"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I do believe I've just had an epiphany

Yogibear

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ok, so after lurking here for a few short months and reading the DJ bible (I'm about half through now) i have figured out all of my problems

I've been flirting with/ kinoing a lot of girls at school, and one day i got it in my head that i had a lil crush on one of them. Only after reading through "Weapons of Mass Seduction" by Señor Fingers did i realize that i had no chance with this chick. I had those AFC thoughts in the back of my mind- does she like me? oh no! what if she doesnt? Should i ask her out now? etc

it has come to my attention that those thoughts have subconsciously communicated to her that i lacked confidence, and that she didnt really respect me.

I could not be happier. I am so glad that i figured this out and that the change has to happen within

anyway, I'm just venting here and feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders for seeing the light
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I'm in the Mood

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So just bvtch slap those thoughts and ask her out!
 

eaglez1177

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Nice to see that you're learning!
 
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