"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I can't dance

thefonz

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Seriously, I really have no rythm and I don't know what to do about it. I'm really good looking so girls always want to drag me onto the dancefloor.

I was at a wedding a month ago and I was dancing with this one girl, thinking I had some sick moves. But when I watched a videotape the other day of my dancing I stuck out like a sore thumb. My feet were moving sideways and I was bending my knees randomly while throwing my hands up in the air. It was pretty bad.... I even tried dancing in front of the mirrow by myself to correct my flaws and it' like when I corrected one thing like swaying my legs then my shoulders would be stiff, then when I corrected that I noticed my rythm had fallen off and I couldn't keep the beat while focusing on this stuff

It gets even worse when I try to dance with a girl, I can't find the right motion to be able to dance in rythm with her. Twice in the past 2 months girls I've gone out with have walked away on me because my dancing was so bad.

I need some advice sosuave.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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nismo-4

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You should watch some of those hip hop videos and learn what the top artists do! Practice makes perfect! If you plan on approaching the dance floor, get on it! You'll be better off as opposed to just looking at it (desperate). And when you dance with a girl, let the music move you instead of being random. Go with the flow or I hope you like getting rejected.

Keep this in mind.:up:
 

Gatorade

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Just watch videos of the type of music you would want to learn to dance to and do what they do. Practice and you will be alright.
 

j0n024

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"You should watch some of those hip hop videos and learn what the top artists do!"

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH...that cracked me up big time. YA good idea just watch some hip hop videos then become a sellout lol.
 

playa99

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i cant dance either mate, i get laughed at but i really dont care, in my opinion if you dont care what you like when you dance women find it really sexy
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Effington

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I'm probably going to regret saying this, but have you ever seen the movie "Hitch"? Just learn that one move and stay there, if you get more comfortable then slowly expand your repetoire.

From my experience, the quality of your dancing is not nearly as important as just getting out there and that you look like you're having a good time.
 

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Take a class. I know you think I'm joking, but nope.
The ratio of guys to girls is either even or the girls far outweight the guys.
Great way to meet chicks and sort out your dancing skills, not only that but by then you'll be comfortable with dancing and won't think twice about it.
 

john paul

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You have no rythm?
Just download common dance music on your ipod and listen to it constantly. It worked for my second dance in high school when i realised i needed help, I just downloaded all the popular rap sh!t of the time a couple weeks before. I was fimiliar with the songs and had the beat down. If you have the beat you will improve with your movements, how you should be moving and how you shouldnt. Its much easier than taking dance lessons.

problem solved
 
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