"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I broke up with my 1 year g/f and need help assessing the situation and getting over

resilient

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personal file explained

Bourne said:
What kind of stuff do you write in it? Just few examples.
Example:
Well my first entry was about long distance relationships. I wrote out my thoughts, frustrations, and expectations that I experienced with my last ex trying to see if it would work. I write about events and then my interpretations of how those events occured. This helps me in predicting future actions. As they say experience is the greatest teacher, so remember what you experience to improve your intuition and raw gut instinct.

Insight
You'll look back at it years later and be amazed by what you went through, what you thought, and may still believe. I can't always vent on friends or family, so I try to come to a logical conclusion in my personal file. You can also use NLP to start building your goals and future plans.

Highlight
If you're using Word, use the highlight and bold feature on the sentence you thought was the greatest in the piece you wrote, so it sticks to you. Like a golden nugget of knowledge: wisdom.

Visual/Diagram
If you you're a visual person like me, then try making a diagram of your thoughts or a formula for a process in MS Paint, Photoshop and import the file into Word. I thought of this idea while watching David D's "Deep Inner Game" Example: Game = Confidence + Social Skills/Calibration.

Field Reports
Writing field reports here to discuss your body language, congruence/delivery, and sticking points really come into play here as well for positive change.

And remember, it's a deep conversation with yourself and no one can judge you so let all your thoughts out happy, mad, sad, who cares. It's all you. If you go over the deep end exhausting a subject to death then you can still write the most short and helpful work. IE. Last Minute Resistance tactics, Phone Game, Openers, Negs, C+F. Then afterwards toss out what you don't really want to internalize.

Anyway, you'll probably get more out of reading your own experiences than others, because you actually experienced those approaches.

Have fun!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

Bourne

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resilient said:
Example:
Well my first entry was about long distance relationships. I wrote out my thoughts, frustrations, and expectations that I experienced with my last ex trying to see if it would work. I write about events and then my interpretations of how those events occured. This helps me in predicting future actions. As they say experience is the greatest teacher, so remember what you experience to improve your intuition and raw gut instinct.

Insight
You'll look back at it years later and be amazed by what you went through, what you thought, and may still believe. I can't always vent on friends or family, so I try to come to a logical conclusion in my personal file. You can also use NLP to start building your goals and future plans.

Highlight
If you're using Word, use the highlight and bold feature on the sentence you thought was the greatest in the piece you wrote, so it sticks to you. Like a golden nugget of knowledge: wisdom.

Visual/Diagram
If you you're a visual person like me, then try making a diagram of your thoughts or a formula for a process in MS Paint, Photoshop and import the file into Word. I thought of this idea while watching David D's "Deep Inner Game" Example: Game = Confidence + Social Skills/Calibration.

Field Reports
Writing field reports here to discuss your body language, congruence/delivery, and sticking points really come into play here as well for positive change.

And remember, it's a deep conversation with yourself and no one can judge you so let all your thoughts out happy, mad, sad, who cares. It's all you. If you go over the deep end exhausting a subject to death then you can still write the most short and helpful work. IE. Last Minute Resistance tactics, Phone Game, Openers, Negs, C+F. Then afterwards toss out what you don't really want to internalize.

Anyway, you'll probably get more out of reading your own experiences than others, because you actually experienced those approaches.

Have fun!
Thanks man. That definetly helps.
 
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