"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I choked up on the phone!

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UGH! I gave this girl in my college class today a letter telling her she was beautiful and stuff and she gave me a smile and all this stuff. So later on w/o me knowing my friend ends up giving her my #. So about 10 minutes ago she calls me and was like whats up. I asked her where she was from and like what her favorite movies were and stuff. Then after the basic stuff I started to choke up on the phone and the conversation started to go sour. She asked me if I was nervous and I said, "Yeah I am talking to a beautiful girl!" I asked her if she wanted to go get coffee or something but she doesn't drink coffee. So I then I said I had to go and I asked for her # and she gave it to me. I said I would call her back later. I don't think she is gonna flow with me if I can't hold up the conversation at all. It seems like it went bad after the movie question. When should I call her back? Help!
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I'm Joe Dirt

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Wow... Just Wow...

http://www.penny-arcade.com/view.php?date=2005-01-17

Reminds me of that comic.


But seriously man, uh, you gotta get your act together. I know that words won't mean much to you at this point but you have a long journey in self improvement ahead of you. Until you stop being dependent on the outcomes of interactions with girls, until you stop being needy, like for real not just pretending you're not, success won't really happen that much for ya.

Its a long journey, but given that you're hear, I hope you are ready to start it.
 

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Such motivating words which do not clear the path to my problem and still leave me with a big.... ?
 

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Well, I would say get David DeAngelo's advanced series, and also his Inner Game series if you can. They will set you on the right path.

Also, pick up a copy of "The Game", its a very good book and it will also give you a ton of clues on where to get started with getting good with women.
 

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As soon as you feel a conversation starts to go sour, end it. Say you have to go shave your back.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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dude I hate to say it but she is freaked out kinda like I was when I read your thread. You supplicated to the hilt. If she does answer your call it will be to toy with your mind. MOVE ON
 

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More AFC's flooding the boards.....:rolleyes:

I think you lost her when you said "beautiful girl."

Go read the Bible NOW!



PIMP
 

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I've been there before. I didn't admit to women I was choked up, but it was painly obvious. Chalk it up to experience. I made a committment to get my life handled in the area of women. Now I just look back and laugh at those experiences.
 

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Joe dirt has the right idea...

neo you have to carry the conversation, not drag it along.

Are you going to use the personal information about herself that she gave away for yourself or are you going to let it become a future statistic of wasted moments?
 

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Also I'd like to add that If a girl can tell you are nervous to be talking to her BY PHONE ALONE you have a BIG problem.

You have to work on your composure, practice some routines you can use when you dont have anything better to say or you are trying to think of something. And if you are coming off as nervous and she can tell by phone, I bet in person its even worse.

You gotta get your inner game handled first. As you enter this journey, be prepared to see the world differently.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Unforunately even tho you can easily get this girl, it seems the change will take longer than a week, in wich case you might as well find other girls.
 

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yea read the bible man, u need to work alot on ur self confidence, not being intimidated by ANY girls, learn not to do stuff like give letters expressing how u feel

keep improving.. or.. start..
 
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