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r4zorsharp

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Truthfully, I've had the pleasure of dating some beautiful girls, models and all.. I was always a ****ty guy when it came to interpersonal communication. And portraying myself well.. I kind of just winged everything, and did whatever without realizing that girls analyze everything you say and do.. needless to say, I lost girls before anything got serious..

I had about two relationships I would classify as serious.. One being semi serous and the other being quite serious. The latter, I learned some super hard lessons abut myself.. I learned i wasn't a playa, I learned that I wasn't God's gift to women like my silly ego had me think because I had dated so many girls in my past and not only that, really magnified all those experiences to be so glamorous when they probably weren't.. However, 3-4 of the girls were definitely model quality.

I simped so hard for my ex after things went bad.. I begged for her to come back practically and all.. I was ruined.

What was my biggest problem? 1) sexual insecurity/ performance anxiety.. if it weren't for the little blue pill, fvck, i can only imagine what woulda happened.. sadly i was never truthful to any girl about this embarrassing issue due to abusing porn and masturbation for more than a decade
2) financial status.. for a long time i was living with family and i still do now

The best part of my long journey laced with bad experiences with women was facing the HARD, COLD, REALITY of what I had become. At least when I was younger I was very confident and had a real confident personality. But this time, I was a shell of what I was before.. Albeit, not drowning in any sorrow but just facing the reality that.. in a lineup of 20 men, I would probably be somewhere near the bottom when it came to what I had to offer a chick. Or at least thats how I felt.

Now I'm finally healing from the past and finding my personality once again and gaining more confidence.. I still have tons to work on, and it might be another year or two before I finally have a good sex life.. But boy, I tell ya, I can't wait. I would love to have a sex partner or multiple sex partners who are not hoes and are really decent girls to have sex with.. I really can't wait to practice and get better at sex. In total in my life I only had sex about 100 times and most of that was from one partner. and boy was i bad at sex.. I would have sex like i was nailing a hammer.. just a fierce intensity, just slamming , no rythym, one trick pony.. or two trick pony.. sadly the girl was loose too compared to other girls. I imagine it was terrible for her .. i can recall several times where she would wanna just stop. and couple that with super posessiveness/clinginess..

Never going back to that **** again! haha
 

mrgoodstuff

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Truthfully, I've had the pleasure of dating some beautiful girls, models and all.. I was always a ****ty guy when it came to interpersonal communication. And portraying myself well.. I kind of just winged everything, and did whatever without realizing that girls analyze everything you say and do.. needless to say, I lost girls before anything got serious..

I had about two relationships I would classify as serious.. One being semi serous and the other being quite serious. The latter, I learned some super hard lessons abut myself.. I learned i wasn't a playa, I learned that I wasn't God's gift to women like my silly ego had me think because I had dated so many girls in my past and not only that, really magnified all those experiences to be so glamorous when they probably weren't.. However, 3-4 of the girls were definitely model quality.

I simped so hard for my ex after things went bad.. I begged for her to come back practically and all.. I was ruined.

What was my biggest problem? 1) sexual insecurity/ performance anxiety.. if it weren't for the little blue pill, fvck, i can only imagine what woulda happened.. sadly i was never truthful to any girl about this embarrassing issue due to abusing porn and masturbation for more than a decade
2) financial status.. for a long time i was living with family and i still do now

The best part of my long journey laced with bad experiences with women was facing the HARD, COLD, REALITY of what I had become. At least when I was younger I was very confident and had a real confident personality. But this time, I was a shell of what I was before.. Albeit, not drowning in any sorrow but just facing the reality that.. in a lineup of 20 men, I would probably be somewhere near the bottom when it came to what I had to offer a chick. Or at least thats how I felt.

Now I'm finally healing from the past and finding my personality once again and gaining more confidence.. I still have tons to work on, and it might be another year or two before I finally have a good sex life.. But boy, I tell ya, I can't wait. I would love to have a sex partner or multiple sex partners who are not hoes and are really decent girls to have sex with.. I really can't wait to practice and get better at sex. In total in my life I only had sex about 100 times and most of that was from one partner. and boy was i bad at sex.. I would have sex like i was nailing a hammer.. just a fierce intensity, just slamming , no rythym, one trick pony.. or two trick pony.. sadly the girl was loose too compared to other girls. I imagine it was terrible for her .. i can recall several times where she would wanna just stop. and couple that with super posessiveness/clinginess..

Never going back to that **** again! haha
"Not h0es"... good luck. Just get a female friend and go in the swinger club and fvck s few babes.
 

Black Widow Void

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I think this is normal. We all usually hit a bad patch when there's been a break up from a serious relationship.

I'll explain something that in hindsight, I now realize was counterproductive. Maybe by doing so, it'll save you from the same situation.

After a break up, we tend to do more introspection and a lot of times, we blame ourselves completely (when in actuality, neither party is 100% blameless).

Afterward, we typically do not score as much and this only compounds our bad feelings toward self. What we (or at least I ) failed to realize is that when we are walking wounded, it's going to repel women. And of course, any additional rejection will continue the spiral of not feeling good, confident or empowered.

The thing I learned (actually later) from my own experience.... was to not allow female approval to determine my self-worth. Sometimes we get into a rut and also in a funk at times. It happens to everyone. If we measure our successes based on others, we subconsciously 'communicate' to the other person that we are somewhat reliant on them. And no one wants to feel that way, right?

Focus on things you enjoy. For every bad thought you have about yourself, force yourself to think of two positives. Before you know it, you'll be projecting a more positive image.
 

r4zorsharp

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I think this is normal. We all usually hit a bad patch when there's been a break up from a serious relationship.

I'll explain something that in hindsight, I now realize was counterproductive. Maybe by doing so, it'll save you from the same situation.

After a break up, we tend to do more introspection and a lot of times, we blame ourselves completely (when in actuality, neither party is 100% blameless).

Afterward, we typically do not score as much and this only compounds our bad feelings toward self. What we (or at least I ) failed to realize is that when we are walking wounded, it's going to repel women. And of course, any additional rejection will continue the spiral of not feeling good, confident or empowered.

The thing I learned (actually later) from my own experience.... was to not allow female approval to determine my self-worth. Sometimes we get into a rut and also in a funk at times. It happens to everyone. If we measure our successes based on others, we subconsciously 'communicate' to the other person that we are somewhat reliant on them. And no one wants to feel that way, right?

Focus on things you enjoy. For every bad thought you have about yourself, force yourself to think of two positives. Before you know it, you'll be projecting a more positive image.
Thanks for your response. I must say that for me, its not really being in a bad patch after a relationship necessarily.. Though some of it might be.. For myself, I've had a long history of abusing porn and masturbating very often and for so many years. I made my brain and body so used to auto-satisfaction when it came to feeling aroused. and now my sexual arousal is mostly based on mental arousal and often times i have to stimulate arousal through visual cues and stuff. I mean i'm alright at times .. because ive been taking supplements and stuff.. But I usually have to wait about 2 weeks without masturbating to start feeling normal arousal again.

I think what will really help me is finding a girl that I can be honest and open with about my situation and who is understanding and nurturing so that I can practice having sex regularly with her and improve naturally. For someone whos only had sex about 100 times tops, and with the use of a blue pill for many of those times, its all about training my brain and body again and gaining that confidence in bed.
 

Stoic

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It sounds like a big part of your remedy will be abstaining from porn and masturbation, yeah?
 

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