"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I can't gain weight?

nvictor

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Guys,

I'm in this situation where I want to gain weight. (not bulk up of anything, just stop being skinny.) I have asked there before. I have eaten my 3 eggs a day with plenty pasta, bread, chicken, and rice. I have to admit that I could not respect the 3 meals a day though (being a student...). I'm still the same, nothing is changing :(

I came, but could find the old post that detailed how nutrition should be done.

Please help.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Are you working out?

If you are not exercising your body sees no need for you to eat more so you simply don't. You should never force yourself to eat if you're full.

So if you want to gain weight, hit the gym. Your body will naturally want to eat more to recover.
 

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Oh! So that's how it works!

Maxtro, thanks. Do you remember the post that explained the BMI and all those protein stuff? I tried fitday.com today, and fvck them for telling me that their program is tailored for weight loss.
 

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BMI is actually not that helpful.

For example, around this time last year I was 5'6 and 156lbs with 24% body fat. Even though I had that much fat on my body I was still well within the healthy range for BMI.

Now I'm down to 145lbs with 17% body fat. Say my goal is to be as heavy as I was last year but have only 15% body fat. In essence the BMI is the same but there is a difference of about 14lbs of muscle. That is a big difference. If I can reach 160lbs with about 12% body fat, I'd look freakin amazing. That is a my goal for a couple of years from now.

So forget BMI and focus on gaining muscle. BTW gaining fat is unavoidable so don't stress about it. Just make sure you are working out and eating. You do want to eat more than thrice a day.

I don't know much about protein but there is a lot of information on this site. Hopefully somebody can help you with that.

Read the Where to Start thread at the top of the H & F page.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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nvictor said:
Maxtro, how does one measure body fat?
There are several methods.

1. Do hydrostatic weighing which is the most accurate
2. Having somebody (usually a fitness professional) measure you using calipers.
3. There are handheld devices that can give you a measurement
4. An electronic scale that also gives you your BF %

I have somebody measure me (#2) at least once every 2 weeks and I also have an electronic scale. Surprisingly enough the scale gives me the same BF reading that the calipers do 99% of the time.

The scale was around $50 I don't quite remember because I've had it for years.
 

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Maxtro said:
You should never force yourself to eat if you're full.
Might as well give up now then.

You realize your stomach stretches, right? I can easily eat what used to be a chore these days. You adjust.



I don't get why this is so damn hard. Take protein in the amount of 1.5/g/lb of body weight + fill the rest in with fats and carbs with whatever number of calories makes the scale increase. What the hell is the difficulty? Scale doesn't move? Eat more. Can't eat more? Tough. Eat more anyway. What else do you want to hear? There is no magic.
 

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I'm going to have to disagree with you there. Just from working out your body will want to eat more. There is no need to stuff yourself.

The key is to eat whenever you are hungry and not put it off and wait till the next big meal.

Also if I over stuff myself there's a good chance it's coming up in a little bit. I'm in no rush.
 

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nvictor said:
Maxtro, how does one measure body fat?
Does it really matter? You're already skinny.


Eat more. Minimum 3 meals. I like 4 solid meals myself, and sometimes snacks. 3 eggs a day is nothing. Begin drinking milk. It's your beverage of choice from now on. You're also going to need to eat more fat. It's easy calories and very tasty.

I go through about 8L of milk a week usually. Homogenized, 3%.


Here's a tip:

You do more exercise = you need more energy. Eat more energy.
 

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3 meals + a gallon of milk a day gave me 20+ pounds in a few months, and if you are working out your body fat will only increase slightly if your an skinny guy.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It's fairly simple dude..

Your body burns a certain amount of calories daily, to gain weight all you have to do is eat MORE than that "certain amount".

Lifting weights and working your muscles during this period of weight gain will ensure that a good portion of any weight you gain will be muscle mass, rather than fat mass. As said above, the added activity will also increase appetite, but NOT to the extent where you are eating more calories than you are burning, that's something you'll have to do manually(force-feed yourself).

So you're a skinny bugger are you? That simply means that you have a raging metabolism, I'm guess your RMR(resting metabolic rate) is in the ~3000cal per day range. Meaning you eat roughly that amount each day, and you don't gain/lose weight.

The thing is, when you start working out and increasing your general activity, your metabolism increases even further, bringing you up to a theoretical ~4000cals.

Therefore when you start to exercise and "eat more", you still might not be eating the required amount to gain weight(4000+ calories/day), usually 250-750 calories over what your metabolism can handle.

The truth is that we really don't know YOUR particular RMR, so the best thing for you to do is record everything you ate in 3 random days in a period where your weight is stable. Go to fitday.com and figure out the total calories your eating, BE PRECISE.
 
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