I can’t classify her. Borderline or something else?

[captain55]

Been seeing this chick that is fine as ****. Had no mom around but the dad was a great dad showed her tons of attention etc so I don’t think she was neglected.

-Had some drug use in high school. Promiscuous. Clean as a whistle now and works like crazy her dad is constantly on her ass even at 26.

-Extremely unpredictable. Can literally go from calling me baby to wanting to spend the rest of her life with me to being cold and indifferent in a matter of hours.

-things can be going great I can do something minuscule she gets mad and blocks me. Overly sensitive, very emotional, and unpredictable.

-Was raped when she was younger.

- cold and nasty at times. Says ****ed up things to her mother

- very few female friends or guy friends in general

I find it hard to believe she was a borderline because she didn’t grow up in a ****ed up home. Just yesterday she FaceTimed me four times and we were good. Then she blocks me again (she does this when I piss her off over minuscule things)

I want to keep banging her and I try not to take her too seriously but tonight I told her that her unpredictableness is turning me off...that just because her exes put up with this **** doesn’t mean that I will and she better get it together. Was probably too harsh but it needed to be said and I wanted to say way worse..

At this point im most likely not even getting her a Christmas gift lol. if she is indeed a bpd I may cut it off. If she’s just an emotional chick I’ll ride it out and keep her around because she’s fun to ****.

All women are crazy I just gotta decide if she’s
Help me out

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Been seeing this chick that is fine as ****. Had no mom around but the dad was a great dad showed her tons of attention etc so I don’t think she was neglected.

-Had some drug use in high school. Promiscuous. Clean as a whistle now and works like crazy her dad is constantly on her ass even at 26.

-Extremely unpredictable. Can literally go from calling me baby to wanting to spend the rest of her life with me to being cold and indifferent in a matter of hours.

-things can be going great I can do something minuscule she gets mad and blocks me. Overly sensitive, very emotional, and unpredictable.

-Was raped when she was younger.

- cold and nasty at times. Says ****ed up things to her mother

- very few female friends or guy friends in general

I find it hard to believe she was a borderline because she didn’t grow up in a ****ed up home. Just yesterday she FaceTimed me four times and we were good. Then she blocks me again (she does this when I piss her off over minuscule things)

I want to keep banging her and I try not to take her too seriously but tonight I told her that her unpredictableness is turning me off...that just because her exes put up with this **** doesn’t mean that I will and she better get it together. Was probably too harsh but it needed to be said and I wanted to say way worse..

At this point im most likely not even getting her a Christmas gift lol. if she is indeed a bpd I may cut it off. If she’s just an emotional chick I’ll ride it out and keep her around because she’s fun to ****.

All women are crazy I just gotta decide if she’s
Help me out

They have stress and pain. They've even torn up PHd psychiatrist. Pray. Manage your time and energy around her. I dont know what to say. Its good your fvcking.

 

[captain55]

They have stress and pain. They've even torn up PHd psychiatrist. Pray. Manage your time and energy around her. I dont know what to say. Its good your fvcking.

The thing is I don’t know if she is a borderline. It matters because if she is I’m out. If she’s just an emotional **** that’s stuck up because of years of men white knighting her I know I can mold her by jabbing at that self esteem until she has none

 

[mrgoodstuff]

The thing is I don’t know if she is a borderline. It matters because if she is I’m out. If she’s just an emotional **** that’s stuck up because of years of men white knighting her I know I can mold her by jabbing at that self esteem until she has none

Strip her down mentally?

 

[captain55]

Strip her down mentally?

Yes works like a charm. But a true borderline your bringing a knife to a gunfight ...and I’ll run like the wind that’s why I’m on the fence

 

[AJ84]

Yes works like a charm. But a true borderline your bringing a knife to a gunfight ...and I’ll run like the wind that’s why I’m on the fence

Why would you want to strip someone down emotionally? That in and of itself seems like something a BPD would do. And they do.
Leave people in the same or better situation than when you found them. Don’t be a part of the problem.
If she’s too much of a headache then find someone who is less of a headache.
If you have to essentially emotionally abuse her (which is what tearing down her self esteem until there is none is) to achieve desired behaviour, she’s not the right kind of woman for you and you’re not the right kind of man for her.

 

[Ranger]

So how much of this situation is you? Not picking on you at all.
If you are trying to fix or salvage after she demonstrates, (Distant, upsets, princess garbage etc), you shouldn’t. It is designed to elicit a response. You’re operating in the wrong model because the sex is so good.
When it goes to this stuff you should have no reaction and go about your business. Another woman could keep you occupied until she figures out that you’re not going to fall for it. She will be back. Promiscuity is also a tool. Long before you came around.

She is using the “threat of loss” on you. It’s a viable tool.

There is nothing to be gained by wrecking her emotionally or breaking anything down. She is only using this tool because it works on you and daddy. She gets whatever she wants when she uses it. This is more common than you think.

The longer you play this game, the deeper you will go. Then soon we will have another BPD thread and how you were brutalized. When the only thing that happened is you sucked yourself into a game you couldn’t win.
Just enjoy the sex and fun times. It will last longer if you don’t even acknowledge her antics. No emotional response.

 

[sazc]

#nextset

 

[Ranger]

She's an obvious cluster b, you need to get out immediately. She blocks when you hurt her ego or she feels abandonment.

There are eleven “disorders” that can come from these. Lol
This happens regularly in the Inuit tribes of Alaska and Canada. Once a girl reaches puberty they are used by brothers, fathers, uncles etc.
two Chinese sub cultures have this. African tribes have this. This has been going on since the beginning of time. Especially aboriginal tribes, even in the US & Canada.
Are they ALL cluster Bs? These women sure are psychologically and emotionally weak. Lol

Actually women are psychologically powerhouses. Equipped to handle way more than men. Not even the same species. Hell a guy can’t even get over a break up but the woman is skipping along in life with new diks in her hand. LMAO
Women are built to survive and breed. You are a sperm donor. Biologically speaking.
Even Tomassi proved this. Hands down the most resilient.
Take PTSD. Who has suffered more, you pulling dead marines out of a CH53 helicopter with the meat falling off their bones from the fire? Or the mothers who have invested far far more than you ever have or will and finding out that every second of it just died with all her hopes and dreams?
Who should have PTSD?
Psychologically, men are candy a$$ pvssies when compared to women.
You want to be an expendable dweeb? Be my guest. Keep believing in all that garbage and get back in step with the imperative.

There is no way this many men are this weak kneed. It’s disgusting.

 

[Ranger]

I’m just amazed is all. It’s a travesty. I begin to loath the imperative. Stealing men’s birthright.
Women are so much better off. At least they are doing what the were designed to do.

 

[lamath]

On this forum you would think 50% of women are bpd

She have any friend?
Any current addiction? Bpd almost always self medicate that way
Look at her sleep pattern bpd have ectic sleep pattern?

 

[Ranger]

Medication = plate or dump
Getting over emotionally into her is fools errand. Candy A$$ men do this every time. Totally plugged in.
They study and study. It never sinks in enough to get a toe hold because it won’t if the imperative is occupying that space. Unlearning needed first. Rejecting false data that they held inside for so long. Everything is a lie. An illusion. They still don’t know that their reality controls them.

Two men walking down the street. One will see tons of discrimination out of thin air. It’s true for him. Thus it’s true. It serves his internalizations of the world.

The other sees how many cars are brand new. He contemplates all those people with heavy debt. Shakes his head. He sees this because he’s internalized it. Thus it’s true.

WhAt you have internalized is what you see. If it’s true for you? It’s true. However, convincing men that your world is true...turns him into more of a pvssy. There’s no escape. Some women are this and that and you must avoid them because those 120 brats will kick your candy a$$ up and down the street. They are sooo powerful and dangerous that there’s nothing you can do.
Weakness and misery need company. Strength can stand alone.

 

[Serenity]

Classifying is a waste of time, it doesn't matter what it's called. If you don't like her behavior it won't matter if she doesn't technically have BPD.

I can also tell you that trauma can mess people up, even though they're mostly in a healthy environment. My father and step-mother has been a great support for me, always cared. Despite this I did lots of stupid sh!t and have had difficult struggles because of my biological mom and trauma that she inflicted. It wasn't until I took a good hold of the issues myself and worked through them properly that things improved.

The girl you're talking about might not have dealt with it properly yet, so despite having a great dad she still struggles. He is powerless to fix it unless she wants to.

My mother also has a great father, didn't stop her from messing up her life and being mentally unstable. That won't change before she sees the problem and put in some serious effort trying to be a better person.

I think it's a bad idea to ride out her unstable emotions, you don't like her behavior and whatever causes it you should stay away from that drama.

 

[lamath]

The way she act are all red flag
You cant fix her
Those red flag will amplify and new one will apear the l9nger you date
Take it from someone that just ended a 10y+ ltr

Those sign where there at the begining and she wasnt that crazy

 

[captain55]

On this forum you would think 50% of women are bpd

She have any friend?
Any current addiction? Bpd almost always self medicate that way
Look at her sleep pattern bpd have ectic sleep pattern?

Yes weed. She smokes all the time. She is constantly having mental breakdowns and sometimes lashes out to me with anger

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Yes weed. She smokes all the time. She is constantly having mental breakdowns and sometimes lashes out to me with anger

She has alot of stress and anxiety. The weed simply masks it. It also allows her to pile on more stress and not feel the pain.

 

[Ranger]

It doesn’t matter if BPD or bi-polar or any other such silliness exists.
It’s not part of the man’s identity. Unicorns don’t exist. Honey pie lover dolls don’t exist. Lol

Even knowing fully, men with the imperative in them will fall for it every time. No matter how much they study.
This talk of breaking down a woman and other PUA nonsense. WTF?
If you aren’t man enough then leave her alone. Personally I want two or three of these sex pots. I don’t want some goofy woman that stretches it out to three or four dates to try and get me to think she’s other that what she is. What a stupid game.
She’s slept with plenty of guys. Lol
This whole thing is reduculous. I like a woman who is up front. I don’t even want a Virgin unless she wants to learn how to give a great BJ. I’m a full grown man not a boy.

This stupid $hit is unbelievable. Grow the fuk up.

To the OP. Don’t fall for the “Threat of loss” game from her. It’s used to test your level of pvssy. A father has an investment and I understand it. But you shouldn’t. This is a very useful tool for a distressed woman due to her insecurities. This doesn’t make her clinically crazy. It seems crazy from a man’s linear, logical thinking processes.
Because it keeps him destabilized as to what is going on. He questions himself and even his own sanity.
That’s not her fault. She’s not feeling that. You are.
What should you be doing?

 

[captain55]

Why would you want to strip someone down emotionally? That in and of itself seems like something a BPD would do. And they do.
Leave people in the same or better situation than when you found them. Don’t be a part of the problem.
If she’s too much of a headache then find someone who is less of a headache.
If you have to essentially emotionally abuse her (which is what tearing down her self esteem until there is none is) to achieve desired behaviour, she’s not the right kind of woman for you and you’re not the right kind of man for her.

She is on a vacation with her family.

The next day she FaceTimes me 4 times in the morning and I talk to her. Everything is great ....but i tell her look don’t block me again it’s stupid and immature. (She has blocked me over something childish)

Everything is fine.....I send her a text last night a day later saying I hope she’s staying safe and her family is enjoying the trip....to find out I was blocked again. she was probably mad I wasn’t texting her.

In most cases I would ignore it but I felt like I needed to get something off my chest. I thought about it very carefully and I sent her this message.

“You have no reason to block me it’s childish and your turning me off. Maybe your exes dealt with this **** but not me. You need to get it together”

I hardly ever text her she initiates context 9 out of 10 times so it’s not like I annoy her. Hopefully that wasn’t too harsh but trust me it’s nowhere near as bad as what I wanted to really say. I would love to curse this chick out and really let her have it but I’m stopping mystlf

 

[Ranger]

She is on a vacation with her family.

The next day she FaceTimes me 4 times in the morning and I talk to her. Everything is great ....but i tell her look don’t block me again it’s stupid and immature. (She has blocked me over something childish)

Everything is fine.....I send her a text last night a day later saying I hope she’s staying safe and her family is enjoying the trip....to find out I was blocked again. she was probably mad I wasn’t texting her.

In most cases I would ignore it but I felt like I needed to get something off my chest. I thought about it very carefully and I sent her this message.

“You have no reason to block me it’s childish and your turning me off. Maybe your exes dealt with this **** but not me. You need to get it together”

I hardly ever text her she initiates context 9 out of 10 times so it’s not like I annoy her. Hopefully that wasn’t too harsh but trust me it’s nowhere near as bad as what I wanted to really say. I would love to curse this chick out and really let her have it but I’m stopping mystlf

Not too harsh at all. You need to offer her redemption. Not through words but through you. I want the best part of a woman. Her femininity. I don’t care about the garbage. Neither should you. Change the subject. It doesn’t matter. She is still there for a reason.
Is she the optimum woman? There’s no such thing. Just like there’s no fully optimized man. We can get close but soulmates do not exist.
Your goal should reward the best part of her and ignor the other stuff. Without emotion.

If a little kid is acting up and you yell at them, they now know what to do to get you going whenever they want. That’s why I learned pretty quick to just give them the “look”. Rejection and dismissal are very powerful and easily misused tools. Do not crush her just because her survival strategy is tough for you to handle. Like AJ said. Just calmly dismiss her from your life if she won’t express her feminine and keeps throwing up her survival strategy.

 

[Ranger]

I learned something recently fro a “princess” that I had dismissed before but she has now been texting me.

When a woman says...”I need a man who can handle me.”

Have you ever thought about what that means?

For those that don’t, I will translate...

It means she knows she’s crazy. She is fully cognizant of it. It means that she is looking for a man that can defuse, with his masculinity and presence, her psychotic tendensies so that she doesn’t do even more damage to her life.
That man will also bring out her femininity and smooth out and calm the insanity of her chaotic mind. The modern world makes her insane. She is an unrestrained locomotive screaming into hell.