"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I did Mistake #5 in the 10 top mistakes! What do I do now???

CoolGuy64

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So here's the thing:

I met her last week on Sunday. And on Wednesday, I wrote her a letter stating how I felt about her because when I met her on Sunday, it was a love at first sight moment for me. I got to spend a couple hours talking to her and right afterwards, when she said bye to me, smiling in a very big way, I felt dizzy, lightheaded, and heavy all over my body to the point where I almost fainted because the girl I had been dreaming about my whole life was right in front of me.

But I feel like she doesn't even see me the same way anymore, out of fear. I guess the letter I wrote her must've scared her away from having a relationship with me. I literally feel it when she walks in the room. She's VERY friendly, very sweet. We're still friends and she does talk to me. In fact, not only did I get her number ON THE SPOT when I met her on Sunday, but every time she see's me (even now after the letter) she smiles and waves at me. I can call her on the phone and talk to her as a friend and we can still meet up for coffee, or do something fun. I can call her right now even, and set something up with her if I wanted to.

But I need help. I still think I have a chance with her in a very big way, but how can I comfort that fear in her about me and regain her trust with me to be in a relationship with her.

I got THE perfect song to describe her, too:

Listen to Miss Independent by Kelly Clarkson.

Thanks Guys,

CoolGuy.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I think the best thing you could do is read the entire dj bible before you talk to this girl again. You have no clue what you're doing, and every second you talk to her or spend with her, you are hurting your chances. If she is interested, she won't lose interest in you if you don't talk to her for a couple weeks. In fact, her interest will go up because she will be wondering why you haven't called her. But most guys don't have the balls to do this, so you're probably screwed, and not in a good way.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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CoolGuy64

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WhtRbt said:
I think the best thing you could do is read the entire dj bible before you talk to this girl again. You have no clue what you're doing, and every second you talk to her or spend with her, you are hurting your chances. If she is interested, she won't lose interest in you if you don't talk to her for a couple weeks. In fact, her interest will go up because she will be wondering why you haven't called her. But most guys don't have the balls to do this, so you're probably screwed, and not in a good way.
I haven't called her at all. And I'm not planning to do so until I've improved myself or I change my subconscious beliefs so when she see's me again, she'll see something new in me. We are in the same business and I don't see her everyday (which is a good thing), just at the local meetings we have at the office with the team. But yeah, I'm not gonna do anything until I get some confidence because confidence is everything to a girl as I've been hearing a lot lately.

Anyways, I was thinking about holding off for 2 weeks and then calling her cause if I call her now, she'll run for good. lol

So I'll wait two weeks, then. No problem.

Is that all I need to do? Just wait two weeks and then call her?

Thanks, man!
 

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Crazy Asian said:
X2


how old are u?
I'm 24. My name is Sina and this is my first time here.

I can use all the help I can get, cause I KNOW I still have a chance with her, I just want to find a way to regain that trust with her and if that means having to wait 2 weeks to call then that's what I'm gonna do.
 

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So I'll wait two weeks, then. No problem.

Is that all I need to do? Just wait two weeks and then call her?
No. You need to go here and read EVERYTHING. After you have read everything, then you can call her. I was just estimating that it would take you two weeks to read everything.
 

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By the way, where do I find the DJ Bible?
There's a link at the bottom of the page, and also in my previous post. Good Luck. You have tons to learn, but if you stick with it you will know things that most men will never know. You will become a new man. You will see the world in a different way. And you'll be very glad that you did.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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WhtRbt said:
No. You need to go here and read EVERYTHING. After you have read everything, then you can call her. I was just estimating that it would take you two weeks to read everything.
Done. I'm doing it now.

This is EXACTLY what I've been looking for! Perfect!

Thank You!

Sina
 

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Also, don't forget to read the free ebooks at the top of the page at the dj bible website
 

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WhtRbt said:
There's a link at the bottom of the page, and also in my previous post. Good Luck. You have tons to learn, but if you stick with it you will know things that most men will never know. You will become a new man. You will see the world in a different way. And you'll be very glad that you did.

You got me REAL excited here! This is AWESOME!

Thank You!

Sina
 

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CoolGuy64 said:
You got me REAL excited here! This is AWESOME!

Thank You!

Sina
You're welcome dude. I can tell by your enthusiasm that you will succeed. Enjoy the journey.

I would also recommend THE SYSTEM by doc love. You have to pay for it, but it's worth every penny.
 

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All that romance crap that you've probably heard about needs to be erased from your memory. No letters, no flowers, no chocolates--none of that. The only exception is a long term relationship for at LEAST six months, and that's only for special occasions when she's earned it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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camdry90 said:
wow, you've got 2 b kidding a letter? r u out of your mind??

HEY! How was I supposed to know that??? Go easy on me, man! lol Yes I am a romantic kind of guy, and I saw the Top 10 Most Dangerous Mistakes TODAY at the site. I had NO idea it was a bad idea to do that. I was just following what I thought was the best thing to do. That's it.

This week, I am doing NOTHING BUT self-improvement, and confidence building, knowing out of pure intuition that this is what I HAVE to do before I regain her trust. The DJ Bible is amazing, by the way! What a resource! This is EXACTLY what I needed to get going. I'm buying a printer today and I'm printing out ALL the PDF's on a hard copy so I have them at my disposal where ever I go for the next week.

This is now my mission. in ONE WEEK I will have read everything on those PDF's so I can start on the best relationship I could ever ask for with this girl.

Sina
 

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Also, dont ever listen to Kelly Clarkson again!
 

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Women, you know, they'll fake sweetness until the point you ask them for something. Don't be fooled. Try to keep an open mind when thinking about a girl.

Most importantly, try focusing you attention on something else, right after you get back from a date/meeting. Just turn off your brain for a few hours. That should help the one-itis problem.
 

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thread maker, Welcome the the world of MAN!!. After your reborn again. This girl your talking about will be writing you love letters!! Good luck man!!! You can recover from this cause I did the same thang! Good Luck!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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