I cheated on my GF, advice needed.

[dietzcoi]

Player is 100% correct

DO NOT TELL HER!

Everybody who finds out about their spouse/bf/whatever cheating is hurt badly.

People claim that they would want to know. News Flash: YOU DO NOT WANT TO KNOW!

It will ruin the relationship and it will hurt the people involved.

FOrget it and move on, and do not do it again

Dietzcoi

 

[jbbrain]

youre at a cross roads. Im big time against cheating..but lest review some of the facts here.

It was really only a kiss, you didnt fvck her.

You stopped because you realized what you did was wrong, not only that, but you realized how much you dig your girl..

Thats enough for me to say, like the majority of ppl on this thread have said..dont tell her. You obviously realize you did somethign wrong, it made you feel bad, and you dont want to do it again.

Just dont do it again. In the meantime, if more situations arise like this, and you start thinking more and more you should be getting ass on the side, BREAK UP WITH YOUR CHICK.

This isnt about morality here, its about practicality. If you want to fvck around, fvck around, but do it when youre single! Thats what its there for! Cheating is the easist thing to do in the world. theres no fvcking skill, there no real glory..just decide what you want to do and do it!

To Big Chill, you want a fvcking medal or something? "Then I got smart and just kept my **** in the light."

Funny, youre all for cheating (esp. if its 4 months bla bla) then you say you grew "smarter" and I'm assuming, let everyone know you keep your options "open". Am I right?

Then you're not in a relationship. If its exclusive, its exclusive.

If its not, then you shouldnt be in one (taking to the thread starter again).

 

[Skel]

dont tell her anything, whats the big deal?

 

[Chemistry]

Don't tell her...

Before Player, only Oxide really hit it on the head but Player did elaborate some on that...

I mean, sit down, cry your eyes out and confess all!!??

You've been with girl 4 months, she's your first relationship of sorts you said... your 1st is always you gettin to know the ins and outs of relationships, rarely does it go 1st GF, Marriage, Kids.. you actin like the husband here who's all caught up cos he's broken one of the 10 Commandments...

You didn't even **** this girl... oh my, brush the dirt on your shoulder and get on... you've experienced what it's like to kiss another girl now whilst with a GF, so if you don't like it and what comes with it, don't do it again...

Personally, at 20 the only reason guys would settle down is for reasons of safety... what you should be doin is being out and seein what there is out there and runnin your game so that you are gettin some from numerous different girls over time and just experiencin it all... settlin down is for those who's game is weak and their confidence so low that they can't go out and work their magic on another girl and get what they truly want...

Now I wouldn't fault you for gettin a girl and the benefits that come with it and still playin the field cos it's the best of both worlds... if you're conscience can live with it then this is ideal for the needs of the young male, alternatively if you can't, then I would say single is the way forward for a good few years yet until you really have a good view of all that is available before choosin to settle down with a girl...

 

[Player_Supreme]

Ashley Chuckles

chuuch!

 

[princelydeeds]

Please grow a set of BALLS, under no circumstances should you ever just confesss that you kissed another chick. Even if the two girls walked into the room together, with pictures and video tape of me banging the other girl, I would never never admit to anything. I wouldnt care if I got caught butt naked with a face full of the pearl tongue, I would deny everything. If your girl truly cares about you she will aways give you the benefit of the doubt. There is no reason on Earth to ever tell or confess that you kissed another girl. Deny with every ounce of your being.

Confessing you cheated on your girl will end your relationship. She will never, ever, get over it and both of you will always feel like she owes you one. Every time she doesnt get her way or gets angry she will constantly throw it in your face.

You are obviously young, be young have fun. Don't worry about your girl, just keep it real with yourself. I haven't had a LTR since 98, but even when I did man, I cheated on them so much I never really thought about it. I used to cheat 2 or 3 times a week, on a bad week. Life is so short why waste it trying to serve one silly chick who in 3 or 4 years you will barely remember. I would love to be 20 again. No relationships just fun, WOW you dont realise how good you have it. Quit being such a sucker for love!!!!

 

[Kaos-DJ]

Thanks dudes, you're all right. To the twit that called me a *****, re-read the first post. I did not want to get with the other chick, I did not want to cheat on my chick, and I felt bad about it. Actually I am more than happy being exclusive, but what happened was the result of too many drinks and a brief spot of stupidity.

@Newman - I am young. I was also drunk... and I also got sucked in. I was also stupid! The relationship is not doomed to fail, bearing in mind the circumstances. Use your eyes and read the post next time maybe . And yeah I was looking for people to tell me what I wanted to hear. Aren't we all? In the end that is, co-incidentally, exactly what I got.

The comments have been appreciated, now excuse me while I go and slap my salami all over my girls face...

thanks again.

 

[Unregistered]

People claim that they would want to know. News Flash: YOU DO NOT WANT TO KNOW!

Is this something you tell your girlfriend? "woman, I expect you to be completely faithful to me. But just in case you ever slip up and bang another man, make sure to lie to me about it. I couldn't handle that kind of emotional pain"

If you're not going to tell her, then break up with her for some bull**** reason. If I was dating a girl for 4 months, I sure as hell would want to know about something like this before I wasted any more time, money, or committment.

It's ironic that so many on this board love to bash "lying backstabbing hoes" but advocate the same behavior to anyone with a phallus.

 

[Kaos-DJ]

1. A drunken kiss/feel, without emotional attachment, which i DO regret, is significantly different from calculated sexual cheating.

2. Telling her is, as others have rightly said, bound to end the relationship; reason being she could not possibly understand how riciculous I feel about it all.

I have not lied, I have not backstabbed. If and when the issue arises down the line, I will tell her.

 

[dietzcoi]

Unregistered:

I am not advocating cheating!

I am just saying, since it already happened, and we cannot undo it, DON'T TELL!

People like you claim they would want to know. Maybe so, so you can break up.

BUT, if you want to stay with the person, it is better not to know. Once you know, it will tear you up inside.

Many, many people whose spouses tell them about an affair which is OVER and in the past, wish they had not been told. They cannot change it - why suffer the pain of knowing about it?

THis is not advocating cheating for men or women! This is advocating limiting the damage. If you cheated - you live with the knowledge. Do not burden your partner and ruin his or her life due to your mistake!

Dietzcoi