"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dhoulmagus

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I am paranoid and suffer from a lot of anxiety. I am also impatient lol. Except for being a white knight, it is really hard for me handle women like yall do. Am I just ******?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Most problems comes because you think so. There is no anxiety if you don't make it so. In fact, there is not a single reason to be anxieted. I have not found one even tough i hear alot of reasons here but none of them makes any sense.
 

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You're not at all fu*ked. You just need to become more confident and work on your fears.

We all have to start somewhere, and I was in the same boat not too long ago. I didn't have many chances to meet girls until getting a drivers license at 17. From having such a late start I would often suffer from bad anxiety, and would have panic attacks at the thought of doing anything with a girl. After some experience, and finally beating the fears things finally changed for the better.

You have to start off small, and work your way up. Start off by doing something like smiling at a girl as you're walking past, or maybe starting small talk. Once you start doing things like that and become comfortable with it, your confidence will increase.

As for the thoughts that you'll never get with a woman, it's BS. You can attract good women, it's all about confidence, and the way you carry yourself. Never think things like "This girl wouldn't want anything to do with me" always think positive. Don't be ****y, but never think you aren't good enough for someone.

Just be careful and don't give up.
 

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If you can't see it, then you never will be sorry. Only you can make the changes needed.
 

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I would have did better in my grandparents environment.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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