I can feel the tension in the air.. what to do?

[joker79]

Gusy, it's not the first time I feel tension in the air with a couple of chicks I dated. If it went well, good, no prob. If for any reason things went south (my fault, her fault, who cares) and we meet at an event - usually social circles are the same - there's always that fvcking tension like "we both know what happened", "you did that" bla bla bla. How do you deal with that? Is there any way to use this situation in your favour?

 

[tripod23]

best way to deal with these situations is either stay away from any place you know she will be.............or just play it totally cool and just don't let things phase you......if you start to act all stressed out you will look weak.

if any chick has done you wrong......disrespect / cheated or whatever..........just delete the princess from your life..........in the end keeping your dignity is the most important thing......

good luck

 

[Yewki]

Do your best to pretend nothing happened, even if there was a nasty disagreement. If you legit don't like the person it's probably best to treat them like a random stranger... as in, be nice but brief and ultimately indifferent. Much easier said than done, I know.

Completely ignoring the person (avoiding eye contact, keeping your distance, etc) is kind of lame in my opinion, because you're dwelling on it. And it shows.

So next time you see a girl who you have a past with and don't care for, instead of tensing up, awkwardly looking away, and thinking "**** **** ****" ... visualize them being a different person. A random stranger. Who cares if they see you there, or you both make eye contact. What would you do if that was a random person? Give em a nod or a quick "hey" with a smile.