I can't date now. Getting Bored, and Depressed. What Can I do??

[SharinganUser]

I am at a point in my life where I can't date for another six months (I date bi-annually it seems).

I rarely even see a woman I like. Actually, as of lately and the fore-seeable future, I won't be able to. (Note: I've gotta stop negative forecasting my future, really.)

I live in a small, small town and the nearest city is over 2 hours away.

All of my friends live atleast two hours away. So none of that kind of social interaction as well.

I am going away overseas, in about 3 weeks, for a considerable amount of time.

Last time I got laid was like 3 months ago.

The only relationship I've been in ended over a year ago.


So, that is the gist of it. It's making me bored. It's making me frustrated sometimes, and sometimes to the point of being angry or depressed. I try to focus on other things like helping my parents out, planning my trip, and my martial arts training, but those are not always fullfilling to me emotionally, and definitely NOT sexually lol. :roll:

It can get especially frustrating because I have a lot of potential as a mate.

Really simply put, right now I am bored, sometimes angry and depressed. What can I do to remedy this?

 

[Lord Shinra]

Before your trip overseas, I would suggest hanging out at a coffee joint or some similar venue. Or take up another hobby, something that interests you and you've wanted to try.

Or reading? Newspapers? Anything to keep your mind off. You'll get plenty of tail overseas if you're in a city.

 

[SharinganUser]

Well there isn't any good coffee shops, bars, or general hangouts that I can go to.

I am starting to learn another language for my trip. So I guess I'll have to spend more time doing that. And increase my m.a. training.

I literally see only about 3 or 4 people a day that I can talk to, if I don't go into town (pop. 1200). When I do go into town, all I see are weirdoes, hicks, high schoolers, and townies.

 

[Lord Shinra]

You could go to a park, or meditate.
Hell, watch TV and just relax, you're going overseas soon.

Sorry man, my suggestions aren't that good. I grew up in New York.

 

[SharinganUser]

Don't sweat it. I'll live. Just taking it one day at a time I guess.

 

[Serialized3]

If I was in your position, I would try to look forward to my opportunity to meet new women the travels ahead.

And once I returned, I would move out of the sticks into a more cosmopolitan atmosphere.

 

[MooseGod]

That's kinda the same place I was over the summer...small town, not very many decent girls, not sh!t to do, friends back home were elsewhere for the summer... but the anticipation of moving to a much cooler/bigger college town only a couple of months away. My advice is to read. No BS fiction, but something that requires a little deep thinking, maybe help you get a larger perspective on things. And maybe think about getting a short term project. An old classic car to fix up and thrash on the street or something. Or a Jeep.