"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I cant believe American society has stooped so low in dating

Dhoulmagus

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Just lolling about it, our parents didnt have to go through this .
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Dhoulmagus

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Same here, my parents and grandparents think im crazy.
 

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We must seem like aliens at this point. Crazy part is, that it's all age groups. What's next? People mailing unsigned marriage certificates through the mail to random girls for a first come first serve marriage?
 

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Sad, but true.

Our ancestors didn't have to deal with childish things like Facebook, Instagram, POF, PUA, etc....this is all garbage that has ruined the social scene and dating scene for people under 35.
 

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skinnyguy said:
Sad, but true.

Our ancestors didn't have to deal with childish things like Facebook, Instagram, POF, PUA, etc....this is all garbage that has ruined the social scene and dating scene for people under 35.
This is a big problem. As I look around no matter where I am all I see is young people with their face pointed at their damn smart phone. They are either texting, checking Facebook status, or whatever. I've been making an effort to leave the phone in the car. Online dating...people have too many options. A girl might meet someone she likes, but she's get 8 other guys she's emailing with/talking to so she's go no issue dropping him. Our age group is in trouble for sure.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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The rise of technology I would say has hurt us socially a lot too, and the feminist movement
 

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Idk. I talked to my mom for like two hours about this, explaining how it works. My dad, mom, and sisters all were shaming my brother for wanting to divorce his wife, because she doesn't want to clean, cook, clean up after the kid, and he said i wouldn't believe what he has to go through to get sex.

I was the only one who understood my brother. Going through a rough break up myself a few months before he decided to get divorced, i showed him the mansophere, and after a few days he texts me, "this is right."

Well I explained to my mom, if my brother isnt happy, because his wife is acting like a sh!tty roomate, he doesnt owe her anything, he deserves to do what makes him happy.

My mom accepted it, and apologized to my brother the next day. Shes like 56.
 

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You can't save everyone, especially some chump diggity who thinks being submissive to a girl to get her or keep her is the way to go. Just count your lucky stars that sites like this exist and it opened your mind to a better state of mind in terms of relationships. The classic man will never die out or become unfashionable. The hipster will. The tree hugger will. The 35 year old skater with a knit hat in July will. So will the guy with yoga pants and a man-bun.
 

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Sweden isn't much better than America I think.

Many girls here are easy lays but there aren't too many girls with which you would want to have a relationship.
 

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Dating can definitely suck, but not to the degree that some guys here believe it does. Admittedly, most guys don't clean up with women the way some of the really experienced Don Juan's here do. On the other hand, involuntary celibacy (or near-involuntary celibacy, for that matter) is also far from the norm. Most guys don't need to put in an inordinate amount of work in order to attract women. The vast majority of dudes that I know in my age group that I've kept in touch with have had a reasonable amount of relationship/sexual experience, and only a handful have been involved in what I would call truly terrible relationships.
We don't do ourselves any favors by acting like this sh1t is brain surgery.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My dad spins plates. Parents are divorced. My dad doesn't give a sh!t about my dating life.

My mother wonders when and if I will settle down. She drops hits all the time that I should find a nice girl. I just laugh and change the subject.
 
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