"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I attracted the wrong girl

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Basically, last week a girl approached me who I somewhat knew because I worked with her before at my job. My workplace is fairly big and this was the first time we actually got a chance to speak to each other. I was kinda on a lunch break and she was visiting.

Anyway, it was just some friendly convo where I used some C & F at exactly the right moments. It seemed like a really short conversation, but it turned out to be like 30minutes. I did not want to seduce this chick in absolutely no way, I just wanted to use some skills that I read about in the DJbible and whatnot, but I guess I fvcked up. She asks for my AIM screen name and and I give it to her(oh well). Under it, i write a message that tells her not to e-stalk me. So I get her s/n too, but I wasn't really plannin on talkin to here because she is..
1. TALL. I'm like 6'2" and this girl is around my height!!
2. i dont wanna say shes fat, but its like 18% bf. avg for chicks is around there, but she has love handles

I make some more C & F remarks to which she playfully hits me on the arm and calls me mean. Whatever, I tell her I gotta get back to work and leave.

Next thing I know(the very same day)..I'm at a party and she shows up. We end up playing beer pong together and I make fun of her because she can't make a single throw. Now...I"m literally wasted of my ass and later on she just starts tickling me for what seems like the rest of the night. I return the kino and wrestle her down to the floor. She was laughin and enjoyin herself and then when I get up..she goes ahead and whacks me in the nose with her purse!! wtf yo.

I probably could have taken her home for a shag, but a number of factors held me back.
1. Virgin
2. No condoms
3. I rate her as a 5-6

For the past week, shes been initiating contact with me and making all these obvious signs of attraction.
1. wanting to constantly meet up
2. wanting to cook for me
3. wanting to sleep over on a "couch" if she comes over for whatever
4. wanting to hang out over the summer since we live close

I havent given direct answers and blew her off a couple of times because I was busy (actually busy).

She still wants to hang out and I told her I'm free on Fri night or Sat.

So..
1. she comes off very needy (I don't blame her b/c I'm a DJ in the making)
2. shes too tall and "big boned" for my taste
3. She might be suitable as a fvck buddy (althogh I have no experience with sex yet).

I have been told that if I want a fvck buddy then I should just out right tell her after we have sex instead of waiting and having her act like a GF.

Thanks for reading, but I need advice on what to do.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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let her be your fvck buddy

I'm in the same situation even though she isn't joking me as bad

this one Hindu girl that I'll rate as a 7.9

but I'm like 5'10" and she's exactly my hight

...and I'm looking for a fvck buddy so...
 

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the girl has to initiate the fb relationship not the guy. If you sleep with her do it no more than three times then blow her off if shes acting like she wants a relationship.
 

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Originally posted by duttylove
the girl has to initiate the fb relationship not the guy. If you sleep with her do it no more than three times then blow her off if shes acting like she wants a relationship.
Interesting way to do it. I think that might actually work

Thanks for the advice guys.
 

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Howdy, now you can observ how did you attracted the wrong girl, and know how attraction works for you and then use it on the right girl.

Just that simple.

Good luck.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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