I can't....

[CapedCrusader08]

Get rid of this inner negative mental clout. I mean,this is screwing me internally,and I can't get rid of it. It has made me hateful,angry,and embittered. Pointing my finger at other's,rather than myself,cause it's just easier to do. I mean,I don't go around spouting this off to people,but the feeling is there nonetheless. It's some sort of depression to where I can't feel good/react to anything positive. Everything is negative to me.

 

[oakraiderz2]

The subconscious mind is more powerful than the conscious mind. With that being said, use affirmations (look them up so you can make your own), read positive quotes and control your thoughts, which is hard. Instead of pointing fingures and being upset at what you dont have, be gratefull for the things in your life that you do have. Surround yourself with positivity and youll begin to change.

 

[CapedCrusader08]

What is the difference between the two?

As for the things I do have,I have felt I could have more,not in a greedy way,but in a I could be on another level way. It may have to do with the way I see things. Sometimes,I look at things on the large scale,when in fact,it's a small scale thing.

 

[user43770]

Oak means that you should look at what you have in comparison to those less fortunate. There are always those a lot worse off than you.

You need to find things that you enjoy in life. You should always try to have something to look forward to, even if it's just the weekend. Set goals and strive to achieve them; a sense of accomplishment goes a long way. Take pride in what you do and never let anybody walk over you. Finally, make a point to conquer your fears.

Positive thinking leads to positive living.

Another thing, smile more often. You'll be surprised how much of a difference this actually makes.

 

[The Bat]

Yo dude, alright you sound like you're in a rut, and NOT hopeless. I think you just need some inspiring words and a fresh outlook...here, read these three posts by Interceptor...really absorb them (especially The Forced March):

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=142890
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=136262
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=141177

Have you read the DJ Bible? The Book Of Pook? I think those will help you greatly too.

And you do realize that you're doing a lot better than 90% of guys out there who are lost and are just fooling themselves into thinking that they are leading a successful life.

You're going to have rebuild and turn your life around stone by stone. You can't expect a change overnight.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pz4dVof3mTc

I think that song really applies to your situation.

Do you have anything going in that brings positive emotions (joy, pleasure, laughter) in your life? Think really hard dude. There has got to be at least ONE thing that makes you feel good that you must do on a regular basis. If you can't come up with anything, what are you waiting for?

For example, I use working out as a stress reliever. At the end of a body hurtin' workout, I feel GREAT! Because I feel that I have accomplished something ALL by myself and THAT is something that NOBODY can EVER take that away from me. Ever! It gives me confidence knowing that I can accomplish anything that I set my mind to.

Point is, like Interceptor talks about a lot, you have to find a purpose in your life. It doesn't have to be a single purpose like saving the world. It can be multiple small purposes that are short term and long term, and might not sound very grand, but yet they are still purposes. If I elaborate more on it, I'll lose the meaning of it. Just refer to Interceptor's posts about (it's in Warrior's Scroll I think).

Anyway, ACT my man. ACT, ACT, ACT! You are a MAN! You are not supposed to sit there and loathe about your life and your state of mind. You know who does that? Women, children, old people with alzheimers, and mentally ill patients (schizo's, BPD's, etc.).

Are you one of those people? And don't give me that bull about depression/anxiety. Kick that crap to the curb my friend. You are not that person! You are better than that! Know it & EMBRACE IT!! :trouble:

 

[CapedCrusader08]

I know there are those less fortunate,and I am not mocking them or anything,and I know I should be grateful for what I have and all that,but there is this feeling of something being wrong. Something missing,I get racing thoughts as well,anxiety attacks,feelings of inferiority.

This is something beyond a rut,this is an all out bitter,hateful,cynical view of the world,and an anger at people in general. Mostly due to a lack of successess,esp with women,and feelings that go along with that.

As for feeling positives,some instances I do,some I don't. I am concerned I may have bpd. I can relate to what is described. There is this great sense of lost time I have,of years gone bye,and not having taken action that I just cannot seem to shake, plus a tendency to be weary of people/groups,sometimes I see people as idiots,followers,in a foolish competition to get a leg up on others over petty matters.

 

[theunflushables]

I completely understand where are you coming from. I am a pretty cynical person myself and have battled depression in the past.

It's completely natural to feel like something is missing, or that you could have it so much better. Its part of the human psyche. Ever hear of those people who win big in the casino? As soon as they win, they want more and go on to blow their fortune. Leaving poorer than they started.

Of course if you take to that extreme you will eventually fail as well. Find a middle ground. If you're not happy with your lot, find a way to change it. Use your anger and negativity as a catalyst. For example if you're fat and it effects your mood, "I hate being fat, no one wants to be with me because I'm fat" throw out the twinkies and start working out with the goal that you will never have to experience that feeling about being fat again. Same goes for money, your career, pvssy or lack there of, anything.

Negativity can be good if you use it for change.

 

[CapedCrusader08]

How though? what do I do? what can I do? what can I do to break the cycle? this has been a recurring problem for me for quite a long time.

 

[oakraiderz2]

How though? what do I do? what can I do? what can I do to break the cycle? this has been a recurring problem for me for quite a long time.

Make a list of what youre thankful for, affirmations, quotes, pretty much what i said previously. Surround yourself with things that make you feel good. The subconscious mind doesnt distinguish between thing you want/like or things you dont want/like (ex. if you dont want to worry, youll worry more). The mind also processes positive information better than negative information.

 

[CapedCrusader08]

I have tried that,but still leaves me feeling this way. What I can't get over,and have gotten anxiety attacks over,is not having a steady gf or social circle. Oh sure,I can talk with people,but there is a feeling of not belonging. I know,say,turn that into a strength. But it's like,idk,stuff I haven't gotten over. I mean,this stuff is killing me. I mean,my mind is locked onto this stuff,all I can seemingly do is obsess over it.