"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

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Hey guys,

Alright so here's the deal. I was at the valentine's dance. Had a good time grinded tons of girls.

There's this one particular girl i danced with that has a long history with my friend. Long story short my friend liked her a lot and AFC'ed himself like crazy.

I'm real cool with my friend so whenever she was around i just didn't talk to her so my friend won't get his feelings back or w/e.

Soooo, anyways back to dance I started dancing with her and I could see my friend looking at us so I stop.

Couple of songs later... i see her dancing alone so i start dancing with her again and i start liking it. It didn't feel like when i danced with the other girls... somehow it felt different... maybe it was just me..

But i think i'm starting to have oneitis for this chick and i can't have that happen cuz my friendship with my friend is more important to me.

You guys got any advice before this turn into an actual oneitis?

TIA
 

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stop talking to her? really, this is all about self control. the only way to prevent it is to not let it happen.
 

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Originally posted by Ace of Flames
stop talking to her? really, this is all about self control. the only way to prevent it is to not let it happen.
I don't talk to her. I've never spoken more than 20 words to her in my life. But i see her around the halls during school all the time.

Maybe the reason I'm starting to get interested with her is because I can't have her. Kinda like the forbidden fruit concept.

I get that weird feeling when she's around. My stomach feels funny and my lungs feel heavy.
 

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Originally posted by iCandy
I don't talk to her. I've never spoken more than 20 words to her in my life. But i see her around the halls during school all the time.

Maybe the reason I'm starting to get interested with her is because I can't have her. Kinda like the forbidden fruit concept.

I get that weird feeling when she's around. My stomach feels funny and my lungs feel heavy.
My friend really liked this one girl... And she seemed more attractive because he liked her... So I talk to her, get her number.. we start going out.. My friend totally hated me for several months!

It wasn't worth it because I broke up with her anyways!.... My suggestion is just forget about her man... Your friendship is more important than some chick..
 

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There's a way to have both the girl and the friend..

I know the only reason you don't want the girl is because of your friend right..So here's how to have both of them.

Firstly,tell your friend about this website (sosuave).He feels depressed about not getting the girl right..So he'll read the articles and get over his one-itis and start the life of being a DJ.

Give him 10 days to read the articles.This website is so intriguing that he won't get off it.In these 10 days,he'll get over his own one-itis and start the life of a DJ.

After your friend's 10 day 'learning' period,hit the girl.If she accepts you,then everything is cool.Your friend is out there being a DJ,right?So it's all rocking.

If she doesn't accept you,then read the articles here again to get over your imaginated one-itis and keep going with your life as a DJ.
 

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Don't visit this girl too much. Don't go around her alot because every time you go around her, you will feel this attraction for her and subconciously, you won't be able to control it. So I'd say, make yourself less available.
 

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You have two choices here:

1. You can act on your feeling. Ask the girl out and create some strong attraction. If you can keep your calm and run your game right, you shouldn't have any problems.

2. You can move on. Live your own life and don't bother with the girl. Go find yourself somebody else.

It's really that simple. Either do it, or don't, but don't spend too much time trapped up in your own head.

-Damian
 

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Originally posted by NeonBase
My friend really liked this one girl... And she seemed more attractive because he liked her... So I talk to her, get her number.. we start going out.. My friend totally hated me for several months!

It wasn't worth it because I broke up with her anyways!.... My suggestion is just forget about her man... Your friendship is more important than some chick..

Maybe that's why I feel more of an attraction towards her than with other girls.
 

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The only reason you like this girl is because your friend likes her; you can't have her. Find some other girls, have a fun time, realise that this girl doesn't mean anything to you. Of course, i don't expect you to try, I've been trying to convince my best friend that some girl he has wanted for a month isnt worth trying any more for (after hes been shot down many times), but give it a shot, you don't lose anything if you try it.
 

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Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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You just have to gain your self control.

You have to become mentally aware of your feelings. When you become aware, you'll notice that your feelings will have less control over your actions.

:up:
 

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exactly. do not let your emotions control you. thats my biggest problem in general
 

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adit said:
There's a way to have both the girl and the friend..

I know the only reason you don't want the girl is because of your friend right..So here's how to have both of them.

Firstly,tell your friend about this website (sosuave).He feels depressed about not getting the girl right..So he'll read the articles and get over his one-itis and start the life of being a DJ.

Give him 10 days to read the articles.This website is so intriguing that he won't get off it.In these 10 days,he'll get over his own one-itis and start the life of a DJ.

After your friend's 10 day 'learning' period,hit the girl.If she accepts you,then everything is cool.Your friend is out there being a DJ,right?So it's all rocking.

If she doesn't accept you,then read the articles here again to get over your imaginated one-itis and keep going with your life as a DJ.
This DOES NOT WORK. It takes more then 10 days to understand the meaning of the words spoken on this site. I will tell you right now if I was a total nub at dating and saw this site, I would read and read and read, I would know all of these things, I'd test out my pickup skills right back on the girl you're about to mack.
 
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