I cant text a girl im always boring

[Carlsen]

Hey guys you got to help me i get hooked up with a lot of ladies alot of ladies give their numbers but i cant text then even if i try i always end up boring then i loose the war before even going to it please help

 

[khadd909]

i think you best thing you can do with a girls number is set a date with her , dont give out too much information about your self to keep the mystery going

 

[skinnyguy]

Text after you work out or go for a really hard run. The adrenaline will make you more exciting. Just act like you're throwing a party and everyone wants to talk to you.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

You: "Help, I can't text a girl"
Me: "Great - you shouldn't be texting them anyway"

In fact, the only time you should be using the phone - texting or calling (I prefer calling, but people on these boards will argue otherwise) - is to set up a date. The less you say on the phone, the more you'll have to say in person. Don't buy into the lie that a girl needs to hear from you all the time - she doesn't. Especially if you know you're boring on the phone, you're not helping yourself by jumping on the phone just because you THINK it's what you're supposed to do. It's not. Learn how to use texting (if necessary) to ask them out while sounding fun, but for the love of GOD don't think constantly text flirting is necessary to keep a girl around.

Hope this helps!

 

[skinnyguy]

You: "Help, I can't text a girl"
Me: "Great - you shouldn't be texting them anyway"

In fact, the only time you should be using the phone - texting or calling (I prefer calling, but people on these boards will argue otherwise) - is to set up a date. The less you say on the phone, the more you'll have to say in person. Don't buy into the lie that a girl needs to hear from you all the time - she doesn't. Especially if you know you're boring on the phone, you're not helping yourself by jumping on the phone just because you THINK it's what you're supposed to do. It's not. Learn how to use texting (if necessary) to ask them out while sounding fun, but for the love of GOD don't think constantly text flirting is necessary to keep a girl around.

Hope this helps!

Harry - you know I think you're awesome…but what do you think of using texting to build rapport. If you've only met a girl once, say at a club, how are you going to get her on a date without a little bit of banter?

If I go straight for the date, I almost always get shot down. If I build up rapport with her and get her interested in me, I almost always score a date.

I know that you are completely anti-texting and I respect that. I just think that guys can learn some text game, since most girls these days do NOT pick up their phones and prefer to text. I've had girls specifically tell me they don't like talking on the phone.

 

[JohnChops]

Harry - you know I think you're awesome…but what do you think of using texting to build rapport. If you've only met a girl once, say at a club, how are you going to get her on a date without a little bit of banter?

If I go straight for the date, I almost always get shot down. If I build up rapport with her and get her interested in me, I almost always score a date.

I know that you are completely anti-texting and I respect that. I just think that guys can learn some text game, since most girls these days do NOT pick up their phones and prefer to text. I've had girls specifically tell me they don't like talking on the phone.

I always use texting to build rapport , then on the date we are more comfortable with eachother. Always has worked for me, but different she groups and styles effect textings usage.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Harry - you know I think you're awesome…but what do you think of using texting to build rapport. If you've only met a girl once, say at a club, how are you going to get her on a date without a little bit of banter?

If I go straight for the date, I almost always get shot down. If I build up rapport with her and get her interested in me, I almost always score a date.

I know that you are completely anti-texting and I respect that. I just think that guys can learn some text game, since most girls these days do NOT pick up their phones and prefer to text. I've had girls specifically tell me they don't like talking on the phone.

I don't like the idea of texting to build rapport. In my experience, if I make a good enough impression on them when I first meet them, there's no need to banter with them prior to calling them up for a date. I've met girls at parties/clubs/school/work/etc, and in each scenario my game is the same: give her social proof by not talking to her first; create a "transitional conversation" that allows me to talk to her without it feeling forced; get her laughing while talking close enough to her to where she feels we're already bonding; wait for her to kino me first (via a light touch while telling me a story, sitting on my lap, etc.); then, at the height of those good feelings, get the number and bounce. I leave on a high note with her so that she's looking forward to me calling her and asking her out - thus, me not having to constantly text her for 3 days prior.

Now, that's not to say that others on these boards haven't had success in getting a girl to go out with them by "building rapport" via texting. However, I will say that, based on the number of posts made on SoSuave, the number of guys able to hold on to a girl long term as a result of all this rapport-building texting is at a very, VERY small percentage. Guys make the mistake of thinking they need to be all in a girl's face all the time to make sure she knows beyond a shadow of a doubt that he likes her. This is not the case. In actuality, what I have found to be true for me is that the LESS I communicate with a girl between dates, the MORE LIKELY she is to not only stick around longer, but to make sure that when she DOES see me she makes it as memorable as possible for me so that she's more assured I won't be dating others when I'm not around her. It's one of the many reasons I'm able to score so quickly with girls I'm dating - they're willing to do more physically with me early on simply because they want to make sure I'll stick around. But hey, you can keep on textin' em if ya want to