"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Last night was a good night. Even though I went out alone things seemed to work out just fine...but I might have funked something up. Let me know what yall think..

Alright after a long wait to get into the last bar I went to I manage to make my way to the back bar. It's just as busy as the other 3 bars but has a smaller line and is outside. It was crazy hot last night. So I make it to the bar when this Blonde HB8 snuggles right up next to me. I order my drink and she asks me to buy her one.I reply with

"I don't buy people I don't know drinks, especially people I just met."
,and a smile.

She says,

"I buy people drinks all the time"

Yea right I think. I grab my drink and make my way to the dance floor.
After a couple of minutes she's right next to me again and we start dancing.
She starts going on about how she's got money and doesn't need me to buy her a drink. So I reminded her that it's just not my thing to buy strangers drinks or anything for that matter. We get into some good kino and dance closer. Then she starts giving me compliments about my smile and my eyes. I must have had her hooked or something. She then she tells me that she just broke up with her BF yesterday. wtf? on my jock? yea....So I asked her it that was a good thing,( I wanted to see her reaction). She said "yes" and I moved the conversation to another direction. I think she bit my neck then but I can't remember I was kind of drunk. We were still dancing and she said something that I couldn't really hear the music was so loud. She said,

"I don't have sex on the first date, but you can come over and snuggle with me tonight"

I think that's what she said, it was something like that.
I replied with,

"Sounds good to me lets go"

That was during the last song. Then they started closing down the back patio. That's when I got her number. She then starts telling me about how she's got a bottle waiting for her back somewhere and to call her in 5 min to meet her there....

This is where I think I might have funked up what was a good night.
First, I got seperated from her.
Second, I called. She answered though and tried to give me directions, then told me to call back when I got closer, I was on foot. I think she got a ride. It was only a few blocks so it wouldn't have been so bad. But,
I called again when I was as close as I could get from her directions but the call got cut off? So I did something stupid...
I called again ( Bad Monkey) and got the voicemail....D'oh!
So I left a messege telling her that I was going home and that I'll call her this week to get together....

I'm not sure if I funked this up or not. I still have to try and set up a date. She was obviously interested. Now usually I would wait a few days for a first call, but we've already spoken on the phone even if it was brief. I don't know about this time though. We seemed to hit if off pretty well. No kiss though, probably should have I know I could have I just didn't. And the whole fubar of the after club thing. I don't know what do you guys think.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Well I'm not exactly sure why you went home because your cellphone got cut off. Looks like she was looking for a ONS.

Not matter if she wants more than that then she'll be receptive to you calling her. She gave you a real number so she is interested.
 

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sorry I didn't think I made that clear....

I couldn't get a hold of her anymore and I didn't know where she was...that's why I went home. I figured I was already calling her too much and I just met her....didn't want to seem needy or anything.
 

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Flexion is right, she was looking for a one night stand.

No big mistakes.

You wanted to play it cool, you played it cool. Also if you truly wanted her, there wouldn't be a problem. I've made similar mistakes like your story. I played it way too cool and there were some freaky circumstances. Most importantly, I did not know what the $%$$@# I want. Once you know what you desire in the ladies, go for it (took me forever to realize)--meaning, TAKE THAT CHANCE or RISK.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Well I broke my own rules and called this girl...

No answer...left messege....maybe I'll try again later this week, but probably not.



Things to work on>>>>>

Leaving messeges.......damn I suck at that...and its not just for girls...its leaving messeges period.



Keepin it Real...
 

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quick update.....

I called this chick on sun...left messege....see above....

Now it's Tuesday and I'm going out to get my boogie on tonight....I kind of want to get together with this chick either tonight or tomorrow...but I haven't actually spoken to her since Sat night...

Should I try 1 more time or is it too early....

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Ok so I'm impatient and just called her and.....

:up:

we are supposed to get together for Margaritas on Friday

cinco de Mayo baby!!!!

:rockon:

It's not set in stone though, I have to get a hold of her on Friday, but at least she answered the phone which is a big step up from my last few phone calls to girls who decided to let me leave crappy messeges...


go me :cheer:
 

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Best of luck pal!

If it goes well, I will remember your story and try not to be so hard on myself.
 

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I agree with the others, she was after a one night stand...maybe rebound sex after splitting (or arguing) with her BF.

I don't want to sound preachy, but I would always advise against hooking up with girls who are so easy and who recklessly invite strangers back for the night. It would be wise to exercise some caution here. God knows what STDs she could have, let alone any other fvcked up problems.

But then again, these are the risks of one night stands, which is why I've never been interested in them.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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El MonoLoco you over analyze the situation mate ;)

You didnt do alot wrong....however i think you have lost the Meta Frame on this one. You are now chasing her.....on Sat she was chasing you....

C+F btw. When she said "I buy people drinks all the time" i would have said "oh great, i will have a **** then please" *smile*

Personally if you are gaming....dont drink....it ****s with your perception.


You should have kiss closed. Plus i wouldnt have split from her.....

Still you did better than AFCs would have.


Things to be aware of is that she is prob looking for a rebound. So dont look at relationship material.

However she was defo intrested.....As you stood up her first opertunity to talk and she came back.
 

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Quick update....

This chick really digs me....everything went very well...until


Someone put something in my drink and i don't really know what happened at the end of my night.....I'lll try to piece it together and get back at yall...


:confused:
 
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