I can't believe it happened again.

[reset]

My goal was to enjoy my time with an amazing woman without the pressure of trying to lay her or get her on a date. That was my only goal, that and to make her laugh and smile. I did those things, so in that sense I did cross the finish line. I accomplished exactly what I set out to do.

I have decades ahead of me to get laid and meet women, I don't need to force myself into doing something that will happen naturally. I am man and they are women, it will happen. That, my friend, is the natural order of things.

This is a good attitude, one I'm doing my best to adopt. Until you are just smooth with women (which is going to happen) if you keep having these voices in the back of your head "make a move! Don't make a move! Do this! Don't do that!" You come off as phony, and even worse, you don't have any fun. You're learning to be detached from the outcome, and that is the NUMBER ONE skill you need, not the pressure to seal the deal so you can put another notch on your belt.

The less pressure you put on yourself (like the guy who mentioned earlier that when you go out, forget about women, just have fun.) the more relaxed you are, the more relaxed you are the more confident you feel, the more confident you feel, you start doing the right things at the right time, and from that, this stuff just takes care of itself.

And of course, EVERYTHING is built on a foundation of regular exercise. That's something I let slide for too long, now it's a habit, and more and more, I just feel good about life, just because.