friends to hang out with but as soon as i enter college, all of them started to not call me and giving me invites anymore. Not even a text. However all of them are still in contact with each other but left me out which i dont know why. I didnt do anything that could make them hate me, actually i'm a nice person if i do say so myself.

Now, i'm in college, the class i'm in are not the type that loves to hang out. Most of them are gamers who rather sits at home and play games. Only around 4 of them are people who likes to go out and enjoy life. However, they are more to their high school friends and most of the time i'm left with nothing to do but to spend the entire day myself at home. I tried calling them sometimes and most of the time they cant make it but we do hang out if all of us could make it but that happens maybe once a month. I also manage to contact back my first grade friends through facebook, but they too are living their own life now with their friends. Am i going to be alone?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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you'll be alone if you allow yourself to be alone.

In life you have to fight for happiness tooth and nail.

if you don't have the will to fight then shut up.
 

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Burroughs said:
you'll be alone if you allow yourself to be alone.

In life you have to fight for happiness tooth and nail.

if you don't have the will to fight then shut up.
How do i fight? Sorry but i'm still not mature yet and need advice.
 

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One step at a time. Go out for two hours everyday. The library, the gym, the park...embrace your surroundings...make a routine. Talk to people during the course of that routine..be interested in other people...give out energy..lots of it. You will be rewarded.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Burroughs said:
One step at a time. Go out for two hours everyday. The library, the gym, the park...embrace your surroundings...make a routine. Talk to people during the course of that routine..be interested in other people...give out energy..lots of it. You will be rewarded.
I'm gonna try doing that. Thanks!
 

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If you're in college it should be easy. Just go out and be. There are literally 20-somethings everywhere you look in any big city or college town. Go to bars or coffee shops. Or the gym and library. Get a job as a waiter or bartender. Nobody parties like 20 something servers and bartenders! Generally they aren't doing anything else important in their lives.

Or use what you already have. Those guys who sit around as gamers just need a kick in the ass to be the kind of people who get out and do things. It's worth a shot to do it.

But now you know why people get into relationships. In your 30s most people disappear into families for a decade or so and if you're alone YOU ARE ALONE. Blaze your path now.
 

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FairShake said:
If you're in college it should be easy. Just go out and be. There are literally 20-somethings everywhere you look in any big city or college town. Go to bars or coffee shops. Or the gym and library. Get a job as a waiter or bartender. Nobody parties like 20 something servers and bartenders! Generally they aren't doing anything else important in their lives.

Or use what you already have. Those guys who sit around as gamers just need a kick in the ass to be the kind of people who get out and do things. It's worth a shot to do it.

But now you know why people get into relationships. In your 30s most people disappear into families for a decade or so and if you're alone YOU ARE ALONE. Blaze your path now.
Does this mean that a person hang out with their friends once in a while but pay more attention to their relationship?
 
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