"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I bought gifts for two chicks for Christmas and never even got a thank you..
- Thread starter HumbleNinja
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
HumbleNinja
Banned
I'll provide an update tomorrow on how things went down. Wish me luck.
Dhoulmagus
Banned
- Joined
- Sep 11, 2013
- Messages
- 1,695
- Reaction score
- 169
HumbleNinja
Banned
Oh I forgot to mention this two chick story is about my two little nieces. They’re a looong way from getting a job so they can’t possibly buy me anything in return. Both of the men in their lives they see every day are their dads. We’ve all went out to eat together and at times separately when we all see each other. We do laugh, joke and talk. (Sometimes on the phone too but I can barely understand what they are saying sometimes. Obviously as they are little kids.) Neither care about the 24yo chick I brought to my one nieces birthday party this past Saturday as well because they’re little kids, and my nieces. And neither of them thanked me for the gifts I got them for Christmas because they still think Santa is real.
Thanks for reading and the replies to my "beta bucks" uncle Ninjaman field report.
Next time I’ll post a field report about my dog. She’s a female too.
Thanks for the reply Maximus Rex! I was cracking up when you went berserk on me the other day in this thread! Hahahahaha!!
jafyk
Master Don Juan
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.