"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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REPEM

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damnit.

I met this girl. Had a fun time. We talked for a bit. She gave IOI's. Was asking me lots of questions. Made some jokes, we both laughed. etc.

We were both into each other, but I had to leave in a hurry and didnt close.


Probably won't see her for a few weeks. Will she have lost interest by then?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Here's my advice for you:

If you see her again, make sure SHE rejects you before you reject yourself.
 

Kirro

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@OP - Will she lose interest by then? Yup.
 

REPEM

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Kirro said:
@OP - Will she lose interest by then? Yup.
still chance to rekindle interest when i see her again, yes?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Kirro

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REPEM said:
still chance to rekindle interest when i see her again, yes?
Of course there is, but don't be surprised if she's cold to your advances. The key is to be calm, comfortable & confident.

I've resurrected Lazarus level ILs before after weeks & months of no contact. Its possible.
 
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