So lets see. I'll start of by saying i met this one girl at school a couple of weeks ago. I talked with her for a while number closed. But i never called since i feared it wasn't real. Anyways her Birthday came around soon after and i decided to do something. I told her i got her a gift and if she turned around i would give it to her so i kissed her on the cheek when she did then she turned around looking all surprised in a bad way. So anyways one of my friends told me she thought it was weird. I felt pretty bad about if for a while. When i went to go talk to her again she quickly sped walk into a classroom and had her friend watch guard at the door. When she came out she was all ignoring me when i tried to talk to her so i just walked away. Im not sure on what i should do now. Im planning on number closing with some other girl tommarow and maybe i'll just forget about her. What do you guys think?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I did something weird?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
Your first mistake was in having such low self esteem. Your fear of the # not being real was irrational. You should have at least TRIED to call, who cares if it ended up being fake? If it was fake, then you would have known better than to do this next thing you did...Mr. Maybe said:
So you thought she gave you a fake #, but that she would be receptive to a surprise guerrilla kiss?Mr. Maybe said:
WHY did you think this was a good idea? Did you? Answer this question, its not rhetorical, I really want to know what was in your head.
Girls don't like to be kissed by boys they don't like. Some guys can and do get away with surprise stolen kisses, but they establish rapport first, and are somewhat confident that the girl is interested. Or they do it because they have that fun love/hate relationship, and they are arrogant enough to get away with it, partly because... (see my next response)
...If this happens they act like they don't care!Mr. Maybe said:
Your biggest mistake here is letting them see you sweat.
So you made a bad call. Sh!t happens. Just laugh it off, and bust her balls a little. Tell her you thought that if you kissed her she'd turn from a frog into a princess, and that was going to be your present to her! Don't be TOO mean about this, you don't want her to burst into tears. Make sure she knows you are joking.
Even if you don't feel confident enough to pull ^ that off, just DON'T LET THEM SEE YOU SWEAT.
proly came off as a lil creepy, if you had talked her up a lil beforehand and had her ISOLATED were she wasnt afraid of what her friends thought ..then mabye she would of taken it better over all laugh it off tell her she had the most dumbfounded look on her face, dont say your sorry just because things are ackward for her dosent mean they should be for you. If its still on your mind do what i do and get drunk and laugh at yourself for it. and i would just ignore her
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Women lose interest if you don't act on it for a long time. Doesn't everyone?
You got her number, waited a long @ss time for her birthday, then you make your move? Her interest died when you didn't call her.
You got her number, waited a long @ss time for her birthday, then you make your move? Her interest died when you didn't call her.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
Feel better yet?
See, it isn't THAT bad what you did.
See, it isn't THAT bad what you did.
.smooth.
Don Juan
I actually like the idea of a kiss as a present!
Thats a smooth move man, you just didn't read the situation right. Keep it cool, have fun! It really was not a big deal! Seriously, it was nothing, and you should treat it like nothing.
If she acts creeped out around you, she's the one acting weird!
You need to show this kiss on the cheek thing as the "no big deal" that it is!
Just so you know, I'm gunna use that tomorrow!
I'll tell you how it goes
Thats a smooth move man, you just didn't read the situation right. Keep it cool, have fun! It really was not a big deal! Seriously, it was nothing, and you should treat it like nothing.
If she acts creeped out around you, she's the one acting weird!
You need to show this kiss on the cheek thing as the "no big deal" that it is!
Just so you know, I'm gunna use that tomorrow!
I'll tell you how it goes