"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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"I Can't?????"

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I was with this girl the other night, and everything went great until we started hooking up. I kissed her, and we made out for awhile, and then as we progressed she said she had to stop. "Ahh dammit" I thought. Well she tried to explain to me that she just got of of a relationship, and some sh*t about her boyfriend. I got pissed a bit and basically tried to reason with her for a minute (looking back I don't think I should have allowed myself to play her game, by allowing her to stop me and me to basically beg for more was not good, I feel like maybe I should have gotten up immediatly and walked away putting myself back in control...at the same time I feel like that is giving up the fight, im a bit confised here) after a bit of nonsense talk I respectfully got up and walked away completely ignoring her. At no point did I ever force her to do anything against her will, its not like she just gave me a peck on the cheek either. Basically I am wondering in the event this happens again and a chick in the middle of making out or right as we are about to have sex says "I cant" or "I shouldnt" what should I do, what is the best and most respectful way to relax them or allow them to continue what they were doing, or finish the job they started...heh.

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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well, i don't know about you, but I have never f*cked a girl the first time we started making out, which is kind of a good thing, cause I would lose respect for her if that was the case. Its a little test of mine. If she has sex with me the first time we get a little sexual, her value drops SIGNIFICANTLY. I don't think it is a bad thing at all that she didn't want to. Just make sure she knows that you are not so desperate as to be pissed or disappointed that you didnt get sex. Just make sure she knows that it doesn't faze you, like you can get sex from a million other places, and you are doing her the favour by offering it to her. Don't just storm away. Just agree, put your pants back on and make a cup of coffee or something. :cool:
 
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I know exactly what you mean, and every guy in here has experienced this. I think it was a bad move when you tried to talk her into logically and got pissed. I think you should have kept trying more before you left. Persistance overcomes resistance. Keep plugging away, she could have been playing hard to get. Or try my style by going into suave mode. " I know we are kinda moving a little fast.....but ur lips feel sooo good." Move in for another kiss.

Never overreact when a girl says she will not have sex with you, this is a silly way of rationalizing her "dirty" behavior and making it seem like your the one responsible for all the nautiness so she doesnt feel like a slut..

Thats situation is something you need to anticipate and and have rehearsed responces to. Think of ways to get her back in seduction mode and always keep your cool. besides, shes the one trying to sleep with YOU.
 
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Originally posted by exwhyzee
I was with this girl the other night, and everything went great until we started hooking up. I kissed her, and we made out for awhile, and then as we progressed she said she had to stop. "Ahh dammit" I thought. Well she tried to explain to me that she just got of of a relationship, and some sh*t about her boyfriend. I got pissed a bit and basically tried to reason with her for a minute (looking back I don't think I should have allowed myself to play her game, by allowing her to stop me and me to basically beg for more was not good, I feel like maybe I should have gotten up immediatly and walked away putting myself back in control...at the same time I feel like that is giving up the fight, im a bit confised here) after a bit of nonsense talk I respectfully got up and walked away completely ignoring her. At no point did I ever force her to do anything against her will, its not like she just gave me a peck on the cheek either. Basically I am wondering in the event this happens again and a chick in the middle of making out or right as we are about to have sex says "I cant" or "I shouldnt" what should I do, what is the best and most respectful way to relax them or allow them to continue what they were doing, or finish the job they started...heh.

thanks.
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Everyone that I've been with minus maybe one or two "Shouldnt have done it"

They all did though:p

Just keep doing what you were doing, just slow it down a bit. I always say ok and get right back in for a kiss. When she says "I said I cant" I just say that I only want to kiss and they have no problem with that.

Go at it well enough and eventually she will ask "Do you have any condoms?"

:eek:
 
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Say "I know", keep making out, and try again in a few minutes.

Let her be the one to end it if she really wants to. You do what you want to do.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I know that "No" sometimes means "Yes" and "Yes" sometimes means "No" but I NEVER LET MY SELF GUESS. Even if she said "Maybe" I would have got up and left...... GETING CHARGED WITH RAPE IS SOMETHING I DON'T WANT. Plus it teaches the gurll to let her self go if she really wants it, and quit playing the guessing game.
 
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Originally posted by spider_007
I know that "No" sometimes means "Yes" and "Yes" sometimes means "No" but I NEVER LET MY SELF GUESS. Even if she said "Maybe" I would have got up and left...... GETING CHARGED WITH RAPE IS SOMETHING I DON'T WANT. Plus it teaches the gurll to let her self go if she really wants it, and quit playing the guessing game.
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Im not condoning doing anything against her wishes. Simply telling her you just want to kiss is not against the law and gives you the chance to "change her mind" if you are a good kisser.

I always wait for them to bring up sex if they have already said the "shouldnt"
 
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you are right, It's just that some guy have no self control and start getting pushy. Sex will be the best when she "wants" to do it, not when she is pressured to do it.
 
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Originally posted by spider_007
you are right, It's just that some guy have no self control and start getting pushy. Sex will be the best when she "wants" to do it, not when she is pressured to do it.
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Exactly!:D

Once she realizes that she REALLY wants you then you are in for quite an experience. Its sooo much better when they are the one asking for it.
 
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