I choke when talking

[Jango_Xavier]

I have trouble with talking even after ready the bible I just dont know how to continue a convo and increase IL all I can do is ask how they are or how there days been and introduce myself.
How can I talk to female like im not the average Joe and know that im something different because I just choke to much? and thats a BAD AFC trait.

Jango

 

[biobotz1001]

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practice in non-threatening situations
start with girls you know and aren't interested in or older women or unattractive chicks.

 

[matius]

People can read theory until they're blue in the face, doesn't mean they are going to know how to make an atomic bomb once they have the chemicals.

In my experience, the only reason for not being able to carry on conversations (and believe me I know about not being able to) is letting your inner-demons rear its ugly head. Wheter that's past events, low self-confidence or insecurity.

 

[Jango_Xavier]

Matius,

How do I kill off the inner-demons?

 

[Oxide]

Talk about stuff both of you can relate to, then KINO, DO NOT FORGET KINO. playfully touch her, tease her, make funny comments about things.

2 days ago i was sitting with 2 girls in a car, and i wanted to warm up the situation, so i started waving to some dude who was riding in a truck next to me. both of them jumped on me saying "stop, dont piss him off, blah blah" , kino all over. or i start playing with girls hair, just make some nice comment about it.

later that day i was chilling with 2 girls at a pool hall, and i wanted to warm up the situation again, so i grabbed one girl's cell and said "alright, let call her mom" they both started telling me what a ***** this chick';s mom was, and kino'd me while trying to get the phone out.



FUN + CONVO + KINO= IL.

 

[dionysius_d]

You are focusing too much on yourself!

Forget yourself...

if you get flustered, ask then an open ended question about themselves.. then concentrate on her eyes and listen to her when she talks about herself.

You don't need to talk too much yourself. What is your aim ??

Remember your aim, and only do enough to get that.

 

[Player_Supreme]

I have trouble with talking even after ready the bible I just dont know how to continue a convo and increase IL all I can do is ask how they are or how there days been and introduce myself.
How can I talk to female like im not the average Joe and know that im something different because I just choke to much? and thats a BAD AFC trait.

Jango

Jango that is because you are selfish and self centered! No actually it's cause your stuck only on YOU. You need to get into her head and find out her life story. Ho's love to talk about themselves. example:

Pimp: how was your weekend?
Ho: fine and how was yours?
Pimp: cool, so what did you do?
Ho: went water skying..

this is where most fools loose it. but a true pimp just begins here
Pimp: I've never been skying, I hear it's really hard. You must have strong legs also
Ho: Yeah it's hard at times, and my legs do give out after a while. I'm surprised yo've never been skying.
Pimp: so do you work out to keep your legs looking that good for skying?. and on & on. A true pimp will find out how long she has been skying, the best places to sky...why she started it, then float over to the gym stuff...

Remember who, what where, why, when...openended questions preferably. It's that easy...mostly all you gotta do is just listen for convo cue's to take it in another direction. when neccessary.

example:

the conversation has died out with the ho for the average player, but a pimp remember something she mentioned:

Pimp: I recall you mentioning that you enjoy training in the morning after eating at Noah's bagel shop...which one is the best to go to...

Ho: blah blah blah .....& on & on until she has talked her way into your bed. getting the pu*ssy is that easy.

 

[Trickster_guy_2001]

Originally posted by Jango_Xavier
I have trouble with talking even after ready the bible I just dont know how to continue a convo and increase IL all I can do is ask how they are or how there days been and introduce myself.
How can I talk to female like im not the average Joe and know that im something different because I just choke to much? and thats a BAD AFC trait.

Jango

What helps me a little is that I'm really getting into some forms of psychology. I'm working on learning how an audience thinks, how an individual person thinks, all that.

I still choke. And I do it a lot. But this helps. Maybe you can try it.

 

[Santos]

Originally posted by Jango_Xavier
I have trouble with talking even after ready the bible I just dont know how to continue a convo and increase IL all I can do is ask how they are or how there days been and introduce myself.
How can I talk to female like im not the average Joe and know that im something different because I just choke to much? and thats a BAD AFC trait.

Jango

Hey, I was exactly like you a while ago. You have to stop focusing on YOURSELF and thinking about YOURSELF when talking to other people. Let's lets you concentrate on the conversation by focusing on the OTHER PERSON.

It takes practice to have good convo, I'm not that great - i.e. I can't EASILY have convo with EVERYBODY. But I can have a great convo about 50-60% of the time.

Generally when you first meet woman, you're going to talk about boring stuff. "Where do you work?" "How long you've been working there?". Accept this as fact and ask those "boring"questions. She'll do the same.

Once you've got practice having a general convo about stuff that isn't too personal, you need to learn to open up a bit. Reveal little stories about yourself. More importantly, learn to make people open up there personal stories to you. This makes for more convo next time you meet.

One of the greatest tools you can use in conversation is humour. Humour is a universal thing. And if the two of you have the same sense of humour, you can have FUN together. She will remember that she had fun with you.

Get hobbies, etc. This increases the chances that you'll meet someone with the same interests. Also, try a be a little mysterious. Learn to answer he probing questions with a joke. Mystery attracts women.

And don't tell me you don't have a sense of humour. If you can laugh at someone's wise crack, then you have a sense of humour. Buy comedy CD's and tapes, watch stand-up comedy. Hang around funny people. You'll be amazed how their humour rubs off on you. Learn funny phrases, like e.g: I am very pale so I always like to joke: "I don't try and tan, I just try and neutralise the blue." (I think George Carlin was the first comedian to use that line. Comedians like to steal from each other )

Most importantly, learn to love talking to people. Become curious about everyone. People are fascinating.

Enjoy!
Santos