"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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I can't get with "easy" girls

The LadyKiller

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To be clear, I am not actively looking to get with HBs who are "easy." At the same time, I've come across a horror: I CAN'T get the "easy" girl to want me when it appears everybody else can.

This has really only happened to be twice before:
-3 years ago. At an internship I had (where we had to travel), we met a HB who briefly worked with us. THE HORROR: She got with the 3 other male interns and she initiated it. I got nothing and she tried to make me look bad by flirting openly with everyone else.
-2 years ago. (Different) HB is in the area for a few months. HB didn't come off as "easy." THE HORROR: She got with a number of other guys (either sex or dates, etc.) and was tabbed as easy, I had no shot.

Now, THE HORROR is returning. In my current location, a new HB has entered the scene. She's forward with the other guys, I get the regular, normal-person treatment. I'm not "unattractive" - I work out and am buff, but for some reason, the "easy" girls want nothing to do with me. Though I do ok with other HBs, you would think the "easier" girls would be more of a lock.

Is there some sort of emission I'm letting out that is hurting my game with these types of women?
 

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zinc4

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I have felt like this too in social situations..hahaha i know the feeling..you don't really care to get with them but it bothers you they don't want you or act like they don't want you...it's just your ego
 

Mike32ct

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"Easy" girls are some of the most picky. They go for a particular type of guy.

It's not that you are doing anything wrong per se. You just might not fit the profile that they go for. She could be in to really tall guys, bad boy types, etc. Or its a clique thing. Rest assured, there is an approximate common denominator.

The most common scenario is what a friend of mine called "The 9 02 10." Thus is where an "easy" girl rotates ONLY through a social clique of good looking/popular guys. If you are not a solid member of that clique (from the GIRLS perspective), forget it. Being buddys with one or more of the guys isn't enough.

It's better for you to focus on finding interns that are receptive to YOU.

With all due respect, trying to F someone because your peers F-ed them is something women, not men do. I totally understand the competitive instinct and a bit of jealousy, but honestly, the only way to "win" this game is to find your own targets independently. She's either someone the popular guys haven't gotten with yet or perhaps have overlooked.
 

RedScorpion

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One of the 'easy' girls here is actually really picky in her targets. She'll flirt heavily with 'safe' targets, guys that are married, old, superiors, have gfs, etc., for their attention. And usually once that need has been fulfilled, she'll back off completely and go for someone else. Or worse, if you reciprocate flirting (as she has with myself), she'll take huge offense to it (Don't touch me! after blowing in your ear, and other bs)

No idea how she actually hooks up with guys. But I've learned these girls are poison, in most interactions (tried being just friends with this girl, turned into snotty ***** sometimes - cut her out completely). They are unpredictable, they don't react normally, and truly, are messed up. Of course, this is just one example.
 

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RedScorpion said:
One of the 'easy' girls here is actually really picky in her targets. She'll flirt heavily with 'safe' targets, guys that are married, old, superiors, have gfs, etc., for their attention. And usually once that need has been fulfilled, she'll back off completely and go for someone else. Or worse, if you reciprocate flirting (as she has with myself), she'll take huge offense to it (Don't touch me! after blowing in your ear, and other bs)

No idea how she actually hooks up with guys. But I've learned these girls are poison, in most interactions (tried being just friends with this girl, turned into snotty ***** sometimes - cut her out completely). They are unpredictable, they don't react normally, and truly, are messed up. Of course, this is just one example.
Ha Ha... I knew a few girls like this... They really were messed up, but so was I, at the time. They were definitely "bad girls", with a plethora of issues and insecurities... They're just straight up nuts, and live for the drama, chaos, and attention. They also LOVE bad boys and *******s, and get turned off by decent guys. You definitely have to get in and get out - which is all they want, and are good for... despite complaining about it constantly. All part of their craziness.

Of course, you have to be very attractive to pull the hot ones - 'cause all they care about are "hot guys" and "pretty boys"... and all they talk about is wanting sex (if you fit the bill). Very shallow, stuck up, and useless. You CAN'T act normal or decent around them, and have to be "high class" to gain their attention. Too bad they're not worth it.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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