I did it!!! It wasn't so hard!! Thanks sosuave!!

[phlong bong]

I read some negative posts today and what sosuave taught me is u can't have a negative defeated vibe to get girls... So:

I put the words to use: met girls, asked for numbers from those I liked, acted fearless- asked them out, held my breath- went for my first kiss, messed up, finally calmed down and dated. repeated several times without messing up, picked my favorites and now I'm about to celebrate 1 year in my first ltr. AND THIS WHOLE JOURNEY HAS BEEN A BLAST!!!!

all I did was focus on the basics. I keep positive, be confident( even overly), take the lead, allow myself to show girls I am interested and like sex and always always keep the focus on having fun!

I was shrimpy guy who had overgrown hair, old clothes and still got cute girls when I changed my focus from "hope you like me" to "How much fun can we have??"

Well not that easy, I made so many ego bruising mistakes but I feel too good about myself now for having done all this to care about them. Mistakes are necessary.

So thank you everyone, you are great teachers and helped me grow alot.

Oh and i am super thankful to posters who taught the importance of walking--too many guys I met are being treated like garbage by girls who don't even care about them-- especially Ltrs.

Btw I am 2nd year college kid.

 

[Jariel]

Congratulations mate! Glad this site has paid off for you as it did for me.

It always stings to get rejected, especially when your confidence is low, but I find it's the best way to overcome the fear and to stop worrying so much what people think of you.

 

[Drdeee]

Tell us about your mistakes.

 

[mustfirstregister]

Love to hear success story. Congrats!!

 

[squirrels]

I made so many ego bruising mistakes but I feel too good about myself now for having done all this to care about them. Mistakes are necessary.

Quoted for truth. :rockon:

I tried to fit this quote in my sig but I'm out of room.

 

[handle]

"I changed my focus from "hope you like me" to "How much fun can we have??""

This is my favorite part of your post, and I think the number 1 thing everyone should be aiming for. I don't really use much in terms of 'technique' from this site, but what I always make use of is that attitude. You're going to a party? Think of how you're going to have fun. You're chatting her up? Enjoy it. As long as you're having fun with it and not overanalyzing, you're 90% there.

 

[phlong bong]

Tell us about your mistakes.

There's alot, but theyre hard to remember:

When I first read about kino, I had never touched a girl other them hug good bye... So I had this girl over who I'm sure was really into me and we were studying at like 11 pm. First I should have realized no girl comes to a guys place to study at close to mid night but then i decided to try using kino. Except it was so overt-- I just slapped her thigh and started rubbing it after she told a joke... It was so bad it didn't have the effect this site proclaimed... So I thought I should try touching her again somewhere else and again until she responded like the tips section said she would. Of course we didn't really talk after.

Kino was really hard for me to get. I probably creeped out a third of the girls when I began dating trying to do this. But I'm happy I did-- cuz by the time I met the rest of the 2/3 suave light touches had become part of any really fun moment I had with girls.

And if I didn't mess up on these girls I don't even remember I prolly would have killed any chance the night I bumped into my gf.

 

[phlong bong]

Quoted for truth. :rockon:

I tried to fit this quote in my sig but I'm out of room.

I'm honored, one of your posts really inspired me to start trying this stuff and not be afraid to make mistakes.

You wrote somewhere not to be be afraid because if a girl really likes you she'll forgive you for your mistakes.

And it's true-- as long as you can forget it... And except for the kino example I gave above

 

[Furyguy]

When I first read about kino, I had never touched a girl other them hug good bye... So I had this girl over who I'm sure was really into me and we were studying at like 11 pm. First I should have realized no girl comes to a guys place to study at close to mid night but then i decided to try using kino. Except it was so overt-- I just slapped her thigh and started rubbing it after she told a joke... It was so bad it didn't have the effect this site proclaimed... So I thought I should try touching her again somewhere else and again until she responded like the tips section said she would. Of course we didn't really talk after.

Hahaha I am so with you on that one, and everything from the original post, too, for that matter.

I been there, I know where you're at and what you're coming from and it's damn great. Congratulations.