I call and leave vmail...get text back...

[Stugots26]

Honestly, this is just out of idle curiosity. I have 5 dates between Wednesday and Saturday this week with five different women and will probably have sex on at least 2. And other plates who want in on the rotation who I can't get to yet.

Anyway, a couple of those other plates have had this weird thing where I called them and left a voicemail. Direct, to the point. A week or several days go by, and I get an apologetic text or Tinder or some other lesser form of contact saying they hope we could plan something soon. Even though I've set up a couple of the dates this week over text and often give addresses over text just for backup, I like being a little charming over the phone and getting them excited for some fun. And I have yet to talk to these women again since I've met them, so I figured a few minutes on the phone is best.

So my response in this situation has been to text:

"Hey, great to hear from you. Hope all is well. Just give me a call back when you get a chance and we can set something up."

Then more silence.

I realize that saying "give me a call back" is kind of calling them out and embarrassing them for not having called back, but seriously - both the woman and I know that I called and that she didn't call me back. What's the point in pretending? A woman or girl who can't pick up the phone and call a man back is kinda weak. And these are women who pursued me originally, which is weird, and I haven't had time to do anything to turn them off (busy studying for and taking the bar exam).

It's not like I don't have enough T & A to keep me busy, but I was just wondering what opinions people had on that approach or how people might modify it.

Also, I probably already know the answer and wouldn't do anything (maybe experiment with one who I really am ambivalent about - what's the difference at this point? lol) and send one more text saying:

"Look, I called you to set up a date. I'd like to see you, but I'm busy and setting up a date is just faster over the phone. You can find time to pick up the phone and call me back, or I'll assume you're not interested and you'll miss out on all the fun."

Thoughts?

 

[Stugots26]

Thanks.

I'm not getting righteous on anyone. I'm simply saying that if they were the initial pursuers and I've done my part, gotten the number, called, and now get a text back a week after I call in which the woman suggests we get together soon, my response has typically been:

"Hey, great to hear from you. Give me a call back when you get a chance."

And then I walk.

Is that calling them out on it? Embarrassing them? Or simply making them work for it? It's not like when I left the initial message I didn't say "give me a call back."

I can't see anything wrong with it but it's been met universally with silence.

 

[_sideways_]

Perhaps they have 49% IL.

But if they pursue you first it might be a losing battle. Or a situation where the reason they pursued you was to get attention or orbiters who idly text her compliment.

It happens...they think theyre behavjng like players, but its just annoying.

If it annoys you like it seems it does then forget about it.

Lifes to short bro. So fvck with their heads.

When they text you back way later, say something like...its all good, i went out on the town and met (some famous comedian).

Instead of being butthurt, you tell them your life is great on your free time. Which it should be. Maybe you dont meet cool people every single time out, but its a slight exaggeration

 

[Stugots26]

One of them actually wound up finally calling me tonight as I was getting ready for another date. If you do play it cool long enough they will finally break down and call you if they are actually interested.