not_so_suave
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I met a girl on match.com. Red flag #1. She had 20 pics up. She was gorgeous. I thought it was fake. Why would she be interested in me? Anyway, we go out. Sex on the second date. She tells me she loves me after 2 weeks. Wants my phone records after 2 months. Attacks me in public after 3 months because I helped a friend out. Insanely jealous and possessive and insecure. Can't pay her bills, keep a job or a friend. Delusions of grandeur. Has a history of short lived relationships. She had frequent outbursts and would always have to be in control. Then, she starts having psychosomatic illnesses. Thoughts of suicide. It goes on and on. This was the cliff notes version.
We must have broken up 10 times in 8 months. She starts getting eviction notices and stops paying her bills. I couldn't take the instability, lack of responsibility and all the other b.s. I walked away Jan. of this year. I tried to reconcile in May. In that time she had been evicted, lost all her jobs, went to AA, stopped paying on her car, went on public aid, etc. etc. The never ending victim. She dated a new guy. He was an even easier target than me, lol. Let's just say that the female equivalent to this guy is probably that English chick from American Idol.
Anyway, we are going to reconcile and get back together but she tells me her AA sponsor says its not best to be in a relationship right now. WTF? I was devastated. She abused and controlled me and then had the nerve to reject me and shut me out. I have finally been 30 days No Contact after practically begging her to get back with me. I'm still angry and bitter and hurt.
I've always had a tough time meeting women and that's why i would settle for someone like this. I know I will never hear back from her since these bpd's dont like being figured out or rejected. They want to control their enabler. They are parasites and users. However, since she moved on first i feel as if she is better than me. I know, the whole situation is beyond messed up.
We must have broken up 10 times in 8 months. She starts getting eviction notices and stops paying her bills. I couldn't take the instability, lack of responsibility and all the other b.s. I walked away Jan. of this year. I tried to reconcile in May. In that time she had been evicted, lost all her jobs, went to AA, stopped paying on her car, went on public aid, etc. etc. The never ending victim. She dated a new guy. He was an even easier target than me, lol. Let's just say that the female equivalent to this guy is probably that English chick from American Idol.
Anyway, we are going to reconcile and get back together but she tells me her AA sponsor says its not best to be in a relationship right now. WTF? I was devastated. She abused and controlled me and then had the nerve to reject me and shut me out. I have finally been 30 days No Contact after practically begging her to get back with me. I'm still angry and bitter and hurt.
I've always had a tough time meeting women and that's why i would settle for someone like this. I know I will never hear back from her since these bpd's dont like being figured out or rejected. They want to control their enabler. They are parasites and users. However, since she moved on first i feel as if she is better than me. I know, the whole situation is beyond messed up.