I can talk to any girl except her...

[Dustin]

Hey I'm new here. Probably gonna be active but Ive been looking for help on this situatuon and couldn't find it. Maybe someone here could help me. Alright, I am like on of the biggest flirts in my school. I can usualy talk to any girls hand down. But this girl is different. She's and honour role student, SC president ect. I am friend's with all here friends. I have almost hooked up with a few of them but when it comes to having a conversation with her I can't. She's talked to me a few times but I couldn't reply back with out losing my words. I don't know what to do. Is it because I have fear of her being to good for me. Because I have literally talked with every girl around except her. Could someone please help me?

Edit - Also she's got a few year on me but everyone think im supose to be in her grade lol. And I hang out with all her friends and people older then her so I don't know why I can't start chatting it up with her.

 

[oakraiderz2]

You feel inferior. Ask her how her days going...all that kinda boring sh*t so you stop feeling so intimidated and realized she likes getting posted up on a kitchen table like every other girl.

 

[Dustin]

I'm definaly not trying to nail her yet,Shes always eyeing me though it's weird whenever I turn around there she is. and she alwasy looks up and eyes me. Even when she's walking around with her friends ill be talking with thme and look over and she'll be eying me. So I dono its tough.

Also could i have a definition for inferior? I don't got a dictionary on me.

 

[Taviii]

Are you the type of guy that didn't know how to deal with this girl and searched the internet and got here?? Then I have the solution for you: click the link on the upper right side of your window that says "The DJ Bible" and read everything there.

The question "New here?" is for the guys that start a topic with: "Hey I'm new here"



Cheers mate!

 

[wavejams007]

Originally posted by Dustin
I'm definaly not trying to nail her yet,Shes always eyeing me though it's weird whenever I turn around there she is. and she alwasy looks up and eyes me. Even when she's walking around with her friends ill be talking with thme and look over and she'll be eying me. So I dono its tough.

Also could i have a definition for inferior? I don't got a dictionary on me.

YOu serious? Infreior means to be lower then, of less value then, not as worthy as others.

 

[Dustin]

Alright I'll check out "the DJ Bible". But this is the only problem I have.

 

[MightyMate]

Well. I got only HB9 in my life, without a problem. But i also meet few HB10 andi just coudlnt success with them. I ocudlnt talk. Im with HB9 in LTR and im cool, but i know HB10 is justn ot for me. Too perfect for me to be me. If You know what i mean.

 

[Dustin]

Did I mention she's a few years older then me and has a gf. But im pretty sure I can get her.

 

[Fitch]

Originally posted by Dustin
Did I mention she's a few years older then me and has a gf. But im pretty sure I can get her.

She has a girlfriend?

 

[Dustin]

I mean BF, I was wondering if someone could explain to me how that bible works cause ive been trying to figure it out and I can't to many things in different orders and stuff.

 

[Dustin]

So do you guys think I should put everything behind me and act as though It was nothing or what should I do. lol I know I feel inferior but I wanna know what to do. Like a good icebrealer fr soemthing liek that.

 

[Dustin]

Any tips cause I'm gonan try sometinhg tomorow.

 

[chill]

just relax. you yourself said that you can talk to anyone. The only reason you have a difficulty talking with this girl is because of your lack of confidence. Telling yourself that you can talk to anyone EXCEPT her is the root of your problem. Your telling yourself that she cant be talked to, and it sounds like you talk to her expecting to stumble. By putting her up on this pedestle and thinking of her as the only one you cant get is draining your confidence around this girl, and thats whats killing you. If you stop thinking of her as some unattainable girl who is, "diiferent than the rest" you can get her. up in one of the first replys here someone told you to just talk to her a few times, which would make you realize she isnt so different and you would be fine. So buck up, relax, and just do it like you would with any girl..... but good luck with that.

 

[October]

Maybe you care too much about what she thinks of you, or you've built her up in your head. She isn't better than you, nor are you any better than her.

 

[Dustin]

Alright so today I saw her during my practise. She was "glancing at me" every once and a while but no serious eye contact happened. I tried to go the coach to let me go get a water drink or something but he wouldn't let me. So it didn't work out to good. I was willing to trying my hardest to get out to but my gut was trying to stop me. So now I'm confused, what's so special about this girl I can't talk to me. It's really pissing me off!

 

[Mr. Debonaire]

Originally posted by Dustin
Alright so today I saw her during my practise. She was "glancing at me" every once and a while but no serious eye contact happened. I tried to go the coach to let me go get a water drink or something but he wouldn't let me. So it didn't work out to good. I was willing to trying my hardest to get out to but my gut was trying to stop me. So now I'm confused, what's so special about this girl I can't talk to me. It's really pissing me off!

nothing is special about her, but she has high social value and shes obviously pretty, which means that you dont want to embarass yourself by saying something stupid.

This is a basic response, everyone has it, its the reason we lose our voices with certain girls.

What you need to do is work on your game and your life until you see yourself with confidence enough to have the "right" in your own mind to approach her.

Read the bible. Apply it to your life, and you will succeed

 

[Dustin]

Try #2 - I'm going to see her tonight so I'll tell you guys how that goes.

 

[Dustin]

Alright so I see her tonight beofrte her basketball game, I go sit by her and such and right before I say anything she starts talking to her friends. And I odnt wanan interfear so I dont say anything. So I become score keeper and there doin warmup and she was like so your just getting back from toronto and I'm like yup and tried to say something but lost my words and she kept on going.

 

[Docs]

Hey I'm new here. Probably gonna be active but Ive been looking for help on this situatuon and couldn't find it. Maybe someone here could help me. Alright, I am like on of the biggest flirts in my school. I can usualy talk to any girls hand down. But this girl is different. She's and honour role student, SC president ect. I am friend's with all here friends. I have almost hooked up with a few of them but when it comes to having a conversation with her I can't. She's talked to me a few times but I couldn't reply back with out losing my words. I don't know what to do. Is it because I have fear of her being to good for me. Because I have literally talked with every girl around except her. Could someone please help me?

Edit - Also she's got a few year on me but everyone think im supose to be in her grade lol. And I hang out with all her friends and people older then her so I don't know why I can't start chatting it up with her.

Assistance by request.
I read the replies, most people say that it's a case of being scared, or fear of being embrassed. You have talked to her, so it's not that entirely.

Alright so I see her tonight beofrte her basketball game, I go sit by her and such and right before I say anything she starts talking to her friends. And I odnt wanan interfear so I dont say anything. So I become score keeper and there doin warmup and she was like so your just getting back from toronto and I'm like yup and tried to say something but lost my words and she kept on going.

It seems like you have to pick your moments, and it seems like when she's with her girls isn't the moment to sit beside her.

I also see that you stumble with words, are you a great talker with your friends? Do you know how to hold an interesting conversation for half an hour and up? Do you find that you are submissive when others take control most of the time? Answer these questions and I might have pinpointed confidence as the underlying issue.

You asked for routine around her, I don't think that will help you. I'll advise though, but respond first

 

[Dustin]

People say I intend to talk to much, I sometimes take control of conversation it depends if I'm interested or not. and I can make long conversation with my friends but I find it difficult with the ladies.

Thanks alot Docs. I'll be tryign this stuff tomorow.