"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I cant get along with other guys, with out getting disrespected

trojanman88

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Well recently I had a pack of friends but now I don't talk to them. I ran with them for like 13 weeks withought a problem. But then this older guy was getting increasingly disrepectful. Which I realized that I cant get along with this chump if he's going to treat me like a *****. So I ditched them for like a week and a half and started hanging with other people. I realized that these people just wanted let me into their social circle cuz i'm black and they are all white. Sad to say but its true, they would go out and never invite me, smile in my face and let me clown around and ENTERTAIN but thats all. When it came to really hanging out besides around the lunch table they wouldn't give me a chance. Not trying to start a race war, so I moved on and came back to my old friends. Things were starting to go smoothly until 2 weeks ago where, this guy thats my age started trying to pass all the bad attention off of himself over to me. Like litterally everytime the older guy would talk some **** to him he'd turn to me and start talking **** and try to take the pressue off himself. I'd clown him and get over it but then he'd start making comments like "all you do is talk ****" just derogatory comments that made everyone else take me seriously if I even slightly made a joke like remark to them. So I got mad when day and stopped talking in a middle of *****es room cuz he would shut the fucdk up after I clowned him. I seriously felt like choking the sh it out of him. So anyway the next day I came around and he most clearly had been talking about it cuz everything seemed so akward. And like people were all trying to get all at odds with me and obviously had took his side. Which led me to an argument with another in the group. So like I know have these three guys that are pissed at me and thats when the older guy had to step in to try and clame the alpha position. Why? cuz he's jealous of me and my talents, so he is always trying to compete for sh it like that. And cuz I get more GIRLS so he never really liked me and he waited like 13 weeks for me to slip up with other group members to try and over thro me. SERIOUSLY. SO the older guy starts the argument with me that ends in an all out clown fest me vs. 4 people and he made a comment like "ALright thats enough cuz now i'm just starting to get aggravated" like he has authority over me and I could have just been a ***** and maintained his friendship but no. I had to challenge him. And it ends up with the younger dude getting on the old dudes sack saying " Believe me I know your not mad (talking to older dude) cuz if you were somebody would have gotten socked in the face (hinting at me)" the older dude replies " i know" i reply " nah i'm not getting socked in the face whether he's mad happy or sad." And I left it at that and I couldn't believe it went that far after that many weeks of friendship. you kno.

So like I want to know how to get along with other guys withought being considered a bitc h cuz im no bitc h.
 

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And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

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