I cant find any girl without major redflags

[Clockwerk50]

Hahaha you just proved my Point, and now reread everything.

Not really. The only thing you proved was that you are not very smart and full of ****.

 

[Velasco]

lol people who attend clubs or parties are red flags? please explain. I don't know anyone who doesn't.

@OngBak your leaving out a huge segment of girls that will go out with their friends to dance and the prospect of hooking up with a stranger doesn’t cross their mind,

in flex hamilton other thread i talked about how those girls are extremely rare. i’ve been going out approaching girls for 15 years, and i can count on 1 hand how many of those girls i’ve slept with i consider high quality (beautiful without red flags). can u list what you consider red flags? to me the biggest one is low self esteem. from that umbrella comes the other red flags that people are familiar with: drama/stress, neediness, commitment issues, propensity to cheating if things aren’t going well, playing games…etc

 

[OngBak]

@OngBak your leaving out a huge segment of girls that will go out with their friends to dance and the prospect of hooking up with a stranger doesn’t cross their mind,

in flex hamilton other thread i talked about how those girls are extremely rare. i’ve been going out approaching girls for 15 years, and i can count on 1 hand how many of those girls i’ve slept with i consider high quality (beautiful without red flags). can u list what you consider red flags? to me the biggest one is low self esteem. from that umbrella comes the other red flags that people are familiar with: drama/stress, neediness, commitment issues, propensity to cheating if things aren’t going well, playing games…etc

Those are what I consider to be major redflags, I faced a lot of them + it depends on what kind of club or party, i do believe its understandable enough what i meant with that though

 

[BPH]

OP believes groups of men coordinate to sabotage him, women are secretly attracted to him but hide it, classmates and professors intentionally undermine him, people around him are jealous of his success, looks, and intelligence, and that others will backstab him because they are insecure and envious.

Clearly everyone else is the problem except OP.

This.

This is OP in a nutshell and how little emotional control he has. You can read it, if you have time for it that is.

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And this.

Judging by OP's responses thus far, it seems that he hasn't changed his views.

For those just joining us, I will quote myself from that thread, which OP previously ignored, so you can understand who you're trying to help. Maybe he won't ignore it now:

"Ok, look:

• You've asked for help asking this girl out, gotten great advice, then did the complete opposite by asking her out on Teams
• You believe you have such a good business idea that the possibility of failure doesn't exist, even though you have no proof from the market to back up your valuation
• You believe that because you are so attractive, your male classmates dislike you and seek to backstab you or make you look bad
• You believe, again, that because you are so attractive, your female classmates just shake their heads and supplicate to you - and when they don't, they must be playing games, because you can't fathom the possibility that she might be uninterested
• You speak with a lot of confidence, but when it comes time to show up - like when your crush walked right past you - you did nothing, and assumed she was creating tension and playing games (she may, or may not, but you don't know because you still haven't talked to her)

Believe what you want to believe, I'll let others take it from here since you seem so adamant, but this really is textbook narcissistic personality disorder. If I were you I would get diagnosed. Maybe it's the root of why you've been feeling "like a loser" lately, as you yourself put it. "

 

[OngBak]

This.



And this.

Judging by OP's responses thus far, it seems that he hasn't changed his views.

For those just joining us, I will quote myself from that thread, which OP previously ignored, so you can understand who you're trying to help. Maybe he won't ignore it now:

"Ok, look:

• You've asked for help asking this girl out, gotten great advice, then did the complete opposite by asking her out on Teams
• You believe you have such a good business idea that the possibility of failure doesn't exist, even though you have no proof from the market to back up your valuation
• You believe that because you are so attractive, your male classmates dislike you and seek to backstab you or make you look bad
• You believe, again, that because you are so attractive, your female classmates just shake their heads and supplicate to you - and when they don't, they must be playing games, because you can't fathom the possibility that she might be uninterested
• You speak with a lot of confidence, but when it comes time to show up - like when your crush walked right past you - you did nothing, and assumed she was creating tension and playing games (she may, or may not, but you don't know because you still haven't talked to her)

Believe what you want to believe, I'll let others take it from here since you seem so adamant, but this really is textbook narcissistic personality disorder. If I were you I would get diagnosed. Maybe it's the root of why you've been feeling "like a loser" lately, as you yourself put it. "

And I was right with all points, the girl in the end of the Semester messaged me and admitted it. You know what she also did? She spread lies about me so other girls dont approach me, it backfired. Nobody believed her. i actually talked with few other about it in private, they know the story. I speak with confidence, because im confident in what I say, very simple

 

[Velasco]

Those are what I consider to be major redflags

good. then i agree it’s difficult and frustrating because most girls you come across will have red flags. there’s not really a place to go to guarantee you will come across a bunch of girls with no red flags. as much as people who preach about going to church to pick up girls, despite not doing it themselves. you’ll find one when u least expect it. and to repeat myself, not going to parties or clubs only limits those opportunities for you guys to find each other

 

[Clockwerk50]

And I was right with all points, the girl in the end of the Semester messaged me and admitted it. You know what she also did? She spread lies about me so other girls dont approach me, it backfired. Nobody believed her. i actually talked with few other about it in private, they know the story. I speak with confidence, because im confident in what I say, very simple

Everyone gets one lifeline. If you want to prove to everyone that you’re academic, rational, and intelligent, always speaks the truth individual, why don’t you post the link to the study where you got this BS information from that I have quoted below?

Usually if someone goes from friends to lovers, its because he was a Placeholder and the lover label is not genuine. There is a study that relationships that develop after going from friends to lovers dont hold long, even two times less then distance relationships. There is a good reason why you were friendzoned, thats nothing you can fake. Its ingrained in the female subconcious that it wont hold.

 

[crowolf]

I cant find a girl without any major redflag, I have talked to around 60+ woman this 7months, and all of them showed major redflags, except one Id consider long term but she has a boyfriend, but I know she isn't happy either in the relationship. Keep in mind I dont approach any woman at what would be considered red flag locations either, like club or parties. But its genuinely hard to find someone you want to be with long-term

This is the world we live in. Blame the mainstream culture propaganda. Not that it would help.

Maybe going to a village in the Philippines is not that bad of an idea, after all.

 

[BPH]

And I was right with all points, the girl in the end of the Semester messaged me and admitted it. You know what she also did? She spread lies about me so other girls dont approach me, it backfired. Nobody believed her. i actually talked with few other about it in private, they know the story. I speak with confidence, because im confident in what I say, very simple

We only know your side of the story. Whether or not it's true, it all could've been avoided if you had taken this piece of advice:

• You speak with a lot of confidence, but when it comes time to show up - like when your crush walked right past you - you did nothing, and assumed she was creating tension and playing games (she may, or may not, but you don't know because you still haven't talked to her)

Instead, you did this:

• You've asked for help asking this girl out, gotten great advice, then did the complete opposite by asking her out on Teams

So it's very hard to believe a person who makes themself out to be infallible and grandiose, then freezes when met with a low-stakes situation like talking to a girl you like.

As for your OP, I agree that it is very hard to find an attractive woman who doesn't have a bunch of problems. The point of my response is to evaluate whether they are ACTUALLY red flags, or whether that's how you're positioning your own narrative so your failures fall on THEM instead of YOU.

The sweetest girl I ever dated was a woman I met out in Atlantic City at the Pool Bar After Dark in Harrah's. She was a little clingy, but otherwise always sweet and supportive. The only reason we didn't work out was that I was young and she had it in her head that we would get married, so I broke it off so she could meet someone who had that same desire, which she did.

Singles go to places other singles go, which are bars and clubs on the weekends. A woman being there doesn't predispose her to having major red flags any more than it would a woman you met at a bookstore or grocery. That's just your own bias coming into play.

 

[Gamisch]

No

Every woman worth something has redflags. Why? Because YOU have expectations of them. Simplified version.

Every ( hot-ish)women slept with a guy, has issues has exes chasing, has orbiter, has dudes in the friendzone.

At some point you gotta get over that shyte. If women were sane like you want them to be humanity would've been extinct by now.

By the way ; what are YOUR redflags? Shall we start there and see where it ends?

 

[OngBak]

We only know your side of the story. Whether or not it's true, it all could've been avoided if you had taken this piece of advice:




Instead, you did this:



So it's very hard to believe a person who makes themself out to be infallible and grandiose, then freezes when met with a low-stakes situation like talking to a girl you like.

As for your OP, I agree that it is very hard to find an attractive woman who doesn't have a bunch of problems. The point of my response is to evaluate whether they are ACTUALLY red flags, or whether that's how you're positioning your own narrative so your failures fall on THEM instead of YOU.

The sweetest girl I ever dated was a woman I met out in Atlantic City at the Pool Bar After Dark in Harrah's. She was a little clingy, but otherwise always sweet and supportive. The only reason we didn't work out was that I was young and she had it in her head that we would get married, so I broke it off so she could meet someone who had that same desire, which she did.

Singles go to places other singles go, which are bars and clubs on the weekends. A woman being there doesn't predispose her to having major red flags any more than it would a woman you met at a bookstore or grocery. That's just your own bias coming into play.

You are twisting words again, I dodged a bullet

 

[OngBak]

No

Every woman worth something has redflags. Why? Because YOU have expectations of them. Simplified version.

Every ( hot-ish)women slept with a guy, has issues has exes chasing, has orbiter, has dudes in the friendzone.

At some point you gotta get over that shyte. If women were sane like you want them to be humanity would've been extinct by now.

By the way ; what are YOUR redflags? Shall we start there and see where it ends?

You are right with the part of high expectation though I give you that, but those are ones that I believe everyone would agree upon what they want in a woman, but the point is also that most woman get insecure around me but once they get to know me it eases, but it changes then again anytime they find something desirable about me. I know in fact that being around me is like dread game for most of them, because they also see how often other woman are attracted to me so they pull out some sabotaging activities and its sometimes not even their fault. I really dont have that problem with very very beautiful woman or high self-esteem woman, but you dont find them always and its also not always guaranteed for them to have high self-esteem