i DJ'ed a HB away from an AFC!

[stevey_2000]

ok, here's the latest with my girl i ended up DJ'ing and successfully got her (thanks to you guys ) at work...

i have only recently found out that she has a MAJOR afc (ex now) boyfriend while i was DJ'ing her which i did not know about at the time but today she has told me all about him and that she has given him the old 'heave ho' because she has met me!

now i'm not here to brag but my problem is that besides me working with her (not in the same office but in the same building) her mum and dad are still attached to her ex and her dad actually started crying when he found out about her splitting up with him because of me and it's caused me to think about not actually starting anything with her if it's starting a massive row with her and her parents, but on the positive side, she is getting a £20,000 payout from one of her relatives who has recently passed away and she tells me she's gonna take me away on a holiday to escape everything

i find myself in a tight situation here my fellow DJ's, because this is a girl i am thinking of having a LTR with because she has a great SOH and personality aswell as paying for everything and is at least a 8.5.

any advice would be taken...

Ste.

 

[marqZAL]

Well, don't feel bad about taking her away from a situation that she was'nt happy with. If she was happy she would'nt have left her boyfreind. Now, keep in mind you should'nt be worring about anything but having a good time. As, far as an LTR, if she keeps having a good time with you the thought of her wanting to be with another will disapear. I personally love when chicks want to pay for everything, but i havent noticed that the girls who prefer doing that, do so in order to keep some sort of power over you, so becareful!

 

[Deep Dish]

I have only recently found out that she has a MAJOR afc (ex now) boyfriend while I was DJ'ing her which i did not know about at the time but today she has told me all about him and that she has given him the old 'heave ho' because she has met me!

Getting a woman from a dissatisfying relationship is ROCK BOTTOM on lists of achievement. It's harder to get a single woman.

Now i'm not here to brag...

There certainly is no reason to triumph. If her boyfriend was so 'MAJOR afc' that just diminishes any accomplishment. In fact, if she's so hot and that guy was so 'bad', she was probably just using him; for security, for social status, for dumping her emotional crap onto him. And thus would be the same for you. Remember, it's not about you, it's about what she gets out of you.

This is a girl I am thinking of having a LTR

Right now wanting a relationship with this 'HB' should not be in your mind. She's a monkey. See STR8UP's thread Yes, good women DO cheat.

Find women who dare to be single. Women who breakup a relationship for you... you do not want! People will say that's not true, that if you are with someone and find someone better, the right way to go would be to breakup and get with that someone better, which they say there is nothing wrong. They don't get it. Dare to be single!

SOH

S O huh?

8.5

Who cares. If a girl was a '3', would you get all excited at luring her away from a chump boyfriend? No. So don't care if she was a '10'.

Now think about this; the fact she's 'paying for everything' and taking you away on a holiday to 'escape everything', doesn't that raise your red flags? Did it ever occur to you she may be using money to buy your attention, to silence any inner critic, to lure you in for her own desires, and certainly not romantic ones? That she has intent on turning you into her social dildo (social status, security) and devouring your lifeforce?

 

[DankNuggs]

Geez deep dish, he told you a a paragraph about a situation and you've already decided the entire basis of the relationship. You sound jilted from something else. He can always retain power by simply not givnig in to her attempts to control him...Thats for a later situation if it happens to arrive...Good work Stevo, have fun on your vacation...

 

[stevey_2000]

wow!, i agree with danknuggs about deepdish, that is very deep advice you gave me but i am aware of her possibly trying to control me but i know what i'm doing and there is NO chance of her trying to do that because i'm planning to move abroad to ibiza next year to live and i plan to do it ALONE, it's all just good fun

danknuggs and marqZAL, cheers lads...wil be careful.

Ste.

 

[Deep Dish]

Originally posted by stevey_2000
wow!, i agree with danknuggs about deepdish, that is very deep advice you gave me but i am aware of her possibly trying to control me but i know what i'm doing and there is NO chance of her trying to do that because i'm planning to move abroad to ibiza next year to live and i plan to do it ALONE, it's all just good fun

Always THINK about stuff before getting into things. I didn't say definitively that it's the case, but to explore in your own mind the possibilities. Female 'vampirism' of monkeying around is commonplace.

If you want just fun, keep it just fun.

 

[chlywly]

Look friend if there relationship was meant to be or wasnt cracked/broken or meant to be split up from the beginning, then you wouldn't have broken them up...

You in fact did not break them up, don't boost your ego, it wasnt meant to happen from the beginning you only happened to do it now

I say go on vacation with her, HAVE FUN! Both you and her deserve it, take a little adventure.

 

[Ded_Skin_Mask13]

you've got her in the bag man! And plus it shows how much she cares for that AFC..

 

[diplomatic_lies]

Hey I kinda agree with Deep Dish. I find that women who break up with one guy for another once, will do it again. Its a bit like the "mercenary" mindset I suppose.


Besides, her dad might find some use for his shotgun